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I believe people will say anything they think you want to hear, in order to get what they want. I wouldn't be very trusting of what he has to say, but that's just me.
I see we are both skeptics! Basically you do not know him, right? Take what he says with a dose of skepticism and wait to see what his actions say while you get to know him better. Only time will tell and you can never err by being cautious! Besides, anyone who would have a problem with you being cautious and looking out for yourself is someone not to be trusted and is unconcerned with your welfare.
But if this statement is something that is supposed to gain your approval for something, for example your willingness to start a sexual relationship with him, then I say be suspicious! Surely someone who means this statement should be willing to give you time to be sure. But, my instincts (admittedly based on very little), tell me he is shopping around for sex and giving himself an easy out by saying "it doesn't work for him" after he gets what he wants (or not). It's just an odd thing to say to someone you are supposedly interested in for a long term relationship, don't you think?
The last thing I would do is sleep with him now. I'd get to know him much better because I'd rather be "dumped," or leave myself, over basic incompatibilities than over a sexual matter -- I know that would really destroy my sexual confidence if that were the reason he left. It sounds like he wants to sample the merchandise before even starting to decide if there is a basis for a relationship. I personally would not want to be with someone who prizes his sexual gratification above all other reasons to be involved with someone long term, it just sounds "off".