Pulling out-Still a myth of birth control??

Peaches2000 Peaches2000
I just had a discussion with my teenage brother. I could not believe my ears. He said his friend is using the “pull out” method as a form of birth control for him and his girlfriend. After all the education and resources avaliable, are kids really that ignorant today?
04/10/2012
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bayosgirl bayosgirl
According to Planned Parenthood, withdrawal is 96% effective "when used correctly." I personally used it almost exclusively as a method since I became sexually active (6 years) and only got pregnant recently. My partners were older men though; something tells me most teenage boys probably won't have the control necessary to pull out at the right time.
04/10/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
When done correctly, absolutely effective. Hopefully they're doing it right.
04/10/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
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Originally posted by Sex Positivity
When done correctly, absolutely effective. Hopefully they're doing it right.
Not always. My husband "did it correctly" (i.e. he pulled out before he came) and I still got pregnant. The issue is SOME men have sperm in their pre-cum (and some do not.) Of those that do, the sperm count is generally so low that pregnancy is virtually impossible. There is always that chance, though.
04/10/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
Not always. My husband "did it correctly" (i.e. he pulled out before he came) and I still got pregnant. The issue is SOME men have sperm in their pre-cum (and some do not.) Of those that do, the sperm count is generally so low that ... More
When using the "pull out" method, you are supposed to urinate before and after ejaculation, removing sperm left from the last ejaculation and keeping the pre-cum free of sperm.
04/10/2012
Elnoa Elnoa
Buy the boy a condom and direct him to Scarleteen.com. :/ Yes, they are that ignorant.
04/10/2012
Tao of Tantra Tao of Tantra
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Originally posted by Peaches2000
I just had a discussion with my teenage brother. I could not believe my ears. He said his friend is using the “pull out” method as a form of birth control for him and his girlfriend. After all the education and resources avaliable, are kids really ... More
It'd be effective except for the fact that pre-ejaculate often has a denser sperm content than sperm itself, and while it's missing many of the other constituents, the thrusting can push it in. So even if you don't ejaculate it isn't all good.
04/10/2012
ladychristie ladychristie
My ex husband and I used this method effectively for 10 yrs. I'm not saying it's fool proof but it worked for us.
04/10/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Planned Parenthood says it can work if the couple are both on board with it working, if the man has VERY good control (he has to pull out before the orgasm starts, if he urinates before you begin to have sex, so that the urethra is cleared out, and if it is practiced to the letter.

My husband and I have used this for years. I get pregnant at the drop of a hat. I've never gotten pregnant from withdrawal, except once when I thought I was in my "Safe Time" and I asked him not to pull out. But, that's a problem with Natural Family Planning (which is a bust in our house) other than withdrawal.

I have some doubts whether most teenage boys have enough control to do this accurately, but those who have the control and know the way to do it should have a near 97% protection rate.

It's not "ignorant" at all.

I'm a nurse and my husband is a Senior Staff Engineer, we're educated people and educated about sex. We wouldn't be using an "ignorant" birth control method.

However, this method does take dedication and control. One slip up and your protection is not going to be there. Personally, I'd rather see teens using condoms, as it also adds a layer of protection against pregnancy and protection from disease. It's also harder to mess up condoms.

Here's the Planned Parenthood Information on how to properly use withdrawal, who it works well for and how and when to use it, as well as the effectiveness rate.
04/10/2012
Beck Beck
It is not ignorant. Pull out or withdrawal method is a valid type of birth control. Look it up at planned parenthood and try to educate them on how to do it the right way. It is effective as long as the male has absolute control and urinates before intercourse. We use withdrawal for a long time after I had my first son.
04/10/2012
Castielskitten Castielskitten
i dont believe in that, mainly because it can even take a little bit of pre-come to get a woman pregnant :/ but no. it's not ignorant. a lot of people use it and it seems to work for them :3 then again, when i was growing up, i didn't take the time to learn about the withdrawel method.probably should.
04/10/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
It's not ignorant, but Planned Parenthood explicitly states that the pull-out method is not recommended for those who are newly sexually active (like teens). It should also be clearly noted that the pull-out method is only effective when it comes to reducing pregnancy, not STD's/STI's. Teens, who will likely have multiple partners over their lifetime, should be considering that implication as well.

