The 3 Date Rule. Do you follow it? Do you think it's stupid?

vegan.guy vegan.guy
What does everyone think about the 3 date rule? Do you tend to follow the 3 date rule? Do you think it's an idiotic idea? . . . Do you have no idea what I'm talking about?
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It's Great And I Try To Follow It
It's A Stupid Rule
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Wait, What? 3 Date Rule???
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Total votes: 72
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Envy Envy
I am confused.
02/06/2011
clp clp
Not to fuck until three dates? Or kiss? I guess there may be different ideas of what to wait for.

Definitely depends on the person and chemistry. Also, how long you care for the relationship to last.
02/06/2011
SexyTabby SexyTabby
What makes the 3rd date so special? I would think what's happening on the dates and the companionship between the two would decide anything of importance not how many times you took someone to dinner.
02/06/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
The 3 date rule is basically that if you're planning on continuing a relationship, you have sex on the third date. I happen to think it's extremely stupid, and I completely agree with SexyTabby. I was just curious as to what other people thought since I do know some people that follow this "rule."
02/06/2011
Envy Envy
Ahhh, in that case, it's a person-by-person basis. Some hop in the sack first date, some wait a month or longer, it all depends.
02/06/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
It depends on who it is. If I feel a connection, I might by the third. But anyone who expects and demands something like that is not someone I want to be with. It takes a bit of commitment to even find out if you're serious about someone.
02/06/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I don't like rules that don't make sense to me, personally. So, this one just goes right out the window for me. It's about how I feel about a person and when I'm ready to take things to that level.
02/06/2011
loveshocks loveshocks
I never heard of it until now, hah. What are you not supposed to do until the 3rd date?

I find it weird that there would be a rule about this... it really just depends on how comfortable you would feel, regardless of what you end up doing (or not doing!).
02/06/2011
Yoda Yoda
I think people should be more thoughtful about choosing good sexual partners.
02/06/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I have to fall for your brain before you get anywhere near there with me. But, if other people want to do it, that's their choice. We all move at different paces and value different things though I agree with Yoda- I hope people are thoughtful about their partners before they act.
02/06/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
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Originally posted by loveshocks
I never heard of it until now, hah. What are you not supposed to do until the 3rd date?

I find it weird that there would be a rule about this... it really just depends on how comfortable you would feel, regardless of what you end up doing (or ... More
I don't really know, lol. The rule is that you're supposed to have sex for the first time on the third date. I first heard about it on several sitcoms, but it seems like a good amount of college aged kids follow it (myself NOT included. lol)
02/06/2011
Alura Une Alura Une
I think I know what it is. It seems reasonable for those who tend to go fast, gives them a little time to think about things. But rules like that, who really follows them? I don't really see a need to count days. I think one should do things when the time seems right. Of course...
02/06/2011
AlexaFish AlexaFish
Uh...I didn't follow it with my husband and...well. I got the guy. I think you just go by how you feel. I wanted to jump him so I did. End of story. I have broken that rule with other guys and they naturally didn't work out but I have no regrets...I did what I wanted and had fun..and in the end I ended up with the perfect guy anyway.
02/06/2011
Alys Alys
Honestly, it all depends on the person and the situation. Having rules seems silly.
02/06/2011
tigerkate tigerkate
Rules are just ridiculous. It's all dependent on the individual.
For me, I broke it many times by 2-dates or breaking it by waiting over 5, sometimes up to 8 dates.
02/06/2011
DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO DONOTSHOPHERETHEOWNERISPSYCHO
After reading an explanation of what it is, I followed the 3 date rule. At least if it was with a guy I was really interested in. I've learned the hard way, more than once, that relationships that get sexual too early have nothing left to fall back on once the sex fizzles out. When you get sexual too soon, you don't spend a whole lot of time talking when you spend time together.
02/06/2011
markeagleone markeagleone
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
What does everyone think about the 3 date rule? Do you tend to follow the 3 date rule? Do you think it's an idiotic idea? . . . Do you have no idea what I'm talking about?
Never heard of such a thing.
02/06/2011
BluePixi BluePixi
I have heard of a "Three date rule" but I can't figure out if its supposedly don't have sex until the third date or if sex is expected on the third date, either one seems pretty stupid to me.
02/06/2011
Naughty Student Naughty Student
I have heard of the 3 days rule, where you dont call back before 3 days. I guess I'm sort of ok with that one of you are just starting off dating and are not sure what to be doing.

I dont think I agree with the 3 dates rule, I find it a little weird. I have a friend with which we were discussing dating and sex and she told me that according to her assessment within her circle of friends and what she has gathered, you have to have sex with the guy on the first night or else you're screwed...REALLY! I don't know?! Its so crazy for me to hear all this stuff.

As long as you are comfortable in what you are doing, you're respecting yourself, then I say go for it.
02/06/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I waited till marriage for religious reasons, not sure what answer i'd fit in
02/07/2011
Harlot O Harlot O
I've never really 'dated' people. So for me it's anything from 'Hi. I'm Harlot, let's fuck.' to being friends/acquaintances for an indeterminate length of time and then 'let's fuck'.
02/07/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I don't wait for any set amount of time. I do what I want, when I want!
02/07/2011
Vaccinium Vaccinium
A couple should have sex when they are ready, and not before. If each is heading into the first date with the intentions of having sex after the first date, then so be it. If each wants to wait until marriage, that's fine too. Anything in between is fine as well. The third date is just a third date, and nothing else.
02/07/2011
potstickers potstickers
I'm glad I never had to worry about that. Sounds like a lot of stress over worrying whether or not the other person wanted sex or didn't want sex.
02/07/2011
Airekah Airekah
Quote:
Originally posted by vegan.guy
The 3 date rule is basically that if you're planning on continuing a relationship, you have sex on the third date. I happen to think it's extremely stupid, and I completely agree with SexyTabby. I was just curious as to what other people ... More
Wow, yeah this is kind of a stupid rule, you should commit to someone when you feel like it is the right time.. not by the third date.. or 50th date or 180th date.
02/07/2011
I Wear The Pants I Wear The Pants
I believe there should not be a specific number to dates for when you have sex but how you feel. Are you comfortable having sex with this person? If there is any hesitation then the answer is no.
02/07/2011
rdytogo rdytogo
Stupid rule! There shouldn't be any number set on something like this as it is more of a feel thing about when it works in that relationship. Some it could be 3 days or others could be 3 months.
02/07/2011
zeebot zeebot
Rules like that are just stupid. This is why I hate Cosmo, you can't make general rules like this, everyone is different!
02/08/2011
vegan.guy vegan.guy
Quote:
Originally posted by zeebot
Rules like that are just stupid. This is why I hate Cosmo, you can't make general rules like this, everyone is different!
Yeah, that's true. And while I don't know anything about Cosmo, I certainly think that the sex and dating advice that mens health gives is total bull.
02/08/2011
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