Would you rather be the top or bottom?

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Would you rather be the top or bottom?

Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
Would you rather be the dominate, or the dominated. The Seme or the Uke?
The master or the slave?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Top/Dom/Master/Seme
2  (4%)
Bottom/Sub/Slave/Uke
19  (36%)
Middle/Switch/Seke
30  (57%)
Other
2  (4%)
Total votes: 53
Poll is closed
02/14/2011
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VenusianThunder VenusianThunder
I feel more comfortable as a submissive, but I would switch every once in a while just to spice things up.
02/14/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Would you rather be the dominate, or the dominated. The Seme or the Uke?
The master or the slave?
I am a naturally Dominant person but at times I also like the freedom to release the need to be in control. It's more of a struggle for me to be submissive but I find that it has benefits and, for me, Dominance is about mastering ones self first and foremost. For me submission is about mastering the impulse to wrest control from another person and opening myself...it's about stretching and softening. Still, it takes a special person to earn that much trust.
02/14/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm a slave so my place is on the bottom
02/14/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
Quote:
Originally posted by VenusianThunder
I feel more comfortable as a submissive, but I would switch every once in a while just to spice things up.
I agree 100%
02/14/2011
sbon sbon
I'm definitely submissive.
02/14/2011
liilii080 liilii080
I like variety and so does my partner so we take turns being in control.
02/14/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man and I don't switch. It isn't in our make up, but it works for other people.

I'm sub, but not what one would call a "slave." There are subtle or not so subtle difference. I have a huge big mouth and am really opinionated and don't think I'd do well in a M/s relationship, but seem to do OK (although.....) in a D/s relationship.
02/14/2011
Red Vinyl Kitty Red Vinyl Kitty
I am a slave, and do not switch.
02/14/2011
❦Angel Of Music❦ ❦Angel Of Music❦
Quote:
Originally posted by VenusianThunder
I feel more comfortable as a submissive, but I would switch every once in a while just to spice things up.
I second this!!!
02/14/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I'm definitely a Switch. For me what "mode" I go into depends a lot on the person I'm with and how I see them.
02/14/2011
married with children married with children
Dom 90% of the time.
02/14/2011
lamira lamira
I'll do both. But I like being the bottom more, because I get most of the attention and have to do less of the work.
02/14/2011
Free Free
Both are good, but I prefer topping most of the time.
02/14/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Most of the time I'm submissive, but I do like to switch it up now and then.
02/14/2011
Miss Jenn Miss Jenn
Quote:
Originally posted by Sweet-Justice
Would you rather be the dominate, or the dominated. The Seme or the Uke?
The master or the slave?
Bottom. All the way. I have tried to dominate in the past, but I prefer to be bottom lol.....
What I like most, is to start out being the dom, and be the top for a little while - but then he takes over. I love it!
02/15/2011
Miss Madeline Miss Madeline
I switch on occasion but I live as a submissive bottom.
02/15/2011
MrRainybowbow MrRainybowbow
Im a switch. I like feeling in control but sometimes i really wish they'd put me in my place for once ;p
02/15/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
Although I do not switch, ever. I do Top from the Bottom a lot. The other day, we were going at it, and all of a sudden I realized I was almost giving him orders. I mean, not "orders" but strong suggestions. I apologized and he laughed and did what I asked for anyway. We have the kind of relationship where I can ask for things, I try not to get bossy, though.

Sometimes he picks the activities and the toys, other times he leaves it completely up to me, "What do you want?" I always feel on the spot. "What do I want?" I kind of (really) like it when he makes most of the decisions. Unless he picks the hard Marble G Spotter and I'm not in the mood for Full Frontal Cervix Attack. He hasn't quite mastered the art of using really hard toys. ("Honey, rocking is good, thrusting is for silicone." That's probably one of the reasons I haven't gotten an NJoy toy
(Steel dildo) yet. I really was thinking about it for my Holiday Coupon purchase, but in the end, I didn't get one.

Maybe next time.
02/16/2011
That Guy That Guy
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
Although I do not switch, ever. I do Top from the Bottom a lot. The other day, we were going at it, and all of a sudden I realized I was almost giving him orders. I mean, not "orders" but strong suggestions. I apologized and he laughed and ...
Have you read "Choke"? It's got a pretty comical bit about topping from the bottom in there.

I go back and forth between both, because they're both not roles I ever get to play in real life. We spend so much time being democratic about everything all the time, I'm happy as long as somebody's in the driver's seat.
02/16/2011
gone77 gone77
I tend to be submissive to men and dominant to women, so it's a toss up.
02/16/2011
shcoo shcoo
I switch all the time but tend to be dominant with men and submissive with women.
12/13/2011
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Depends...

With a male only submissive, unless being in a different mood, with a different person, with a female dominant, it depends too though but I far more prefer submissive females...

Ideal for me is to have a Master (I do yaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyy yyyy!!!), as long as He is with me nothing else matters...
And in case if W/we ended up with being with others occasionally then the statement above goes...
And in long term with a female if it ever happened, Master on the very top, me under Him, female under two of U/us...
If any males in long term I seriously doubt then it would be hardest to figure out what the fuck, but would be solved... (Thinking of a "have to situation" where W/we wouldn't have another choice - ya know, it's better to be prepared for the worst and hope the best... ^^)
12/15/2011
sweetiejo sweetiejo
Top all of the way.
12/15/2011
Total posts: 24
Unique posters: 23