To what degree was it easy/difficult for you/your female partner to begin orgasm during intercourse (For the first time)? Was it necessary for the aid of a toy?

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To what degree was it easy/difficult for you/your female partner to begin orgasm during intercourse (For the first time)? Was it necessary for the aid of a toy?

Powder Powder
My partner and I have a wonderful sex life, but I have yet to bring her to climax through intercourse. I am able to get her there through oral, but not with fingers alone, so I know she does not have difficulty reaching climax. We also just purchased some vibrators to try to aid in this mission. Does anyone have any suggestions?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I orgasmed during intercourse very easily
Eva Schwaltz , Ansley , ToyTimeTim
3
It took me a short time to begin orgasming during intercourse
Ryuson , CSEA , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Miss Nessa , darthkitt3n
5
I had to work at orgasming during intercourse
Gunsmoke , JessCee , DCorrelle , haley730 , DeliciousSurprise , Hallmar82
6
I have not orgasmed during intercourse
Rain. , Dusk , newfoundlust
3
I did not need the aid of a toy or hands for clitoral stimulation
Ryuson , darthkitt3n
2
I did not need a toy, but I did need the assistance of hand stimulation
DCorrelle
1
I needed the help of a toy to begin orgasming during intercourse
DeliciousSurprise , Hallmar82
2
Since I began orgasming, it has become easier to achieve
Gunsmoke , Ryuson , CSEA , A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) , Rozzie
5
Since I began orgasming, it has not gotten easier or harder or achieve
JessCee , DeliciousSurprise , darthkitt3n , Hallmar82
4
Since I began orgasming, it has become harder to achieve
Total votes: 31 (18 voters)
Poll is closed
07/18/2011
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married with children married with children
I believe that most women have a hard time reaching climax during intercourse alone, and need extra stimulation.

I always give her as many orgasms as she wants before we get into the intercourse. But if you are looking to make her climax during intercourse, you can use some bullets on her clit.
07/18/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I also usually bring my wife to orgasm before starting intercourse. However when she's up for a quickie - she'll hop on top in the cowgirl position. From there she can position my shaft in just the right spot and grind her clit on my pubic bone and have an orgasm without toys or manual stimulation. This didn't work for us until we both started shaving - the skin-on-skin works but hair-on-hair did not.
07/18/2011
Rain. Rain.
Its something I'm still working on.
07/18/2011
JessCee JessCee
I absolutely cannot have an orgasm without clit stimulation... it doesn't really bother me though
07/18/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I think it all depends on how you are built. I've always orgasmed very easily from intercourse, but some people never will. Good luck and take it easy.
07/18/2011
CSEA CSEA
Quote:
Originally posted by Powder
My partner and I have a wonderful sex life, but I have yet to bring her to climax through intercourse. I am able to get her there through oral, but not with fingers alone, so I know she does not have difficulty reaching climax. We also just purchased ...
Once I got an orgasm, which didnt occur at the beginning of my sex life, it became much easier. My boyfriend now first gave me an orgasm. Now, when he places his finger against the top of the inside of my vagina, I can almost squirt in seconds.
07/18/2011
newfoundlust newfoundlust
Quote:
Originally posted by Powder
My partner and I have a wonderful sex life, but I have yet to bring her to climax through intercourse. I am able to get her there through oral, but not with fingers alone, so I know she does not have difficulty reaching climax. We also just purchased ...
We need a toy for Mrs. Lust to orgasm, intercourse alone will not get her there. Many women are that way.
07/18/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I expected it to be much more difficult than it turned out to be for me. Actually, I started orgasming after about a month into my sex life. I did not expect this, I was not trying to make myself orgasm, it just happened. Probably, if I tried harder I wouldn't be able to do it. And after that it was easier.
07/19/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Powder
My partner and I have a wonderful sex life, but I have yet to bring her to climax through intercourse. I am able to get her there through oral, but not with fingers alone, so I know she does not have difficulty reaching climax. We also just purchased ...
Kind of hard to answer the poll. MOST women do not orgasm during intercourse, so your woman isn't out of the ordinary.

I've been having sex for many years, more than 20. I rarely have a spontaneous orgasm during intercourse, unless first I've had at least one or two clitoral orgasms from oral sex PLUS a vibrator. I used to be able to orgasm from oral sex alone, but perimenopause cause that to be really difficult.

A few times, when I was younger, (long before I started using sex toys) I could orgasm during intercourse, if I played with my clit, but it wasn't all that common and neither My Man (nor any other guy) nor myself cared enough to try that hard for it.

Most women have orgasms from oral sex, manual stimulation, G Spot stimulation, vibration etc. I think the average is only about 12% of women regularly have spontaneous orgasms during PIV intercourse.

It shouldn't be a goal. Most women are happy to orgasm by any means necessary, what ever works for them, and don't really want the pressure to come in a proscribed way.

My Man and I usually do what it takes to get me to orgasm, usually several times before we even start PIV sex. If I come again, it's great. If not, it isn't a goal of ours, so it isn't a big deal. I've usually already had some orgasms by the time we start PIV, so we're both pleased when I come any way I can get one.
07/19/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
After the first couple of times we had sex I asked her if she had ever had an orgasm before, she told me no. So the next time we got together I had her get on top and just talked her through it. It took about an hour or so before she got the feel of things. Since then they come fairly easy for her. Giving her a clitoral O took longer for me to master. I should mention that she had never masturbated before she met me so that may be part of it.
07/19/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
short time
07/19/2011
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I voted for my wife. It took us about a year after we were married to get it and it hasn't gotten easier.
07/19/2011
Total posts: 13
Unique posters: 13