Your partner and your toy collection.

My partner's sometimes wonder if I will ever have enough but they aren't intimidated by them and love that they can point to my toybox and feel like I am the pampered , spoiled woman that I really am. They are also proud that they don;t pay anything for them, I do this all myself. less

I'm just curious to know how everyones partner looks at their toy collection. Do they see it as a threat? Do they enjoy them as much as you? Are they as excited as you are when a new one arrives?

I just placed a massive order using the coupon we got and my bf just looked at me like I was nuts. He enjoys using them too, and loves when I get sent a new one to play with. But with this last order he's just like "Do we really need that many?"

Now I work as a webcam model so toys are a part of my job. But we use them as well lots of times. I think that I now will need to have a storage box to put them all in he might be getting a little intimidated.

So do toys intimidate you? What if she had an entire box full of them? Do you mind when she pulls ones out during your playtime? Does your partner not even use toys? less

I'm just curious to know how everyones partner looks at their toy collection. Do they see it as a threat? Do they enjoy them as much as you? Are they as excited as you are when a new one arrives?

I just placed a massive order using the coupon we got and my bf just looked at me like I was nuts. He enjoys using them too, and loves when I get sent a new one to play with. But with this last order he's just like "Do we really need that many?"

Now I work as a webcam model so toys are a part of my job. But we use them as well lots of times. I think that I now will need to have a storage box to put them all in he might be getting a little intimidated.

So do toys intimidate you? What if she had an entire box full of them? Do you mind when she pulls ones out during your playtime? Does your partner not even use toys? less

Choolz you are not alone. My best friends husband is adamant against toys. She's been told she's not allowed to have one. Ever. He wants to be the only thing that gives her pleasure. Now that's extreme.
I think we've all had a partner who was insecure with a toy at some point in our lives. If it's bigger than them, or vibrates, to downright they just are insecure. Fact is men can't do what a toy can. They compare themselves with it and it's silly. You shouldn't compare yourself to inanimate objects. I can't do what a blow up can do for hours on end, do I feel bad about it? NO. Would I tell my partner not to have one? NO. Sadly not all men feel the same I guess.
Maybe try talking to him and getting to the root of why he really has an issue with them. He doesn't have to be all "Yay toys!," but maybe just a little more understanding that it's just a toy. Sexually it gives you what you need sometimes, but emotionally and mentally he is the one who fulfills you. Worth a shot. Maybe even bring him here and watch reviews or videos together to see some men are ok with it. No threat to his masculinity in any way less

Thanks, that made me feel a lot better. To me it doesn't make sense that he doesn't find the idea of my playing with myself hot. And I have talked to him about it. Toys are fun and can do different things but they could never replace him.
I really like the idea of showing his some posts/reviews here so that he can see that toys aren't as taboo as he makes them out to be.
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Choolz you are not alone. My best friends husband is adamant against toys. She's been told she's not allowed to have one. Ever. He wants to be the only thing that gives her pleasure. Now that's extreme.
I think we've all had a partner who was insecure with a toy at some point in our lives. If it's bigger than them, or vibrates, to downright they just are insecure. Fact is men can't do what a toy can. They compare themselves with it and it's silly. You shouldn't compare yourself to inanimate objects. I can't do what a blow up can do for hours on end, do I feel bad about it? NO. Would I tell my partner not to have one? NO. Sadly not all men feel the same I guess.
Maybe try talking to him and getting to the root of why he really has an issue with them. He doesn't have to be all "Yay toys!," but maybe just a little more understanding that it's just a toy. Sexually it gives you what you need sometimes, but emotionally and mentally he is the one who fulfills you. Worth a shot. Maybe even bring him here and watch reviews or videos together to see some men are ok with it. No threat to his masculinity in any way less

My guy is totally cool with it.

He's often been known to tell people I not only have a bigger dick than he does, but ten or so of them. hehe.

I'm cool with his toy usage, too. Together or alone, folks need variety and different sensations at different times. I'd be sad if he didn't get that. less

If I were your friend, I'd kick this insecure little baby to the curb! "Not allowed to have one?" WTF?

My Man bought me my first sex toy. I didn't want it at first and I warmed up to the idea.

My body has changed during peri-menopause so that I can't have an orgasm without the use of a powerful want vibrator. It isn't his fault and it isn't mine. I'm just glad we are both mature enough to know that my pleasure is important enough to do anything that gets me off. He can get me 99.99% of the way there, but I only go over the edge with strong massagers.

He isn't threatened by dildos and large vibrators. Once in a while, he'll say, "I think that one is bigger than me." But, I measure it and it rarely is. He doesn't believe he's a big boy. Even if it were bigger than him, he gets off on using them on me, or even the idea that I use them alone.

If I mention something to him like "I pulled out the (whatever toy) this morning after you left for work." I am usually dragged into the bedroom at the first chance, because it turns him on. He's a very Sex Positive man, and it's one of the reasons I chose him to be my life partner. I could never spend my life, or really any time with men who are "threatened" by intimate objects. Nor one who didn't put sexual pleasure for both of us as his first priority.

I hope that didn't sound mean. It wasn't my intention. But, I think our partners take and run with what we allow them to run with. If someone you LOVE and who supposedly loves you doesn't understand your pleasure and need for it, there is some serious talking and working to do, that's all. less

I'd kick him to the curb as well. But she's weird in the same way. He's not allowed to watch porn or look at other girls naked ever. It's a very odd relationship to me. They're both very insecure I feel. I mean I love her to death of course but I couldn't imagine saying no to porn. Even I love porn. But she will literally come over and complain about looking through the computers history and finding it and the huge fight they just had. I just don't understand being that way together.

I had one toy before i started my job webcamming. Even that was collecting dust. But now that my job is to play with myself I thought I should make it as pleasurable as I can. Now I don't see me ever stopping or going back with someone who wasn't ok with me using them.

My partner now loves me using them alone, together, watching me using them, anything all the time. I love that he enjoys me having a good time. We figure as long as it isn't another person then all is fair game. We're very open and honest. I think it brings a couple closer together.

And I don't think you sounded mean in the slightest. I do feel someone who is insecure for whatever reason with you enjoying alone time with yourself, or the fact a toy can give you pleasure has some serious deep issues they need work on. less

I'm glad you understand where I was coming from. It sounds like they have a type of relationship that wouldn't work for you or I.

I figure if I went through My Man's computer history (which I don't do, unless he asks me to to find something, which he has done) and found something that I didn't like, I probably should have minded my own business in the first place. What'cha gonna do? less

My bf thinks one or two is ok but each time I get a new one he asks if I really need another toy. He doesn't want me to use them too much because he thinks I'll be less sensitive to him and he doesn't really like using them on me as he'd rather do the work himself. I can't seem to explain that it's not anything against him that I enjoy toys and that I won't be less responsive to him. It's more like enjoying chocolate and vanilla and cookies and cream ice cream. They're all different and good. I hate having to keep a secret stash for myself but I'm entitled to do with my body as I see fit and his work schedule leaves me with plenty of time to myself. less