Ugh... I've tried almost everything

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Ugh... I've tried almost everything

TiffySmilez TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
06/23/2010
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Kynky Kytty Kynky Kytty
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I find it difficult to have a vaginal orgasm on my own with toys. Personally, I usually have a lot of good stimulation, but unless I masturbate at the same time or use a vibe on my clit, I won't reach an orgasm. It's hard keeping up with the trusts while close to orgasm, and I keep losing it. It's possible, but it's rare, and I got to fantasize more in those cases.

Gotta go to bed, but just play around, and enjoy the good feelings.
06/23/2010
MeghanLeigh003 MeghanLeigh003
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I have the same problem. I need pretty intense clitoral stimulation, otherwise I would take me hours if I could manage at all. Hopefully someone has a good suggestion for a toy that works well.
06/23/2010
Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
My wife went through that until she figured out that she has to be very aroused before it can happen. That meant a lot of clit play beforehand, almost to the point of orgasm, before inserting a toy. She and we spent months using that method until her body seemed to realize there was more than one way to get happy. Now it doesn't take so much foreplay to get her to have a vaginal orgasm.
06/23/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
My wife went through that until she figured out that she has to be very aroused before it can happen. That meant a lot of clit play beforehand, almost to the point of orgasm, before inserting a toy. She and we spent months using that method until her ...
I agree completely. Even after a lot of clit stimulation, we start pretty slow and shallow with vaginal penetration. As she warms to the action - she'll press her hips toward me to let me know it's OK to go deeper, faster and/or harder. It also helps to stay in tuned with her breathing - after you learn to read the signals no 'instructions' are required.
06/23/2010
Victoria Victoria
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
This is a pretty common thing for women - I personally use a g-spot specific toy while using a clit vibrator at the same time. I cannot have vaginal orgasms by just having intercourse with my husband. I know I need clit stimulation. It is what it is - and I can work around that.
06/23/2010
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
I have a very hard time with vaginal orgasms as well, when masturbating. My body needs a very specific position. I also have a friend that can only have vaginal orgasms while she's in the girl-on-top position.

Work with your body, see what it likes. Try different positions; doggy style, being on top, on your side, standing, etc.

Sometimes we also need clit stimulation, so try that as well when you're using a dildo/vibrator.

Also, sometimes my body wants a dildo rather than vibrator, so maybe try one of those instead? Just keep on trying and you'll eventually find out what your body wants/likes
07/20/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
Trial and error girlie...you are doing all you can really.
07/20/2010
happeegrl03 happeegrl03
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
Trial and error girlie...you are doing all you can really.
i agree with Lauren.. trial and error is the key. I find that i can have great vaginal orgasms if i have a toy that bumps up against my g-spot. Have you tried a toy made for g-spot stimulation? maybe one that is a vibrating g-spot toy?
07/20/2010
joja joja
I find it much, much easier to have a vaginal orgasm (alone or with a partner) shortly after a clitoral one.
07/26/2010
Envy Envy
Every woman and every body is different. Some women might never have them, some start having them as they age, some can at the drop of a hat. I can't myself, so don't feel bad.
07/26/2010
Darling Jen Darling Jen
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I didn't even realize until this site that so many women actually experience G-spot orgasms. I've actually never had one. I thought they were rare and didn't commonly happen.

But now I want one. I wonder what I've been missing...
07/26/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I'm in the same boat. It's truly unfortunate. And here's just a bump.
07/26/2010
happeegrl03 happeegrl03
Here's an idea, play with your clit until you are close to orgasm then stop. Repeat and repeat and repeat again until you cant take it anymore, then try vaginal.
07/26/2010
Avant-garde Avant-garde
Statistics show that only 20 to 30% of woman can orgasm vaginally. Your definitely in the majority.
07/26/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
BUMP! You aren't alone in trying to figure it out. It took me years of convincing myself to just do whatever I have to do to make it work, no matter how I looked doing it. I was very self-conscious. Then my brother's ex-gf told me she would hump the carpet to have an orgasm. I didn't feel so bad then about humping pillows
07/26/2010
YoungCouple YoungCouple
Do you have a magic wand? Try that on your clit during vaginal penetration and stop the hitachi right before you come, maybe cumming with something inside you even clitorally will transfer some confidence for those vaginal orgasm's.

The only way I can orgasm vaginally is when i am on top and hubby hits my cervix. Or after about an hour of dildo play in EXACTLY the right mood.

