What are the biggest differences between fucking and making love? Which do you prefer?

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What are the biggest differences between fucking and making love? Which do you prefer?

Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure 03/01/2012

Personally making love is awsum if u are in love but I wanna be fucked lol.

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Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
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PolyLove PolyLove
I want to vote on this... but it really all just depends on my mood.
03/01/2012
EdenJP EdenJP
Making love
03/01/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
I think that even if you ARE in love, sometimes a good hard romp in the sack just for the fun of it and because you can is still just as good! You can definitely have both
03/01/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by MamaDivine
I think that even if you ARE in love, sometimes a good hard romp in the sack just for the fun of it and because you can is still just as good! You can definitely have both
However, to add to this....If my husband ever called it "fucking" or " i want to fuck you" id probably smack him and say get over himself LOL.
03/01/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
Fucking
03/01/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
deff being fucked for sure maken love is sweet and good but being fucked in a sence is just as loving
03/01/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
People will probably roll theirs eyes at my answer but when I'm in a relationship with someone I want to make love OR have sex. To me, saying you're fucking me or fucked me makes me feel dirty and I just feel it's disrespectful. Fucking to me is what happens with sluts(men and women in that word). That's just how I feel about that word, in no way do I mean to offend anyone here that likes to use that word to describe it and I'm not saying you're a slut if you do. (if that makes sense?).
03/02/2012
Djiffy Djiffy
I think of fucking as a more carnal and less touchy-feely-emotional ly-attached activity. Much more fun, too!
03/02/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I like both. But being fucked might be just a little better.
03/02/2012
All His All His
i want to vote but the hubby and i like both, it depends on the mood
03/02/2012
AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
doesnt matter to me
03/02/2012
indiglo indiglo
We do both also, depending on mood... each has its value and its place.
03/02/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
It really depends!
03/02/2012
Ansley Ansley
No matter how hard or soft we play, what things you say or what you wear or the toys you play with in the session, it's all "making love" because we love the one we're with.
03/02/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
There is a fine line. You can have both in the same session. You can have both at the same time.
03/02/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
There should be a other option, it depends on my mood.
03/02/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
I do love it when my man says, "Hey, wanna fuck?" It gets me going. I think using the term "Make love" sounds creepy sometimes. I use the word "fuck" entirely too much, especially during sex. He doesn't seem to mind at all, it turns him on.
03/02/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
It's all the same to me when I'm in love. Just because it's a little rough with not a lot of foreplay or romance doesn't mean there's no love behind it
03/02/2012
funluvinmama funluvinmama
i get fucked all the time. i want the slow romantic, take your time love making.
03/02/2012
LusciousLollypop LusciousLollypop
It is both. You can have both in the same session. Fucking can be making love. Making love can be fucking. I see fucking as more of a less-emotional kind of thing and love making very emotional. But no matter what it is.. it can still happen in the same session and i prefer it that way. If I love my man and we are "fucking" then it is still fucking AND making love. No matter what situation.

xoxo
03/02/2012
Kitka Kitka
I like both but I hate calling it making love, just sounds stupid to me.
03/02/2012
freda freda
Quote:
Originally posted by MamaDivine
I think that even if you ARE in love, sometimes a good hard romp in the sack just for the fun of it and because you can is still just as good! You can definitely have both
agree
03/02/2012
HugsAndBites HugsAndBites
i think there is a difference and i enjoy both
03/02/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
I'm going to say I prefer making love because I don't get it often. I mostly get fucked, which is nice, too.
03/02/2012
winterseve winterseve
I agree. It depends on my mood. Making love is great but sometimes ya just gotta fuck.
03/02/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I prefer the word having sex instead of the other. I love having sex with the one I'm in love with if that makes sense. Doesn't mean we're sweet, emotional, gentle about it.
03/03/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I prefer the word having sex instead of the other. I love having sex with the one I'm in love with if that makes sense. Doesn't mean we're sweet, emotional, gentle about it.
03/03/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
When someone takes my money and does not do the job I want. I am FUCKED. When someone steals data from my computer, I am FUCKED.

