what men want

oldman oldman
What Men Really Want in Bed review
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It seems to me that all these books/movies that claim to teach all that men want say the same things. At this point I wonder why these "guides" are repetative: they all say that men want great oral, enthusiasm from their partner in sex and total flatery and pumping up the man's ego. Don't men really want more out of a relaionship besides sex?

I find these guides ofensive to men. Anyone else feel the same way?
09/22/2011
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Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by oldman
It seems to me that all these books/movies that claim to teach all that men want say the same things. At this point I wonder why these "guides" are repetative: they all say that men want great oral, enthusiasm from their partner in sex ... More
Even as a woman I am offended for the men! I see things like that often, and I agree, many men want more than just sex! And, if women follow these books and start ignoring indications from their guy, then they will just be doing more damage than good. These books can be great for someone who just wants some laughs, or maybe an idea or two that they haven't thought of, but it is KEY to pay attention to your partner, and take note of what they like or don't like.
09/22/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
It's about as offensive as what they say "women want".
09/23/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
I hate the whole "what men/women want" mentality. Everyone's an individual, with different tastes and preferences. I really wish people would come around and start thinking, "What does THIS man/woman want?" instead.

I dated a guy who would always ask, "Do girls like ___?" I always told him that every girl is different before giving my own answer, but he never caught on. Drove me up the wall!
09/23/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
I hate the whole "what men/women want" mentality. Everyone's an individual, with different tastes and preferences. I really wish people would come around and start thinking, "What does THIS man/woman want?" instead.

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I agree.

I have friends who swear by Venus/Mars mentality (I find it offensive - so does my husband - to label all men or all women this way). They make so many assumptions of men/women that prior to a first date and they are so filled with preconceived notions, their dates don't have a chance in hell. Too me, it is infuriating to hear them give advice to others based solely on this philosophy.
09/23/2011
AshMegYo AshMegYo
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Originally posted by oldman
It seems to me that all these books/movies that claim to teach all that men want say the same things. At this point I wonder why these "guides" are repetative: they all say that men want great oral, enthusiasm from their partner in sex ... More
I would think they want more.. I mean, yeah there are guys who want nothing but great sex, but there are men out there who want more. My boyfriend makes sure that I'm also satisfied, not just him.
Those are just sterotypes to me.
10/10/2011
mmike1900 mmike1900
Any book that tries to generalize a whole demographic cannot be trusted.
10/18/2011
oldman oldman
Where are the men? Why aren't they contributing their opinions?
11/28/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Peggi
Even as a woman I am offended for the men! I see things like that often, and I agree, many men want more than just sex! And, if women follow these books and start ignoring indications from their guy, then they will just be doing more damage than ... More
Well said.
11/28/2011
swaggsohott12 swaggsohott12
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Originally posted by oldman
It seems to me that all these books/movies that claim to teach all that men want say the same things. At this point I wonder why these "guides" are repetative: they all say that men want great oral, enthusiasm from their partner in sex ... More
who cares what they want it 2011 ladies get what you want
11/29/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
I think it's true that it definitely simplifies "what men want" and generalizes too much, as not all men want the same things.

However, in terms of sex, those ARE the most frequent things that at least my guy friends say they want. Though great head is usually more of a sarcastic/joking kind of thing. They may like it, but it's also not like they're saying "god the blowjobs im getting are just so boring!" it's more of a "more is always welcome *wink*" sort of thing.

The enthusiasm is probably the biggest one, and I find it the most agreeable as well. It's not just that he needs his ego stroked or whatever. I mean really, would you enjoy having sex with someone who didn't act like they cared or enjoyed what was going on? It may seem silly as this is EF, so there probably aren't too many people around these parts who can really relate to the level of disinterest MANY women show for sex. It just doesn't feel good and isn't that fun. It might seem silly to us, but trust me, there are many many many women out there who need to be beaten over the head with something telling them to enjoy themselves more.

Or maybe they're all just unknowingly asexual. No idea. Either way, it's no fun to be with someone like that if you, you know, want to enjoy sex with your partner. Overall, I don't find it that offensive.
11/29/2011
oldman oldman
This is a good start! Thanks.
12/01/2011
sexydelphia sexydelphia
i don't think a book can tell us everything a man or women want. while some of those things may be true each person is different and wants different things. so i mean you can look at those books but its better to find out what your partner wants in the relationship rather than reading a book which is making a general statement
12/01/2011
ijako9 ijako9
I am man. Give me sex or I will die. Of course we want more than that. Well I do anyway. I love being in a reltionship and spending time with someone I know cares a about me a great deal
12/02/2011
geliebt geliebt
I'm not a fan of any overgeneralizations like this. People are all very, very different and it's just so hard to pin down shared desires like this.
12/03/2011
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