Vaginal orgasm's are a bitch.
07/27/2010
Sera Sera
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I usually only have that kind of orgasm happen when I'm making love to my husband, especially missionary, because he's hitting my G-spot. That's when I have a vaginal orgasm.
10/25/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
Unless you have the requisite nerve bundles located in such a way as to afford you a vaginal orgasm you simply won't be able to have one. Only a very small percentage of women have the clitoral nerves close enough to the vaginal barrel that they can full body orgasm from penetration. The drawback is that most of these women can have extreme problems having clitoral orgasms. Most women require clitoral stimulation in conjunction with penetration to orgasm.

On the upside it does open the way for you to relax and enjoy your clitoral orgasms and look for your G spot which with stimulation can produce an amazing orgasm. It generally won't happen on it's own but it's a lot of fun learning where the tissues are located and how best to stimulate them. You can train your body to engorge the erectile tissues of the g spot and simulate a vaginal orgasm but it still won't be the same intensity as a clitoral orgasm.
10/25/2010
RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
It doesn't do much for me either, so when I masturbate with toys, I usually stick to clitoral stimulation. Works *every* time.
12/17/2010
ScottA ScottA
If you can't then just enjoy the orgasms you do get.
12/17/2010
markeagleone markeagleone
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
try and let your partner watch while you masterbate yourselfit works
01/16/2011
aBeastlyLittleThing aBeastlyLittleThing
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
psshh. i've never had one...i've had it feel really good during intercourse, but i've never cum from it.
03/15/2011
Kaltir Kaltir
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Originally posted by Kynky Kytty
I find it difficult to have a vaginal orgasm on my own with toys. Personally, I usually have a lot of good stimulation, but unless I masturbate at the same time or use a vibe on my clit, I won't reach an orgasm. It's hard keeping up with the ...
Ditto.
03/18/2011
Astia Astia
Aside from all of this great advice, perhaps try to tone up your vagina with kegels. Before I started doing them it was nearly impossible for me to have a vaginal orgasm, but after a few months of doing kegels every day, I was considerably tighter and it was easier for my husband or toys to stimulate my g-spot. Now it's pretty easy to reach vaginal orgasm for me as long as the foreplay is there to get me riled up.
03/18/2011
Rossie Rossie
Have your partner finger your G-spot while using his/her tongue to gently work on your clit should do the trick. It works for me every time.
03/19/2011
Daniel & Brittany Daniel & Brittany
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
I was having that problem , but thank God that we finilly found the right toy to fill my needs, i was getting very fusterated se i couldnt have a orgazm, untell we orded the answer to my dreams, ladys you have no idea what your missing, i didnt know what i was missing, untill the night i got my very very very favorite toy THE WILD G, my best friend!!! and yeah there is a trick/ angle that you have to hit just right, i find it best and easiest to hit the g spot when i have my ass proped up on a pillow so you can hit the right angle whick is hard to find but if you take your fingertip along the top of the vagina until you find an area that is rougher than the rest of that vaginal wall and at first it may feel werid or odd but if it feels good dont stop cause i know for a fact it'll make you squirt and rip of the sheets when ya find the right spot!!Hope ya find it !!

Britt
03/28/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Wow, I'm surprised to read that most women do rely almost completely on clitoral stimulation. I find personally that my clit is far too sensitive to let it take me all the way to orgasm. I use clitoral stimulation to get me going sometimes, but I find that I only need it to get me partway there, and then it's too much. I guess I just, found my g-spot early on, even without toys to help. I wish you luck in this endeavor, it's a lot of fun!
03/28/2011
Retro Retro
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Originally posted by Victoria
This is a pretty common thing for women - I personally use a g-spot specific toy while using a clit vibrator at the same time. I cannot have vaginal orgasms by just having intercourse with my husband. I know I need clit stimulation. It is what it is ...
I am the same way. I have to have double stimulation. I can get close through sex but never quite cross the finish line =(
06/05/2011
Pleasure gal Pleasure gal
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Originally posted by TiffySmilez
I've tried three different toys and it is still difficult for me to have vaginal orgasms. What am I missing? Is there some toy, skill, trick or angle that I should try?
Let pleasure be your guide and you might want to try a toy w/ more girth. I'm new to toys, but found bigger w/ vibration was very different and very nice. Ive heard there can be vaginal numbness from various things (trauma, childbirth, etc) that w/ massage and stimulation can regain sensitivity and increasing pleasure. Enjoy the ride.
06/07/2011
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