In your view, does the word "slut" have good or bad connotations?

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In your view, does the word "slut" have good or bad connotations?

vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
If you had asked me this question a year ago, I would have said bad. Now I take a more third-wave feminist perspective to my sexuality. I enjoy the idea of being a slut within a relationship, and I believe that it implies an open and kinky sexuality. What do you think, and why?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
It has good connotations for me.
vanilla&chocolate , Ansley , Antipova , PleasurableThings , P'Gell , Bodhi , Sieglinde
7  (13%)
It has bad connotations for me.
pasdechat , Zombirella , Gracie , Mistress Sassy , ghalik , Geogeo , spunkmonkey , nanamondoute , MissBre , married with children , FriskyInFlorida , TdotY , Mrs. Tickle and Giggle , jennifur77 , woodsdragon , Greenleaf , Leather & Lace , PropertyOfPotter , Noelle
19  (35%)
It's a mix.
GONE! , noname3 , toxie m , padmeamidala , Kaleb , wwwww , Passion plum , eggiweg , Do emu , All His , britanny0620 , DeliciousSurprise , ellejay , treefrog88 , elli , Master DarkWolf , DreamWolf , Peggi , meezerosity , Rey , gsfanatic , quackbuster , Bex1331 , potstickers , thisisadeletedaccount , Falsepast , joelb42 , sjclayton2912
28  (51%)
I've never really thought about this/undecided
Other.
Zandrock
1  (2%)
Total votes: 55
Poll is closed
05/28/2012
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GONE! GONE!
I think as a reclaimed word, it's good but to most of society it still has bad connotations.
05/28/2012
pasdechat pasdechat
To clarify: it's not that I think it's "bad" to be a "slut"--i.e. a woman who likes sex. It's just that I think the word's negative connotations are too pervasive for it to ever really be "reclaimed."
05/28/2012
Kaleb Kaleb
It should only be used with consent.
05/28/2012
Kaleb Kaleb
Also, as a male sub, I like being called a slut.
05/28/2012
wwwww wwwww
It has a lot of negativity attached to it but I don't think the word slut itself is bad.
05/28/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I find it offensive. And I only use it in that way for a man or woman that sleeps around. I don't want to be called one.
05/28/2012
Passion plum Passion plum
I agree with you in a relationship but for a third party to say it or imply it I think it has a totaly different meaning and don't like it.
05/28/2012
Gracie Gracie
If someone called me a slut my feelings would be hurt.
05/28/2012
Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by GONE!
I think as a reclaimed word, it's good but to most of society it still has bad connotations.
I agree. Only recently has it become a reclaimed word for me, but I react to it much differently than I used to.
05/28/2012
All His All His
I think it all depends on the situation and who is saying it. If the hubby and i are together and he says it im ok with it even turned on because im HIS slut. But if someone were to just say it to me id be pissed off and offended
05/28/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I can't really see someone using the word slut and meaning it in a positive way, like how player could have both connotations attached.
05/28/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
It stands for a type of female, so it can both be used in the good and the bad way. I never minded them, it just means that you are with whoever you want to be. As long as you don't cause trouble with it, then it's annoying.
05/28/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
It stands for a type of female, so it can both be used in the good and the bad way. I never minded them, it just means that you are with whoever you want to be. As long as you don't cause trouble with it, then it's annoying.
Exactly, as long as you don't cheat on someone who cherishes you and you love him the same, and similar stuff, it isn't a problem then... ^^
05/28/2012
FriskyInFlorida FriskyInFlorida
Bad
05/31/2012
TdotY TdotY
I hate that word. I have a boyfriend who loved calling me a slut anytime he got upset with me.
05/31/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
I wouldn't want to be called a slut except in the context of play with my hubby.
05/31/2012
Antipova Antipova
I call myself a slut happily and proudly (among company I trust, at least!)

I do acknowledge that other people use it as an insult, and, well, I don't hang out with people like that, because they hurt my feelings.
05/31/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Depends on the context.
06/02/2012
jennifur77 jennifur77
Quote:
Originally posted by vanilla&chocolate
If you had asked me this question a year ago, I would have said bad. Now I take a more third-wave feminist perspective to my sexuality. I enjoy the idea of being a slut within a relationship, and I believe that it implies an open and kinky sexuality. ...
Definately bad and I wouldn't want to be called that!
06/04/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man uses it as a term of endearment. He says things like, "Thank you SO much for being my little slut! I love you so much!" He can use the word, but I wouldn't appreciate anyone else using it, as they probably wouldn't mean it the way he does. (Seeing as I don't sleep with anyone else, it's none of their business, and most people consider it an insult.)

I also like the idea of reclaiming it for ourselves, if we want to.
06/04/2012
Greenleaf Greenleaf
The only real positive connotation is if people want to reclaim the word for themselves. That's fine and I'm glad they're doing it, but it's not for me.
06/04/2012
PleasurableThings PleasurableThings
We see the term as a positive thing for both/any genders, in the sense where it means "sex-loving". My husband has a shirt that says "Slut" (it's a UK clothing brand) across his shoulder, and has a lot of fun wearing it out to nightclubs! Also we registered the url discerningslut.ca.

Like promiscuity, slutiness is bad if you use it for bad (e.g. cheating) and good if you use it for good (lots of lovely sex).
06/04/2012
Rey Rey
of course it depends on the intent of its use. But in general, i think of it as an 'empowering' word!
06/05/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Depends a lot on how it's being used. For me, it's closer to an ambiguous word. Of course, I don't get why someone of any gender enjoying sex is a bad thing, but ehh
06/05/2012
quackbuster quackbuster
I think it definitely depends on the context.
06/05/2012
Bodhi Bodhi
Depends on the person, and who's saying it.

For instance, when I refer to myself as a slut, it's good. If my partner, refers to me as a slut with my consent it's good.

However, if people are using it as a degrading insult to someone who doesn't want it, it's bad.
06/05/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
It's bad in all the right ways, if that makes any sense.

I don't think I'd like it as much if it wasn't a "bad" term, but I've reclaimed it (as have much of the feminine community) and it's actually one of my favorite words now.
06/05/2012
Sieglinde Sieglinde
I define the word "slut" strictly as "someone who enjoys sex and has sex frequently". Nothing to do with cheating, number of partners*, et cetera.

With that in mind, I openly call myself a slut. I'm proud of my sexuality in every way, including how often I have sex and how much I enjoy it. I don't consider the word "slut" an insult, be it to me or to anyone else.

Of course, in society "slut" is still a bad word, both because the idea of a sexually active woman scares the hell out of so many people and because so many people also include things relevant to cheating and such. But screw that.

* = I have no issue with multiple partners, casual sex, et cetera so long as every party involved is cool with it. It just isn't necessary in my definition of the word slut.
08/05/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I wouldn't say it to anyone in the street randomly because it still has serious negative connotations for many, but I've used it as a compliment towards friends who understood my intent, and I use it as part of dirty talk within my sex life.
08/08/2012
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