Ladies, is it a "myth" or "truth" that a lot of woman "fake orgasm"?

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Ladies, is it a "myth" or "truth" that a lot of woman "fake orgasm"?

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I haven't ever faked if they aren't getting me there I let them know. I would rather tell the truth and work through it to show them what works for me and what doesn't then to lead them on thinking they are amazing in bed when they aren't
04/13/2013
never shy never shy
Don't have to my hubby has excellent control and makes sure I have had one until he finishes
04/13/2013
Silverwinds Silverwinds
Never had an orgasm. We keep getting close, but then I get distracted and start stressing. I hope that once I learn how too, I never fake one, but I hate having my partner feel bad.
04/13/2013
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
I never really understood the point of faking one. The reasoning of not wanting to hurt your partners feelings isn't even a valid one in my mind. Unless the G Spot is stimulated I can not cum from vaginal penetration alone I always let my partners know that and as long as I enjoyed the sex I also let them know that.
04/15/2013
jessi2 jessi2
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Originally posted by Mwar
I don't lie about orgasm, but I will sound a little more enthused than I am to speed him along.
Now that I am a lesbian, I find that I do not have to do this as often as I did when I was having sex with a man. But motivating them with good sounds was as close as I came to faking it. I enjoy my orgasm too much to be a quitter for myself.
04/16/2013
JADE76 JADE76
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
yes i have faked it because i was tired
05/23/2013
ChaiMocha ChaiMocha
I did it all of once, to make my partner feel better. But I realized its really a stupid thing to do because then no progress can be made.
05/23/2013
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I've never faked it. I usually orgasm at least once while we're having sex. The rare cases when I don't disappoint him, but I'm not going to lie to him.
05/23/2013
rosythorn rosythorn
I don't but it makes him feel bad, that is why we got a vibrator
05/23/2013
KiraCat KiraCat
I don't think I ever have but my sister has admitted she has, but she has good reason because apparently her boyfriend gets really turned on when she orgasms so he gets more into it meaning sometimes the only way for her to actually orgasm is to pretend she already did.
07/22/2013
ViVix ViVix
Truth. I usually fake them when it just doesn't feel good anymore or too much emphasis is placed on it, and I don't want to kill his ego by telling him so.
07/23/2013
Ansley Ansley
For me, it's a myth.
07/23/2013
Sincerely Yours, N Sincerely Yours, N
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
I've done it before because I'd get bored and want it to end... and have found that some partners hold back until they think I'm orgasming.

To be entirely honest, I've never actually orgasmed with a partner.
08/01/2013
Lavender*Moon Lavender*Moon
I have faked it. Reason (simple): To get him off. Reason (complex): I was in a marriage with an emotionally abusive man. So for obvious reasons the thought of him even touching me turned me off. The only way to get him off was for me to fake it. Otherwise I would be ridiculed for not getting him off. It was pure self preservation.

Other than that, I have never faked it. I've never needed to fake it.
08/23/2013
Pete's Princess Pete's Princess
No I have never faked one.
08/25/2013
subwayrailings subwayrailings
have never done it
09/27/2013
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
NO, I don't fake anything. Never even lied about anything to him.
09/27/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Never had to.
09/27/2013
Irish Fyre Queen Irish Fyre Queen
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
I am a woman who never has, and never will. My question is...if YOU do, why? What is the real reason you feel compelled to do that? Please explain.
I have faked it many times. I'm extremely hard to get off and I don't want him to kill himself trying. So, I give him the 'signal' he needs to go ahead and get off. I fake it for a good reason.
Jan 13, 9:16 pm
apodosis apodosis
I used to fake orgasms when I was younger. Part of it, for me, was just not having enough self-respect or agency to realize that my experience mattered. I only faked when the sex wasn't fun for me, which was pretty often because I didn't feel like I was allowed to give any constructive criticism or ask for what I wanted (I'd read too many novels with male protagonists in which sex was a thing he does to her, and she's either good and yielding or she's nothing; and she certainly never has opinions or preferences). It genuinely didn't occur to me until I was maybe 24 that I was a person, and one half of the people involved, and was allowed to want things and even sometimes maybe to get what I wanted. So my goal in sex was to get him off, and when sex was boring or uncomfortable, I wanted that to happen faster. Faking enthusiasm and faking orgasm made it over sooner.

I think faking orgasms is a phenomenon born of two things. 1) cultural attitudes toward sex that obscure or repress women's sexual agency, and 2) lack of communication about sex between the partners.
Aug 13, 7:01 pm
toysforall toysforall
My wife has told me she's never faked one. Not sure I believe her....
Sep 17, 8:09 pm
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