So yeah, I'd be concerned about them and would advocate condom usage for any sexually active teens. It just makes good sense.
04/10/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Castielskitten
i dont believe in that, mainly because it can even take a little bit of pre-come to get a woman pregnant :/ but no. it's not ignorant. a lot of people use it and it seems to work for them :3 then again, when i was growing up, i didn't take ... More
Please read this link
04/10/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Wow that is crazy! I heard that even the slightest pre-cum can get a woman pregnant so the pull out method is not a very effective birth control method.
04/10/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by xOhxSoxScandalousx
Wow that is crazy! I heard that even the slightest pre-cum can get a woman pregnant so the pull out method is not a very effective birth control method.
Please read the links to the Planned Parenthood site.

The "pre-cum" thing is mostly urban legend. IF the man urinates since his last ejaculation, there should be NO semen in the urethra.

Most "accidents" using withdrawal are because the man waited too long and a millisecond too long into the actual orgasm can release real semen into the vagina. The man has to have very good control (which is why it works better for men with a LOT of sexual as well as masturbatory experience than those who are new to sex and orgasming) and never prematurely ejaculate to use this method successfully.

The penis needs to be withdrawn BEFORE the orgasm starts, and many men without a lot of sexual experience are not going to be able to do this.

But, it does work, and works well when the man has good orgasm control and knows before the orgasm starts so he can pull out and get FAR from the labia.
04/10/2012
SaraBroughman SaraBroughman
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
According to Planned Parenthood, withdrawal is 96% effective "when used correctly." I personally used it almost exclusively as a method since I became sexually active (6 years) and only got pregnant recently. My partners were older men ... More
I agree. It's hard to resist cumming inside of your girlfriend when you're a young boy. It's just too much of a temptation. I think condoms should be more readily available for younglings if they're going to have sex at a young age.
04/10/2012
Kissy Kissy
It worked for 3 years! Then failed...
04/10/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by bayosgirl
According to Planned Parenthood, withdrawal is 96% effective "when used correctly." I personally used it almost exclusively as a method since I became sexually active (6 years) and only got pregnant recently. My partners were older men ... More
My problem is that I don't know anyone who has used this method who hasn't ended up pregnant. It seems to me this is a risky form of birth control.
04/12/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by Kissy
It worked for 3 years! Then failed...
This is the feedback I have heard from most people. Eventually it fails. Personally, I have never relied on this method, so I'm not expert
04/12/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by Elnoa
Buy the boy a condom and direct him to Scarleteen.com. :/ Yes, they are that ignorant.
I agree. Why not use a method that is more reliable?
04/12/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by ladychristie
My ex husband and I used this method effectively for 10 yrs. I'm not saying it's fool proof but it worked for us.
Maybe it really is the age or experience factor?? Is there an actual method to the pull out system that is effective?
04/12/2012
Peaches2000 Peaches2000
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Planned Parenthood says it can work if the couple are both on board with it working, if the man has VERY good control (he has to pull out before the orgasm starts, if he urinates before you begin to have sex, so that the urethra is cleared out, and ... More
I hear you and appreciate your points as I think they are valid. My concern is that 1) these kids are relying on this method as fool proof with limited experience and research and 2) You did actaully get pregnany doing it.

As a parent and a nurse myself, I would have a problem if my child came home and said he or she were relying on the pull out method to avoid pregnancy.
04/12/2012
Chirple Chirple
While I don't argue that it's a valid method of birth control, I think it's incredibly foolish for teenagers to rely on it.

I know there are those rare exceptions, but that's asking a lot of a teen, I think, to have that level of experience and control. You're young and you're really excited, maybe haven't done this all that many times with a partner - it's easy to have an "OOPS" in the heat of the moment.

And as a teen, you're not in the best position to deal with the outcome of an "oops", either. Condoms, birth-control pills - something else should be used at that age when you REALLY cannot afford to have that mistake happen.
04/12/2012
ladychristie ladychristie
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Originally posted by Peaches2000
Maybe it really is the age or experience factor?? Is there an actual method to the pull out system that is effective?
I'm really not sure, we never researched it much. We just did it, he had very good control. So I'm going to say it was probably experience.
04/13/2012
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