What Exactly is 'Fluid-Bonded'?

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What Exactly is 'Fluid-Bonded'?

Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've come across the term 'fluid-bonded' in reviews and some posts, and I'd like to know exactly what this entails (context can always be misconstrued).
07/26/2010
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Envy Envy
I believe it means when body fluids have mixed, usually in terms of sexual content, i.e. precum mixing with vaginal lubrication and the like.
07/26/2010
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Yep, when the fluids have mixed before, whether it means you've taken them orally, what Goth said, or had unprotected sex.
07/26/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
I'm not sure what it meant, either, but to me it has a connotation of something a bit deeper.

Like, to be fluid-bonded, you are bonded sexually with that person, and that person alone, permanently.

I dunno, I might be taking advantage of the extra estrogen that my body produces and making everything more emotional than what it really is.
07/26/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Yep, when the fluids have mixed before, whether it means you've taken them orally, what Goth said, or had unprotected sex.
Good question, I didn't know!

Thanks for the answers.
07/26/2010
Kayla Kayla
It basically means that you are comfortable not using protection for the sake of STIs. You may still use it to prevent pregnancy, but you are sure that your partner doesn't have any diseases that you could catch.

It's used for reviews because some toys can't be sterilized, so if the person has a disease and uses the toy, you could receive it. Thus, for those toys, you should only use the toy if you are fluid-bonded and know that the other person doesn't have a disease.
07/26/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've come across the term 'fluid-bonded' in reviews and some posts, and I'd like to know exactly what this entails (context can always be misconstrued).
People generally use the term fluid bonded to show that they do not use barrier protection against STIs with their partner.

Many in poly relationships are fluid bonded with multiple partners - meaning they've all been tested, are negative for any STIs and no longer use protection amongst each other, though they often do with other partners they are not fluid bonded with.

So, say Tracy, Jeff and John are all having sex with each other and are fluid bonded. When any of them have sex with each other, they do not use condoms or dental dams. However, if John bangs Jolene, who he is not fluid bonded with, he does use protection in order to remain 'safe' to his other partners. Etc, etc.

It can get complicated!
07/26/2010
Kayla Kayla
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
People generally use the term fluid bonded to show that they do not use barrier protection against STIs with their partner.

Many in poly relationships are fluid bonded with multiple partners - meaning they've all been tested, are negative ...
You said "bangs". That was a totally immature moment, but it just didn't strike as a Carrie Ann word.

Great explanation though. You made it sound so much more understandable than mine did.
07/26/2010
Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
People generally use the term fluid bonded to show that they do not use barrier protection against STIs with their partner.

Many in poly relationships are fluid bonded with multiple partners - meaning they've all been tested, are negative ...
I agree that it certainly can get complicated!

I think that everyone's explained it well enough...
07/26/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Thanks for the response. I thought it was something along the lines of 'no protection used between monogamous partners', but I needed to be sure.
07/26/2010
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Kayla
You said "bangs". That was a totally immature moment, but it just didn't strike as a Carrie Ann word.

Great explanation though. You made it sound so much more understandable than mine did.
Heh. It was a Casual Monday moment?
07/26/2010
kck kck
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
Thanks for the response. I thought it was something along the lines of 'no protection used between monogamous partners', but I needed to be sure.
Agreed, that was my "gathered definition" as well. Thanks for asking this question
07/26/2010
PolyGirl PolyGirl
Carrie Ann's description is spot on. I also think of it as the poly version of "going steady."

Episode 14 of the poly series, Family, features a restaurant scene with a hilarious reference to the complexities of fluid-bondedness.
07/26/2010
Valentinka Valentinka
Oh, I was wondering about that myself and I'm glad this discussion popped up in a search Thanks, Chilipepper, for starting this thread and thanks everyone for your answers!

However, I'm still not sure if I should call us "fluid-bonded" in my reviews. He has never come inside me, because I can't use hormonal contraception and condoms are the only way for me to avoid pregnancy. However, we are in a monogamous long-term relationship and so never use dental dams or condoms for oral.
11/09/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
I've actually never really heard it in reference to oral sex. But that could just be my experience.

It's always been more in reference to penis in vagina, and in relation to 1. testing clean and being mutually monogamous and 2. what happens in the body when you are fluid bonded.

it's kind of neat. I can't recall how to explain it perfectly right now as it's 4 am and I can't come up with a google search that works, but when you swap those particular fluids with someone (not orally or anally, mind you) the chemicals set off something in your brain or whatever that makes you feel closer or more in love with them or something like that. I'll revisit this later when my brain is working a little more clearly...
11/09/2011
Melissa Smith Melissa Smith
I had never heard of this but wondered since a few people had used it. Thanks for clearing that up!
02/14/2012
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