When I am with my husband and we are being intimate, we are MAKING LOVE.

He can pound the heck out of me, six ways to Sunday. He can pound me vaginally or turn me upside down and do me anally. He can be sweet and gentle or hard and nasty....but we are STILL "making love". He LOVES ME and I LOVE HIM and everything we do is out of LOVE.

The WORLD has a habit of FUCKING me over. My hubby NEVER will.
03/03/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kitka
I like both but I hate calling it making love, just sounds stupid to me.
Interesting how we all have such different takes. I would NEVER use the term FUCKED for MAKING LOVE (which IS what we proudly call it...no matter what we are doing).
03/03/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by HugsAndBites
i think there is a difference and i enjoy both
There IS a difference, indeed. I for one do NOT like anyone who tries to FUCK with me. I LOVE the man I make love to. Hard or soft, sometimes nasty and rough...either way, we LOVE making LOVE. Which IS what it is. FUCKED is what I get from folks trying to rip me off.
03/03/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
Both
03/11/2012
CindyH CindyH
make love
03/11/2012
butterflygirlxo butterflygirlxo
makeing love
03/11/2012
clp clp
The difference is in attitude. I don't 'make love', even as I am in love. Sex is carnal and wild and passionate, and the waters can rise from slow and easy to fast and fervored very quickly. I prefer fucking and being fucked because the language is harsh and upfront; I move myself and my partner the same.
03/11/2012
geliebt geliebt
FUCKING! Once in a while I like nice sex, but that is definitely not something I do often... I like it seriously kinky almost all the time
03/12/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
Both...but I chose making love because it seems to be more passionate than just fucking.
03/12/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Both. After 23 years we have learned how to do both at the same time. I guess if I HAD to chose, I would go with making love.
03/31/2012
Checkmate Checkmate
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
I do love it when my man says, "Hey, wanna fuck?" It gets me going. I think using the term "Make love" sounds creepy sometimes. I use the word "fuck" entirely too much, especially during sex. He doesn't seem to mind at all, it turns him on.
I would much rather hear my wife say "fuck me", than "you may commence coitus"
03/31/2012
Checkmate Checkmate
For us, making love is a long, sensual experience, where as fucking is more intense and urgent. I would say we make love much more often, although we enjoy fucking as well.
03/31/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
7/10 times, I want to make love. But the other three times, just fuck me! My beau doesn't like to fuck, though, so mostly I fuck myself later.
04/01/2012
shySEXXaddict shySEXXaddict
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
I chose making love but really I like both depending on situation.Making love to me is sensually slow,taking every inch of each other in..you know with alot of emotion. Fucking is in the heat of the moment with just your hormones taking over and running the show...We do alot of fucking but everyonce in awhile we make love.Im a sensual person so wish we did it more often
05/05/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
More than not, I want to feel like we're making love, not just fucking. There are times it's just a fuck fest and that's great, but in general I want it to feel personal and emotionally intimate as well as sexually
05/05/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
I'm not sure what your definition of the two are. Making love, to me, means sex with someone you truly love. To me, making love doesn't neccessarily mean it has to be slow and easy. Making love can be rough, hard, deep love too! That's what my making love is. Being F'd to me sort of seems more like just wham, bam, thank you maa'm and you're done. No love in there, no sensuality, no intimacy or feelings. That's not what I enjoy.
05/05/2012
Falsepast Falsepast
I want both
05/05/2012
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I liked to be fucked.
05/05/2012
reinkaos reinkaos
Me and my wife are in love and prefer the hard/fast fucking the majority of the time. It is so much better
05/07/2012
Do emu Do emu
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
Making love to the love of my life has got to be the best feeling ever. But yeah, sometimes I want a good fuck.
05/07/2012
chantalgiardina chantalgiardina
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
i like a mixture of both- a little romance here and there si great
05/07/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
Quote:
Originally posted by LusciousLollypop
