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To those who said "no way": I know that it is very possible to teach your kids good judgement and, with some good influence, they may choose not to have sex as their own personal choice. However, given that that is frequently not the case,
To those who said "no way": I know that it is very possible to teach your kids good judgement and, with some good influence, they may choose not to have sex as their own personal choice. However, given that that is frequently not the case, suppose you have a good reason to believe that your (real or hypothetical) son/daughter is interested in having sex or already having sex despite your discouragement. Would you reconsider your answer to the OP's question? Would it be better to keep that rule for your house, considering your son/daughter is probably doing it less safely elsewhere anyway- or would it be better to allow it so that it is safer and still convey the message that you would still prefer if they abstain? Maybe these are things you already thought about and your answer is still "no way". If so, please explain!
I have thought about that, and my answer is still no. Why? Well, consider if my teen were smoking cigarettes with friends who also used drugs. Should I let them smoke at home so as to avoid the chance of them getting into drugs? No. I don't approve of smoking, period, so I wouldn't allow it anywhere on my property. I would have a discussion with him or her and let them know the reasons for the rule. I believe it's important for parents to openly communicate with their kids. I also believe in rules and boundaries. If they happen to suffer consequences because of their disobedience...I'm sorry to say, but that's tough luck, it's how life works.
I feel the same way about sex. Call me a prude, but to me sex is an adult act-and 15 or 16 or even 17 isn't an adult. If they feel they're ready at 18, that's a decision they can make for themselves. I still don't know if I would feel comfortable with them getting it on in my house.