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In all honesty I haven't ever cheated if I feel that I want more then what my partner has to offer or is willing to offer I will let them know my needs are being met either step it up or I am done. I mean I don't see a reason to cheat if you
In all honesty I haven't ever cheated if I feel that I want more then what my partner has to offer or is willing to offer I will let them know my needs are being met either step it up or I am done. I mean I don't see a reason to cheat if you aren't happy try resolving the issue or move on with your life. No reason to cheat and cause more heartache,pain,confusi on and all that.
Same feelings! This is exactly how I feel. If I ever feel the urge to cheat, I'd instantly know something was wrong there. I'd also let my partner know because it wouldn't be fair to him, even the thought or consideration of cheating & the only fair thing to do would be to tell him, then let him decide. Why drop a dirty bomb on your spouse's life? That's a nasty, horrible thing to do. I would give my partner an out if I ever thought of cheating. It's seriously not fair to stay with someone who doesn't know who you really are. I mean to just stay and leave them in the dark. Cheating on impulse is one terrible thing, but make a conscious decision to do it beforehand, and leave the spouse in the dark is some kind of cruel.
Anyways, I didn't plan to share my own thoughts since the question was asking cheaters why they did it, but then I read Camo's and well, here we are. I felt the need to say. I actually came to this thread because the question was a good one & I was really interested to see what everyone had to say. So thanks for asking this. I actually did NOT expect so many people to say it was because they weren't having their "needs" met by their partner. I didn't think many people actually thought that was an excuse to cheat, so this definitely opened my little ol' eyes! I figured at best, people would say "it was an impulsive act" and likely drugs/alcohol was involved. And because no physical attraction? If the sex isn't cutting it for me and my sexual needs aren't being met, I'm going to discuss it with him and hopefully get those things met or be brave enough and respectful enough to cut my ties and leave rather than cheat. That's just lousy. If physical attraction isn't there & I know I'm attracted sexually to others, then IMO, I have no business being in a relationship with the person & there'd be no reason to even stay. Seems much, much more simple (and kind) to leave.
Anyways, I went on to read the comments of those who explained & after reading the votes in the poll, I was expecting totally different reasoning behind cheating. That was neat to be able to read more in-depth reasons behind people's cheating. Most of the comments here are pretty.. innocent reasons for cheating. I mean, maybe innocent isn't the word, but it's more than just "oh, I got horny & wanted sex everyday and my partner wasn't able to keep up" or something like that. So that was nice to see that the reasons were pretty understandable. Liek the cheating during a very first middle/high school relationship where you aren't really sure where it's going, nothing serious.
In magazines and just listening to everyday people talk, you'd think people had insatiable sexual desires and were totally incapable of being faithful. That's the way magazines and many people out there (who perhaps have been scorned and are led to believe that all people cheat) will constantly tell you that people have crazy sexual desires for everybody they see and cannot control themselves. So it was nice to see here that that isn't necessarily always true.
Welp, guess I better shut up now. Lol.