Too much foreplay?

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Too much foreplay?

ViVix ViVix
So, with my current bf, I feel like sex lasts a good amount of time, but foreplay lasts FOREVER. I'm not exaggerating when I say at least an hour. Is there such a thing as too much foreplay?
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Yes. Foreplay can last too long. Let's get it on already!
- Kira - , spunkmonkey , Ghost , funluvinmama , RomanticGoth , slynch , eroticmutt , Bignuf , underHim , Rahel , leelee , Masokisti , Calla , sweetpea12 , potstickers , Cora Jane
16  (33%)
No. I can't get enough foreplay!
Badass , Bsquared , dhig , Beck , FruityCloudPuff , llellsee , Princess-Kayla ♥ , Howells , Rawr4483 , Rossie , SJ88 , BiJess , mistressg , jeangel246 , angel142stx , DiamondKoala , wetone123 , padmeamidala , Sinfully , Sohotdinosaur , mpfm , Deeder , sexystuffeve , melissa1973 , Pi , joja , gloomybear , hotcherry
28  (57%)
Other. Explain.
P'Gell , Gunsmoke , Lover of Leather , Positwist , duff
5  (10%)
Total votes: 49
Poll is closed
03/17/2012
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Badass Badass
Those who don't get enough, want more. And those who have too much want less.

There is no pleasing us women.
03/17/2012
dhig dhig
as a male, i love foreplay
03/17/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I don't use the word "foreplay." It implies that stimulating the female's needs is secondary to the "Big Event" (evidently that is Penis in vagina sex.)

I've outlined the way we (and many other people) have sex before. We go back and forth between oral sex, toy play, touching, more oral sex, more PIV, rubbing, teasing, more oral sex, (usually some orgasms for me, then) more PIV, more oral, more PIV and maybe some anal. For instance this morning, I was taking a long time to come. "Sex" wasn't over as soon as he came. We then had more oral sex, then some more toy play and some anal play and more oral play with toys, and finally I came.

The word "foreplay" seems to me to imply that it is humoring the woman (assuming you're talking about a hetero relationship) until they get down to PIV.

We do anything and everything in any order, and then go back and do more of things we already did. So, it's common, usual in fact, for oral sex to follow PIV and orgasm for either or both of us. The whole thing, from the first touch or the first look is "sex." Nothing is "before" or "after" as HIS orgasm isn't the foremost thing in our sex play and sex doesn't necessarily end as soon as he comes. It ends when we're either both exhausted or chaffed. Orgasms happen at any time during the act.

So, I can't really answer the question.
03/17/2012
Beck Beck
I love when foreplay last a long time. I like to do foreplay, then have sex, and then go back to foreplay, but finish with sex.
03/17/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
I mean, if foreplay was several hours long, yes, but a reasonable "extended" foreplay, is never a problem for me. The more worked up we are, the better the sex. :]
03/17/2012
llellsee llellsee
Can't get enough foreplay here
03/17/2012
spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
Sometimes you can spend too much time on foreplay.
03/17/2012
Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
No. I want more!
03/17/2012
funluvinmama funluvinmama
I think there is too much foreplay. I prefer a little play and then lots of sex.
03/17/2012
Rossie Rossie
I love lots of foreplay, but I'll let my husband know when I'm ready for the actual thing.
03/17/2012
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
My guy is bigger on foreplay then I am. He could eat me for hours if I let him! But... I like more sex then foreplay.
03/17/2012
mistressg mistressg
I can't get enough!
03/17/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
For me I love long foreplay - enough so that my wife will often tell to 'move on'.
03/17/2012
Lover of Leather Lover of Leather
Our foreplay sessions last different amounts of time. It depends on our mood, how much wine we have had, and whether it's a full moon or a new moon, ha! We just have a feel for when it's time for something else.
03/17/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
There's never too much.
03/17/2012
DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
I always like the foreplay. No issue with it.
03/18/2012
Positwist Positwist
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
My Man and I don't use the word "foreplay." It implies that stimulating the female's needs is secondary to the "Big Event" (evidently that is Penis in vagina sex.)

I've outlined the way we (and many other ...
Yes! Exactly this. I don't privilege PIV sex as the main event, and sometimes PIV sex is "foreplay" for oral or for manual play. The "main event" is everything from the first touch to the last, in my book.

So yeah, I'm with P'Gell. I can't really answer this.
03/18/2012
padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
So, with my current bf, I feel like sex lasts a good amount of time, but foreplay lasts FOREVER. I'm not exaggerating when I say at least an hour. Is there such a thing as too much foreplay?
I love foreplay!
03/18/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
So, with my current bf, I feel like sex lasts a good amount of time, but foreplay lasts FOREVER. I'm not exaggerating when I say at least an hour. Is there such a thing as too much foreplay?
Depends on my mood, and MOSTLY if we have "other things to do". Lazy day, when we can stay in bed and play...heck, GO for an hour "big boy". Other times, if it is a quicky, FORGET the "foreplay".. .pick a hole (I'm proudly a "three holes, no waiting" gal...five if you count a boob or hand job!!!) and GO FOR IT. I am going to Cum either way, and so let's just make it happen!!!!
03/18/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
Never too much in my opinion.
03/18/2012
underHim underHim
Sometimes I know we do not have as much time as I would like to have, so foreplay needs to be cut short to make sure we have time to "finish"
03/18/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Positwist
Yes! Exactly this. I don't privilege PIV sex as the main event, and sometimes PIV sex is "foreplay" for oral or for manual play. The "main event" is everything from the first touch to the last, in my book.

So yeah, ...
Thank you. I don't understand trying to differentiate between "foreplay" and "sex." Isn't all sexual play "sex?" And is for some people "sex" only PIV?

I don't get this kind of paternalistic type thinking. If you and someone else are touching your or someone's elses sexual organs and you're enjoying it, it's "sex"!
03/18/2012
Rahel Rahel
Eventually I or my partner get too worked up to continue with foreplay, I think...
03/18/2012
leelee leelee
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
So, with my current bf, I feel like sex lasts a good amount of time, but foreplay lasts FOREVER. I'm not exaggerating when I say at least an hour. Is there such a thing as too much foreplay?
Yep to much foreplay and I'm done and don't want sex
03/18/2012
sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
I've never complained about getting to much foreplay, but sometimes I do "just want it now", but usually I have to beg him for some foreplay.
03/19/2012
gloomybear gloomybear
never!!!!!!
03/27/2012
duff duff
Im not sure....when I can no longer play we stop n start the love makin
03/27/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
So, with my current bf, I feel like sex lasts a good amount of time, but foreplay lasts FOREVER. I'm not exaggerating when I say at least an hour. Is there such a thing as too much foreplay?
I love foreplay and the warm up period, but I usually can only take like 30 minutes of foreplay before becoming really impatient
05/12/2012
hotcherry hotcherry
I love foreplay but sometimes it can be to much.
07/08/2012
Total posts: 30
Unique posters: 29