I choose almost all of our toys, including his. He doesn't really know much of anything about sex toys so I'll find ones he may like and then show him and ask him if he wants it. When it comes to lingerie, I find things I think he may like or let him look himself. I never get ones I like and he doesn't because I wear them for him. It makes me a little sad, though, because there have been ones that I absolutely love that he doesn't like.