It is both. You can have both in the same session. Fucking can be making love. Making love can be fucking. I see fucking as more of a less-emotional kind of thing and love making very emotional. But no matter what it is.. it can still happen in the ...
i agree 100%. I think that that's the best type of sex- and I think that there are three kinds- making love which can bring tears to your eyes and is usually slower in my mind, fucking which is carnal and hot and fast and just straight sex which is somewhere in the middle. I don't think you can really CHOOSE to make love any ol time you want though. I think the moment grabs you and you realize how suited you are, how amazing your chemistry is and how deeply you love eachother and boom! I also don't appreciate being 'fucked' when I'm not into it. One sided fucking isn't really fun and making love doesn't really happen if its one sided so you slip into straight sex.
05/07/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
Most of the time I want to be fucked, but sometimes I feel sad and vulnerable, and I want to be handled more gently.
05/07/2012
chicmichiw chicmichiw
If you love the person you're doing it with, it's always making love no matter the 'tone' of the encounter! Which is kind of liberating.
12/17/2012
KissTheSkyBaby KissTheSkyBaby
For us the difference between fucking and making love has to do with the intensity. I mean we have times when we make love very enthusiatically with sweaty sheets, toys and spanking but the second the handcuffs, choking, foul language and "I'm going to use you until you collapse" mentality comes out of either one of us we are in full on fuck me territory. There's a sort of animalistic feeling to fucking I think. It's very primal and unless I really need reassurance it's what I prefer.
12/18/2012
CaliGirl CaliGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by chicmichiw
If you love the person you're doing it with, it's always making love no matter the 'tone' of the encounter! Which is kind of liberating.
Exactly
12/21/2012
spiced spiced
Yeah, I like both, too. Sometimes it's nice to get really romantic, other times we just have to get primal. We've also had really passionate/aggressive sex that was also deeply affectionate at the same time. One of the great things about being REALLY close with someone is that you can take whatever emotions you're feeling into the bedroom with you and experience something new and often magical. We just go where it takes us.
12/21/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
I don't see that there's that big of a difference. It's just another way of saying the same thing. The emotions that go into it don't have to be attached to how you label it. "Fucking" can be just as emotional, satisfying, gratifying, intimate and involved as "making love." My guy and I enjoy kinky, aggressive, rough sex. It's highly emotional and intimate, because it's how we connect to each other that way that is mutually satisfying and loving. I've never shared so many personal, intimate fantasies and secrets with anyone else, and he has never done that with anyone to the extent that he has with me. It's very loving and emotionally fulfilling for us because of that, and it's something that we share with just each other and it's extremely gratifying to feel that safe with someone, to share that kind of understanding, and sexual harmony. I've had slow, "loving," sensual sex with people who promised me the world and told me I was so much to them...but they really were using me and didn't care about understanding me and meeting my needs. Love is expressed in many different ways for many different people, and the less we attach labels to it, the more we'll understand that.
12/21/2012
Vaginas Vaginas
I think it's up to each person to decide the difference for themselves
12/21/2012
Creepellah Creepellah
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
Making love feels better.
12/21/2012
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
I keep telling him I want to make love...but after a minute or two I end up telling him to "Fuck me like slut!", so I think I just like to be fucked.
01/11/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
really wish i could vote twice bc it really depends on our mood
01/18/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by SecretKinksters
I keep telling him I want to make love...but after a minute or two I end up telling him to "Fuck me like slut!", so I think I just like to be fucked.
lol same here
01/18/2013
tovehunter tovehunter
It definitely depends on the mood I'm in. Most days I like a good, hard fuck. Sometimes I'm in the mood to be snuggled and spend a lot of time kissing...
01/18/2013
ustwo ustwo
I feel there are three kinds of sex with your partner:

1) Making love

2) Carnal, I'm gonna give it to you good, fuck the sh*t out of me making love, where a partner might take a more dominant lead the entire time or at some points

3) Playful, experimental,where the focus is spending time with your partner and having fun with toys, etc.

