The forum and learning...a question and a thank you to all the EF women who respond in the forum!

Martiniman Martiniman
I love this forum for many reasons, and one is how much I've learnt about women and sex. It has truly helped give me a better understanding and perspective about women and what they like, dislike, want and don't want when it comes to sex. This has been invaluable and has honestly helped me to better understand my wife and her sexuality, as we are two different people when it comes to our sexual personalities.

To all those beautiful EF women who answer the "sex" questions honestly and with passion...thank you so much. What you have to say is heard and found very valuable!

My question...beside toy knowledge, has anyone else really learnt anything when it comes to sex by reading other people's, especially the women's responses to sexual based questions?
01/05/2013
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Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by Martiniman
I love this forum for many reasons, and one is how much I've learnt about women and sex. It has truly helped give me a better understanding and perspective about women and what they like, dislike, want and don't want when it comes to sex. ... More
I think I've actually learned to embrace my own sexuality more fully and without apology since I've been here. I'd honestly love to see more active male members of the forum, no matter what their sexual preference, because when I seek to understand myself more fully, I seek to see the "other side" also, and how I relate to it, as a woman.

What I've learned also doesn't exclude folks who identify as gender queer, pansexual, lesbian, whatever else. I've been actively involved in and interested in LGBT issues since I was younger, and have had friends from across the sexual spectrum since high school, but the variety that you get here at Eden has been really enlightening and helpful in just understanding human sexuality for me. I am more active in conversations about a male/female heterosexual dynamics because that's where I am, sexually speaking, and it's something for me to consider and relate to that applies to my life, but that doesn't make other conversations less valuable in a different sense for me. I always appreciate it when people are honest and non-hostile when discussing things, but what people are touchy about can also give you some insight to where other people are coming from, because sexuality is a touchy and personal subject.

But I've loved being able to come here and talk about the recent developments in my sexuality with likeminded people, especially when it comes to BDSM, kink, and being happily submissive in the bedroom. It's wonderful to know that I'm not alone, I'm not a "freak" (in the negative context of the word), and that it's healthy to be myself...and I am, and I'm more comfortable with it than ever.

Next week, I'm off to live abroad for the next five months, and will be reunited with my long distance SO. Last we left off, we were just discovering so much about out kinkiness and how we relate to each other through that expression of intimacy, and I came to Eden to learn more, understand more, and to stock up on stuff to make our fantasies realities, and to further explore this bond we have with each other. It's been liberating and invigorating, and I can't wait to go further. I feel very satisfied and happy with how these aspects of myself have evolved on Eden.

It might sound cheesy to say, "well, I finally got those under the bed restraints, so I can get tied up without bedposts on the bed!" but really, it's more than that for me. These things have allowed me to push further and experiment further with who I am, and finally, finally, with a man I trust. I'm more sexually confident, and it feels great. And believe me, he's aware of all I've done here to make that happen for us, and is just as stoked as I am. It's more than just having a sex toy; it's about deepening the intimacy we have and exploring ourselves in the process. I'm happy that I've found Eden...and I'll be around for a long time to come.
01/05/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
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Originally posted by Supervixen
I think I've actually learned to embrace my own sexuality more fully and without apology since I've been here. I'd honestly love to see more active male members of the forum, no matter what their sexual preference, because when I seek to ... More
Very eloquent words Supervixen, and many things you said, I share those same feelings. I wish you much happiness and great joy over the next 5 months. I'm wishing you a very pink bottom to go along with the big smile I'm sure you will have.
01/05/2013
Supervixen Supervixen
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Originally posted by Martiniman
Very eloquent words Supervixen, and many things you said, I share those same feelings. I wish you much happiness and great joy over the next 5 months. I'm wishing you a very pink bottom to go along with the big smile I'm sure you will have.
Thanks. Nothing better than a pink (or red...)bottom and a smile.
01/06/2013
phoenixfire phoenixfire
I find I am growing more accepting of my sexual self, like Supervixen. And, to be frank, I am learning just how many options there are under the "other" category (if there was a sexual form out in the world) that I never even imagined before. I find the process of self-discovery and education about others freeing. I am a lot happier with myself now that I have embraced some of my own kink rather than fighting it.

Also, I very very rarely bought sex toys before I came to Eden. It always seemed like a waste of money, because I had no way of knowing whether or not what I was buying would suit me or last. I had no knowledge whatsoever about different materials and how to care for them safely. I didn't know any of the sex toy manufacturers on this site existed, with the exception of Doc Johnson.

In other words, I was pretty much a sex toy virgin. Eden helps me be a lot more confident about my purchases. I feel much more free to experiment with things outside my comfort zone. I adore this site, and I'll be around a long time, I hope.
01/06/2013
fronz fronz
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
I love this forum for many reasons, and one is how much I've learnt about women and sex. It has truly helped give me a better understanding and perspective about women and what they like, dislike, want and don't want when it comes to sex. ... More
I agree 100% its refreshing to get unfiltered response. I have learned
a lot about women and myself in this forum.
01/06/2013
SneakersAndPearls SneakersAndPearls
There is so much I've learned since coming here. For one, that being a bit kinky is nothing odd. And I love coming here and be ale to ask specific sex questions without judgment. Being able to ask other women sex questions without hearing, "Ewww, sex!" is priceless.
01/06/2013
MrWill MrWill
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Originally posted by Supervixen
I think I've actually learned to embrace my own sexuality more fully and without apology since I've been here. I'd honestly love to see more active male members of the forum, no matter what their sexual preference, because when I seek to ... More
I try to offer my opinion or feelings on anything that is asked, and I love trying new toys for a male perspective on things.


01/06/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I was glad to unlearn everything I had ever known about relationships and the sex in them, as my only experiences at the time I joined was a couple of FWB's with friends from high school and a celibate marriage where I was blamed for it being that way because I was the one who "got worked up about a genital sneeze". And a general "You're too fat and ugly for anyone to want", which is what led to me marrying the first guy that expressed any interest in me.

I am not to be blamed for others' sexual hang-ups. I learned that my abnormalities (according to teenage boys who are impatient and lazy) is normal for me, and that others also experience it as normal for them. I deserve to be desired and loved and fucked, and it's happened because of getting rid of what wasn't working and embracing a more positive attitude about sex and relationships.

So, I think learning from other women that I'm not a freak for the way I am, and that I am worthy of having a sexuality, is a gift from EF that I really appreciate.
01/08/2013
KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
I agree with the above statement. since EF ive explored my sexuality with my partner and learned that im not bizarre. now i embrace my kink
01/10/2013
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