I think both my husband and I are better off having had other partners.
I was a virgin when I started dating My Man (easily corrected) and he was older and had experience with women. But we started an Open Relationship about a year into our relationship. He wanted to sow some wild oats, and we both thought I did not have enough experience with men and needed to get out there and see what other men were like. I didn't want to wake up one day in my 30s (or older) and say, "What the hell did I miss?"
I can say that after "sampling the goods" we have both come to the conclusion that we are the best partners for each other. We are both highly sexual, and we found out that we WERE the best for each other. After dating some guys who had a mortal fear of cunnilingus, and other hang ups, and my husband having similar experiences with sexually repressed women, we were GLAD we went out there and found out for sure
that we were the best for each other.
There is no "wondering" in our relationship
. We know what other people are like and it helps us appreciate each other more.
Like I said before, I wouldn't buy a car without a test drive or a house with a a walk through. Also, I wouldn't buy the first car or house I saw, without seeing others to make sure I know what's right for me.