It's all about the mood.
01/18/2013
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I personally think that making love is nice, slow and passionate. Now fucking is hardcore fuck me make it hurt so bad it feels good kind of fucking like hair pulling choke me sex which I love a lot more often
01/18/2013
srexom srexom
making love
01/18/2013
tortilla tortilla
depends on my mood
01/18/2013
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
There's sex. No two ways around it, no matter what you call it. I love having sex with someone I love, but I have been with questionable sorts before where I didn't even like them. But yes, I prefer calling it an act of love, as preferable to just being a physical desperate action.
01/19/2013
Geogeo Geogeo
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
definitely only fucking, I don't like feelings or relationships
01/19/2013
kdlt kdlt
I've never "made love".
01/24/2013
Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
When someone takes my money and does not do the job I want. I am FUCKED. When someone steals data from my computer, I am FUCKED.

When I am with my husband and we are being intimate, we are MAKING LOVE.

He can pound the heck out of me, ...
I could never say it as well as you just did, so I'm glad you could say it for me
01/24/2013
Martiniman Martiniman
I voted making love, because I never want to have sex again without love being involved. That being said, sometimes I make love to my wife and other times we fuck. The difference? I think that's up to each to interpret. To me, making love is more tender and sweet, while fucking is more animalistic, hard and heavy.
01/25/2013
higs higs
Depends, if you're in love or the kind of person who has a lot of partners!
01/26/2013
misterazor misterazor
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
i think making love is what you do before you learn how to fuck. after you learn, making love is an option, but most of the time...
...i think fucking is more passionate anyway. you can love someone and fuck her brains out...in fact, it's probably a good idea that you do. if you don't, she might get bored with all the sensative love-making and find herself a fireman to put out her fire.

so, it depends on the mood...but mostly fucking.
01/27/2013
butts butts
I mean, we love each other and we're always "making love" but it definitely feels less romantic when we're both just horny and rough "fucking
compared to when we're snuggly and lovey "making love". We like both, depends on our moods!
01/27/2013
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
With my current partner we are more into love making then fucking but it does get a little rough somewhere in there but its mainly a soft gentle loving session when we have them. Makes it so much more worth it
01/27/2013
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
To me, making love is being romantic, taking it slow, and worrying about how the other person feels more than yourself. Fucking is urgent, rough, hot, Ican'teventhinkabout anythingbuthowgreat I'mfeelingrightnow sex. When I want him to push me around and use me to make himself feel good, then I ask him to fuck me. His face is so beautiful when he's in the zone like that and it feels so fucking good.

I used to tell him I never wanted him to do that to me, but then once when he was drunk and lost himself in his feelings for a couple minutes, I saw how incredibly hot it could be and changed my mind.
01/27/2013
featherhead featherhead
Both.
01/27/2013
Freyja9 Freyja9
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
Why can't I choose both? LOL
01/29/2013
Llahsram Llahsram
Wow, I don't even want to vote because it's perfectly split right now.
01/29/2013
joiedejouets joiedejouets
Being fucked, lovingly
01/29/2013
souviet souviet
Quote:
Originally posted by Secret Pleasure
Which do you prefer personally I wanna be fucked.
making love. being fucked doesn't seem personal to me.
01/30/2013
sillylilkitten sillylilkitten
Overall I tend to be more in the mood to be fucked than to make love, but I don't think I'd be okay with never making love again and only ever getting fucked.
01/30/2013
Inkkythesquid Inkkythesquid
Being fucked
01/31/2013
SourAppleMartini SourAppleMartini
I can reach an orgasm with a toy, but spiritual connection from 'making love' simply can not be replaced.
02/28/2013
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