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I love this forum for many reasons, and one is how much I've learnt about women and sex. It has truly helped give me a better understanding and perspective about women and what they like, dislike, want and don't want when it comes to sex.
I love this forum for many reasons, and one is how much I've learnt about women and sex. It has truly helped give me a better understanding and perspective about women and what they like, dislike, want and don't want when it comes to sex. This has been invaluable and has honestly helped me to better understand my wife and her sexuality, as we are two different people when it comes to our sexual personalities.
To all those beautiful EF women who answer the "sex" questions honestly and with passion...thank you so much. What you have to say is heard and found very valuable!
My question...beside toy knowledge, has anyone else really learnt anything when it comes to sex by reading other people's, especially the women's responses to sexual based questions?
I think I've actually learned to embrace my own sexuality more fully and without apology since I've been here. I'd honestly love to see more active male members of the forum, no matter what their sexual preference, because when I seek to understand myself more fully, I seek to see the "other side" also, and how I relate to it, as a woman.
What I've learned also doesn't exclude folks who identify as gender queer, pansexual, lesbian, whatever else. I've been actively involved in and interested in LGBT issues since I was younger, and have had friends from across the sexual spectrum since high school, but the variety that you get here at Eden has been really enlightening and helpful in just understanding human sexuality for me. I am more active in conversations about a male/female heterosexual dynamics because that's where I am, sexually speaking, and it's something for me to consider and relate to that applies to my life, but that doesn't make other conversations less valuable in a different sense for me. I always appreciate it when people are honest and non-hostile when discussing things, but what people are touchy about can also give you some insight to where other people are coming from, because sexuality is a touchy and personal subject.
But I've loved being able to come here and talk about the recent developments in my sexuality with likeminded people, especially when it comes to BDSM, kink, and being happily submissive in the bedroom. It's wonderful to know that I'm not alone, I'm not a "freak" (in the negative context of the word), and that it's healthy to be myself...and I am, and I'm more comfortable with it than ever.
Next week, I'm off to live abroad for the next five months, and will be reunited with my long distance SO. Last we left off, we were just discovering so much about out kinkiness and how we relate to each other through that expression of intimacy, and I came to Eden to learn more, understand more, and to stock up on stuff to make our fantasies realities, and to further explore this bond we have with each other. It's been liberating and invigorating, and I can't wait to go further. I feel very satisfied and happy with how these aspects of myself have evolved on Eden.
It might sound cheesy to say, "well, I finally got those under the bed restraints, so I can get tied up without bedposts on the bed!" but really, it's more than that for me. These things have allowed me to push further and experiment further with who I am, and finally, finally, with a man I trust. I'm more sexually confident, and it feels great. And believe me, he's aware of all I've done here to make that happen for us, and is just as stoked as I am. It's more than just having a sex toy; it's about deepening the intimacy we have and exploring ourselves in the process. I'm happy that I've found Eden...and I'll be around for a long time to come.