Oh my goodness, I can so relate to Naughty Student, Firemeup, Machina, Anica and DaniDarling.
I have noticed through reading these comments that there are 9 other people who picked "doesn't put out" and yet, very few references have been made to the actual frustration of this, so here I am!
I don't know what it is, exactly, if I'm just too
sexual of a person or if he just isn't, but my partner is not in the mood half as much as I am and it is so frustrating! Ideally if I had my way, we would have sex once daily, maybe twice. The way our sexual relationship works, however, is very different. He's turned on and ready to go maybe three times a week and that just will not work for me. I have my toys sure, but sometimes no vibrator, dildo, or whatever else I have in my arsenal will compare to the bated breath, sweaty, hands-on, real deal and sometimes you are just craving human interaction, not silicone or elastomer or plastic interaction!
While I can understand that we do have a significant age difference (10 years) he's still in his early thirties and his libido shouldn't be gone already. I can also understand that he does have significant stress factors in his every day life, such as having to put up with the frequent insanity of his ex-wife as she treats their two children liked property instead of like human beings. He is also a musician and a video game programmer, so working in a field that relies heavily on creativity, I can also relate to the fact that when you get the mojo running, you have to run with it. But that doesn't stop me from being disappointing a lot of the time, especially, as a lot of the people I mentioned in the beginning of this post have said, when you go through all the shaving, trimming and primping and then he's just not going for it when you present him with this masterpiece of femininity that you worked for a good long time on.
To be fair (see, I'm always fair!) when he does put out, he is extraordinary. He understands foreplay and when he goes down on me, oh my goodness. Fireworks. Really.
Thanks for the place to vent about this!