What were some of the reasons why you cheated.

SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I am just curious given the recent posts about cheating what were the reasons that led you to stray from your relationship. All voting will be private and multiple choices may be picked.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Sexual needs not being met
9
Emotional needs not being met
10
Intense physical attraction to the other person
7
Alcohol was involved
3
drugs were involved
I am not really sure, it just happened
other, please explain below.
5
Total votes: 34 (15 voters)
Poll is closed
04/11/2013
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*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
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Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
I am just curious given the recent posts about cheating what were the reasons that led you to stray from your relationship. All voting will be private and multiple choices may be picked.
In all honesty I haven't ever cheated if I feel that I want more then what my partner has to offer or is willing to offer I will let them know my needs are being met either step it up or I am done. I mean I don't see a reason to cheat if you aren't happy try resolving the issue or move on with your life. No reason to cheat and cause more heartache,pain,confusi on and all that.
04/11/2013
spiced spiced
The only time I cheated, I was just a kid without a clue. I was attracted to a lot of women and if I had a chance to "score" with a woman, I went for it. You could call it a lack of empathy. I didn't realize how rotten my behavior was until my girlfriend at the time cheated on me in retaliation. That experience kind of "vaccinated" me against cheating.

I had a relationship where my needs weren't being met. Instead of cheating, I tried (and tried again) to work it out with her. When that didn't help, I ended the relationship with her and only then hooked up with someone else.
04/11/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
All those besides drugs being involved.
04/11/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have never cheated on any of my partners. If I am not happy I will just leave the relationship. I have been cheated on though and it is not a pretty site. I would never do that too anyone else.
04/11/2013
hillys hillys
I did it twice but once was just because I was young and experimenting and really attracted to the guy) I wanted to find out what it would be to kiss someone else. The second time I just let someone grab my boobs which I didn't think was cheating but the partner at the time thought so...
04/11/2013
Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
I was with a guy who not only could not please me physically or emotionally, but he was also mentally unstable. I cheated (with the guy that is now my husband) only because he threatened to kill himself if I left him.

I left him anyways.
04/11/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I was always alone, and wanted more. Plus alcohol was involved.
04/11/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
In all honesty I haven't ever cheated if I feel that I want more then what my partner has to offer or is willing to offer I will let them know my needs are being met either step it up or I am done. I mean I don't see a reason to cheat if you ... More
Same feelings! This is exactly how I feel. If I ever feel the urge to cheat, I'd instantly know something was wrong there. I'd also let my partner know because it wouldn't be fair to him, even the thought or consideration of cheating & the only fair thing to do would be to tell him, then let him decide. Why drop a dirty bomb on your spouse's life? That's a nasty, horrible thing to do. I would give my partner an out if I ever thought of cheating. It's seriously not fair to stay with someone who doesn't know who you really are. I mean to just stay and leave them in the dark. Cheating on impulse is one terrible thing, but make a conscious decision to do it beforehand, and leave the spouse in the dark is some kind of cruel.

Anyways, I didn't plan to share my own thoughts since the question was asking cheaters why they did it, but then I read Camo's and well, here we are. I felt the need to say. I actually came to this thread because the question was a good one & I was really interested to see what everyone had to say. So thanks for asking this. I actually did NOT expect so many people to say it was because they weren't having their "needs" met by their partner. I didn't think many people actually thought that was an excuse to cheat, so this definitely opened my little ol' eyes! I figured at best, people would say "it was an impulsive act" and likely drugs/alcohol was involved. And because no physical attraction? If the sex isn't cutting it for me and my sexual needs aren't being met, I'm going to discuss it with him and hopefully get those things met or be brave enough and respectful enough to cut my ties and leave rather than cheat. That's just lousy. If physical attraction isn't there & I know I'm attracted sexually to others, then IMO, I have no business being in a relationship with the person & there'd be no reason to even stay. Seems much, much more simple (and kind) to leave.

Anyways, I went on to read the comments of those who explained & after reading the votes in the poll, I was expecting totally different reasoning behind cheating. That was neat to be able to read more in-depth reasons behind people's cheating. Most of the comments here are pretty.. innocent reasons for cheating. I mean, maybe innocent isn't the word, but it's more than just "oh, I got horny & wanted sex everyday and my partner wasn't able to keep up" or something like that. So that was nice to see that the reasons were pretty understandable. Liek the cheating during a very first middle/high school relationship where you aren't really sure where it's going, nothing serious.

In magazines and just listening to everyday people talk, you'd think people had insatiable sexual desires and were totally incapable of being faithful. That's the way magazines and many people out there (who perhaps have been scorned and are led to believe that all people cheat) will constantly tell you that people have crazy sexual desires for everybody they see and cannot control themselves. So it was nice to see here that that isn't necessarily always true.

Welp, guess I better shut up now. Lol.
04/12/2013
spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by TJtheMadHatter
I was always alone, and wanted more. Plus alcohol was involved.
Ah, alcohol and drugs: the solution for — and cause of — all life's problems.
04/12/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Quote:
Originally posted by spiced
Ah, alcohol and drugs: the solution for — and cause of — all life's problems.
Ain't it the truth.
04/12/2013
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Unique posters: 9