I like oral, but it's not a must have for me.
Would you stay in a relationship if there was no oral
07/26/2012
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Yes, I would.
Originally posted by
Zandrock
Title says it all
07/26/2012
Yes
07/26/2012
I would cope.
07/26/2012
I don't know. Depends if the rest of the sex is awesome.
07/26/2012
I don't know.. I love oral. :s
07/26/2012
A guy has to be willing to eat me out, especially if he wants oral for himself.
08/24/2012
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It depends on the reasoning behind it. Is there a good excuse for no oral? lol.
Originally posted by
Zandrock
Title says it all
08/24/2012
No, I probably wouldn't. I need oral, both giving and receiving.
08/24/2012
Yes
08/24/2012
it would be a big loss but i think it would be ok
08/25/2012
If I couldn't get oral? Well, that's one fun thing unavailable, but it wouldn't be the end of the world, I suppose. Not being able to give oral, oddly enough, would probably be harder on me...
08/25/2012
Yes, because I was in a relationship like that for five years. I gave him oral, but he wouldn't do the same for me. It was a very unstable and drama filled relationship that I am glad I am out of now.
08/25/2012
Yes, I would. Oral is great, but it's not a deal breaker for me.
08/25/2012
I'm gobsmacked by the number of people who will "put up" with unsatisfying relationships!
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things for each other, too.)
The whole, "I'd put up with it." thing has me sad. All these people going without the best thing about sex... for what? I've kicked guys to the curb who won't give oral. (OK, one guy, but still. I "liked" him, but I wasn't going to put myself into a situation of getting too attached and maybe falling all the way in love and being resentful that he was... afraid of pussy. Bleh.)
My Man and I are willing to try just about anything either of us wants, and we usually end up liking most of it. Oral sex is, for us, the pinnacle of pleasure, offering and receiving.
I just think there is much much more to relationships than "putting up with" an other person's selfishness. And, yeah, I think if someone isn't offering oral sex, they are being somewhat selfish, as well as rigid.
You can learn to find pleasure in almost any act. You may have to work at it at first, but there IS pleasure in commonly performed sex acts..... that's why people do them.
To each their own, I guess. But, when I see people "putting up with" things that are less than satisfactory, when I hear about women going off to the spare room or the bathroom with their toys alone to have their orgasm, after their selfish mate has gotten his and gone to sleep without caring about the person he is supposed to love, it makes me so so sad....
Relationships based on "putting up with" crappy behavior from others are not satisfying and usually don't work out. These relationships are usually destroyed by resentment, but, to be honest the fights in these relationships are usually about things that have nothing to do with the real issue. I know women and men who go from one crappy relationship to an other, and still have no idea why it isn't working out. My guess; you aren't getting the best sex both of you could offer.
Mileage and all that.
I'm just shocked that so many people would go without something so beautiful and so fulfilling just to "keep" someone and not be alone for the short period of time it takes to find someone more deserving of their love. Sad.
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things for each other, too.)
The whole, "I'd put up with it." thing has me sad. All these people going without the best thing about sex... for what? I've kicked guys to the curb who won't give oral. (OK, one guy, but still. I "liked" him, but I wasn't going to put myself into a situation of getting too attached and maybe falling all the way in love and being resentful that he was... afraid of pussy. Bleh.)
My Man and I are willing to try just about anything either of us wants, and we usually end up liking most of it. Oral sex is, for us, the pinnacle of pleasure, offering and receiving.
I just think there is much much more to relationships than "putting up with" an other person's selfishness. And, yeah, I think if someone isn't offering oral sex, they are being somewhat selfish, as well as rigid.
You can learn to find pleasure in almost any act. You may have to work at it at first, but there IS pleasure in commonly performed sex acts..... that's why people do them.
To each their own, I guess. But, when I see people "putting up with" things that are less than satisfactory, when I hear about women going off to the spare room or the bathroom with their toys alone to have their orgasm, after their selfish mate has gotten his and gone to sleep without caring about the person he is supposed to love, it makes me so so sad....
Relationships based on "putting up with" crappy behavior from others are not satisfying and usually don't work out. These relationships are usually destroyed by resentment, but, to be honest the fights in these relationships are usually about things that have nothing to do with the real issue. I know women and men who go from one crappy relationship to an other, and still have no idea why it isn't working out. My guess; you aren't getting the best sex both of you could offer.
Mileage and all that.
I'm just shocked that so many people would go without something so beautiful and so fulfilling just to "keep" someone and not be alone for the short period of time it takes to find someone more deserving of their love. Sad.
08/25/2012
Probably not, it's one of my favorite kinds of sex. I was in a relationship with an oral dry spell of 6 months once, and it was really frustrating. If a partner didn't want to give or receive oral, I'd totally respect that and not be mean about it, but it'd probably indicate that we'd be better off with other people whose desires aligned better with our own.
