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I personally don't think i could be but curious what everyone else thinks.
When i say open for those that might need me to be more specfic I mean a relationship in which you are allowed to sleep with other people.
Your responses caused it to be hard for me to answer. I have been in
an Open Relationship. It lasted several years (while I was finishing High School and going to college) then we closed the relationship, lived monogamous for a while and got married to each other.
I don't think I would want to do it now (married for years, kids, house etc) but I think one has to be very grown up about it and not have a jealous bone in your body to make an Open Relationship work. My Man admitted after we closed the relationship that he was jealous of every guy I went out with while we were Open... and it was his idea. But, I was very young when we started dating, I had little experience with boys and NO experience with sex. I'm glad we did it. I didn't want to wake up one day in my 30s and think, "What the fuck did I miss by only being with one man?" I got the stuff out of my system and My Man got to sow some more Wild Oats (he had sexual and dating experience before we got together as he's older than I am) It worked for us, but I made sure not to date ANYBODY he knew and to keep my escapades to myself. He made the mistake of telling me about a woman he was seeing with the inevitable, "You'd like her." and I was livid. I'd rather not know.
It's very hard not to be jealous. I think we did better than most, we stayed together, and neither of us wanted to end the relationship we had with each other at any time.
It's not for everybody, but some people may benefit from the experience.