What are you most self-conscious about during sex?

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What are you most self-conscious about during sex?

KaraSutra KaraSutra
I was curious to know where most people find themselves on this issue. It seems to be something many people deal with, yet don't really talk about.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
reaching orgasm too quickly
9
getting caught
4
my genitals (appearance)
19
odour
22
my body shape
81
pleasing my partner
43
difficulty reaching orgasm
56
noise/sounds I make
16
being 'too tight' or 'too loose' (anally or vaginally)
12
nothing, I'm great in bed!
12
Total votes: 274 (147 voters)
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07/25/2011
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P'Gell P'Gell
When it takes me a long time to come. This never used to happen and now I go through cycles where it happens, followed by cycles where it is more easy. I always feel he's going to get bored waiting for me to come (and he has been known to fall asleep, thanks for hanging in there, guy! Although he usually wakes up after dozing for a few minutes.)

The other night, I at first felt bad because it took me at least a half an hour after we grabbed the big vibrator. Then we messed around for at least half hour to 45 minutes after I came, then he needed help and he got oral sex for..... 90 minutes. I wasn't going to give up on him. (I didn't fall asleep either, although I was pretty tired.)

But, for me, I feel better when I can come easily. Oh, to be 25 and come easily....
07/25/2011
Annemarie Annemarie
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
When it takes me a long time to come. This never used to happen and now I go through cycles where it happens, followed by cycles where it is more easy. I always feel he's going to get bored waiting for me to come (and he has been known to fall ...
It's not just an age thing! I'm 22 and have trouble sometimes--taking up to an hour with the Wahl (yow! my hand burns just thinking about it!).

I definitely, too, have cycles of easy-cum and difficulty doing so. It's hormones. What sucks is when you spend an hour going at it, and then you get this sad, piddly, teeny tiny, not-worth-an-hour's-ti me orgasm. Peeves me off.
07/25/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Annemarie
It's not just an age thing! I'm 22 and have trouble sometimes--taking up to an hour with the Wahl (yow! my hand burns just thinking about it!).

I definitely, too, have cycles of easy-cum and difficulty doing so. It's hormones. ...
I hear ya, sister. Then, it does really pay off when it's one of those blow your head off orgasms, and then continues on with streaming orgasms for an hour or so.....
07/25/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I have two problems - if I'm really hot and it's been a while, I have to hold back as long as I can. But if we've been having sex frequently or it's been a short time between sessions - then having an orgasm at all can be a problem.

Getting old is a bi***.

Cock rings and Cialis have both been very useful.
07/25/2011
HotCouple HotCouple
It's body shape for me...no matter how many times hubby tells me there's nothing there, I'm always convinced there's a belly roll or something!
07/25/2011
PiratePrincess PiratePrincess
Body shape when I'm in certain positions that are unflattering to my body
07/25/2011
Rockin' Rockin'
I don't have body hangups as far as appearances go, but I wish I could stay in certain positions longer. Some of my joints just can't take the stress of some positions for very long, so that can lead to some worry and apprehension about needing to move too often.

The one thing I checked up there was the difficulty reaching orgasm (I'm in my 20s). I love coming with manual stimulation during sex, and I *can* come with a vibrator, but sometimes I'll get overstimulated from the vibe before I can come, and that's just frustrating. So sometimes if I'm using a vibe during sex, I worry that will happen.
07/25/2011
Antipova Antipova
Hm... I don't actually really worry about any of these things. I think, a lot of time during sex my brain is mostly shut off, or at least mostly functioning in lizard-brain mode. I really only am conscious of how incredible things feel, during sex. Afterward when I come to I'll still be aware and thrill over what exactly happened and how awesome it was---but during, I'm usually to into sex to be worried about anything!

I still didn't check "nothing, I'm great in bed" though---because I've always got something new to learn But "I'm not worried" and "I'm great" are not synonymous.
07/25/2011
toxie m toxie m
The main thing on my mind if I'm ever worried is that I'm taking too long to get off. I've been getting better about not stressing and just going with the flow lately though
07/25/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by KaraSutra
I was curious to know where most people find themselves on this issue. It seems to be something many people deal with, yet don't really talk about.
Sometimes I feel like a "beached whale"...but then again, I tell my loving hubby...."oh my, I feel like a beached whale", and he laughs. I AM trying to lose those few extra pounds before my daughters wedding next year (and WILL succeed), but meanwhile, it is nice to know he thinks I am INCREDIBLY sexy no matter how I look. That alone, after 31 years of marriage, is a HUGE turn on all by itself.
07/25/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by HotCouple
It's body shape for me...no matter how many times hubby tells me there's nothing there, I'm always convinced there's a belly roll or something!
And you know what...for all you are worried about, HE probably only see's the sexy girl you are!!! Even when rolls do happen (age hits us ALL, in some way, he doubtless will still NOT see them, and only see the woman he loves. Enjoy it and realize YOU are the best gift he will ever get!
07/25/2011
EnMH EnMH
Even though E and I have been together for nearly five years, experiencing everything with each other, there are still times when I wonder if I'm pleasing her. Maybe pleasing her is not the right statement but more so about pleasing her the way she wants.

I know she has orgasms, and professes that I do a great job every time but I do always wonder. What can I do better? How can I improve? Our intimate life is important to both of us and I want to improve it and further it however I can.
07/25/2011
married with children married with children
nothing. that is one of the benefits of being with one person. There is nothing you should be self conscious about with each other.
07/27/2011
Waterfall Waterfall
I am self conscious about taking a while to orgasm. Depending on the partner, I sometimes have trouble "getting there" in a reasonable time frame. As I have had sex more I have also figured out more ways that make it work for me.
07/27/2011
Kkay Kkay
I feel pressure to be able to get off.
07/27/2011
A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople) A Closet Slut (aka nipplepeople)
I am sometimes self-conscious about my pubic hair... but this usually happens in the beginning of a sex life with somebody.
07/27/2011
Crichton Crichton
Only any potential smells.
07/27/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
My hubby and I have been together for so long that I don't feel self-conscious about anything anymore. In the past, I did worry about how I looked naked.
07/27/2011
Anjulie Anjulie
Occasionally I get self conscience if it is taking me a long time.
07/27/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
My tummy. Hate my tummy
08/01/2011
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
during sex, i'm usually too caught up in the moment to care about anything else. however, in other times of my life, i really don't like the fat in my tummy, thighs and love handles. it's not a lot but i want it to be gone
08/02/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
body shape
08/02/2011
bayosgirl bayosgirl
My shape
08/02/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
my body shape and pleasing my partner. i get bad anxiety about both of these things most the time.
08/02/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Definitely my size! None of the other things concern me like my fat does.
08/02/2011
tickle me pink tickle me pink
Nothing, but not because I'm great in bed. I've just been with my partner for so long that I don't feel self-conscious around him anymore.
08/02/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
Her: Body shape is the big one.
Him: pleasing my partner.
08/02/2011
Rossie Rossie
The only thing that irritates me is my lose belly, resulting from the c-section of my son's birth. My husband's not bothered by it, he likes to gently squeeze my tummy, but this actually annoys me even more about those lose fat of mine!
08/02/2011
Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Really good question! I'm mostly concerned with being too noisy.
08/05/2011
Total posts: 63
Unique posters: 59