08/25/2012
As much as I like oral both giving and getting. If there was no Oral it would not be a reason to leave my relationship with my wife.
08/25/2012
Yes
08/25/2012
yes i would
08/25/2012
Yes I would. My husband is not big on giving oral and it doesn't really bother me.
08/25/2012
Quote:
My life partner had no taste for oral sex and I was more than willing to stay...he offers so much more than just sex!
Originally posted by
Zandrock
Title says it all
08/25/2012
Quote:
My thoughts exactly.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I'm gobsmacked by the number of people who will "put up" with unsatisfying relationships!
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things ... more
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things ... more
I'm gobsmacked by the number of people who will "put up" with unsatisfying relationships!
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things for each other, too.)
The whole, "I'd put up with it." thing has me sad. All these people going without the best thing about sex... for what? I've kicked guys to the curb who won't give oral. (OK, one guy, but still. I "liked" him, but I wasn't going to put myself into a situation of getting too attached and maybe falling all the way in love and being resentful that he was... afraid of pussy. Bleh.)
My Man and I are willing to try just about anything either of us wants, and we usually end up liking most of it. Oral sex is, for us, the pinnacle of pleasure, offering and receiving.
I just think there is much much more to relationships than "putting up with" an other person's selfishness. And, yeah, I think if someone isn't offering oral sex, they are being somewhat selfish, as well as rigid.
You can learn to find pleasure in almost any act. You may have to work at it at first, but there IS pleasure in commonly performed sex acts..... that's why people do them.
To each their own, I guess. But, when I see people "putting up with" things that are less than satisfactory, when I hear about women going off to the spare room or the bathroom with their toys alone to have their orgasm, after their selfish mate has gotten his and gone to sleep without caring about the person he is supposed to love, it makes me so so sad....
Relationships based on "putting up with" crappy behavior from others are not satisfying and usually don't work out. These relationships are usually destroyed by resentment, but, to be honest the fights in these relationships are usually about things that have nothing to do with the real issue. I know women and men who go from one crappy relationship to an other, and still have no idea why it isn't working out. My guess; you aren't getting the best sex both of you could offer.
Mileage and all that.
I'm just shocked that so many people would go without something so beautiful and so fulfilling just to "keep" someone and not be alone for the short period of time it takes to find someone more deserving of their love. Sad. less
Love means (for us anyway) being open, trying new things, and doing things your partner loves (as we always love giving and doing things for each other, too.)
The whole, "I'd put up with it." thing has me sad. All these people going without the best thing about sex... for what? I've kicked guys to the curb who won't give oral. (OK, one guy, but still. I "liked" him, but I wasn't going to put myself into a situation of getting too attached and maybe falling all the way in love and being resentful that he was... afraid of pussy. Bleh.)
My Man and I are willing to try just about anything either of us wants, and we usually end up liking most of it. Oral sex is, for us, the pinnacle of pleasure, offering and receiving.
I just think there is much much more to relationships than "putting up with" an other person's selfishness. And, yeah, I think if someone isn't offering oral sex, they are being somewhat selfish, as well as rigid.
You can learn to find pleasure in almost any act. You may have to work at it at first, but there IS pleasure in commonly performed sex acts..... that's why people do them.
To each their own, I guess. But, when I see people "putting up with" things that are less than satisfactory, when I hear about women going off to the spare room or the bathroom with their toys alone to have their orgasm, after their selfish mate has gotten his and gone to sleep without caring about the person he is supposed to love, it makes me so so sad....
Relationships based on "putting up with" crappy behavior from others are not satisfying and usually don't work out. These relationships are usually destroyed by resentment, but, to be honest the fights in these relationships are usually about things that have nothing to do with the real issue. I know women and men who go from one crappy relationship to an other, and still have no idea why it isn't working out. My guess; you aren't getting the best sex both of you could offer.
Mileage and all that.
I'm just shocked that so many people would go without something so beautiful and so fulfilling just to "keep" someone and not be alone for the short period of time it takes to find someone more deserving of their love. Sad. less
I wouldn't put up with a selfish lover, nor would I want to be with a man who didn't adore the way I look, taste, feel and smell down there. I wouldn't put up with someone who would reject my very reasonable, normal and healthy desires, and I wouldn't put up with someone with such rigid sexual boundaries. I would also not put up with someone who doesn't appreciate or want me to give head, because I love giving and receiving. It's about the sex act itself, but much more what the action itself stands for in a relationship--trust, intimacy, acceptance, appreciation, a desire to give...sex is important to me, very important, and I'm not about to sacrifice my satisfaction with it for someone who isn't willing to indulge me. I've done it in the past, and all it led to was resentment, frustration, and hurt feelings. I'd rather be alone, honestly.
08/25/2012
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