Women have to scream, Men have to enjoy that. Is it true?

Moein Moein
In Hentai movies, eastern traditions show us Women suffer and scream at sexual intercourse, and their faces show painfull failings. On other side Men enjoy it.

What do say about that? Is it a nature thing? Or it is just a women acting things on bed?

Note: (It is a private poll)
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    I am personally offended by this
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I am a Man. Yes, women realy suffer sexual intercourse.
I am a Man. No, women just acting.
14
I am a Man, Yes I enjoy that, I like to feel Sado feeling
1
I am a Man. No, I hate that. It makes me feel guilty hurting her.
15
I am a Woman. Yes, we always suffer sexual intercourse and scream.
7
I am a Woman. No, we just acting to enjoy Maso feeling.
32
Other,
54
Total votes: 123 (111 voters)
Poll is closed
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Elnoa Elnoa
There is very little difference, often, in the ways we express intense pleasure and intense pain. Check out your own face next time you break a leg and compare it to the contorted expression you have in the midst of a mind-blowing orgasm.

I don't think hentai is always intending to portray agony, but intensity (although there are some really obvious exceptions that I will not bother to discuss).
11/06/2011
PeppermintFuntimes PeppermintFuntimes
Er, I watch hentai and the 'screaming' is mostly pleasure, depending on what hentai you prefer. The faces are over-exaggerated for the sake of entertainment as most mainstream porn is directed towards males. Your way of writing made your question kind of hard to decipher.
11/06/2011
Rossie Rossie
Great analysis by Elnoa and PeppermintFuntimes.
11/06/2011
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
In Hentai movies, eastern traditions show us Women suffer and scream at sexual intercourse, and their faces show painfull failings. On other side Men enjoy it.

What do say about that? Is it a nature thing? Or it is just a women acting things ... More
The phrasing of this question didn't make a lot of sense to me, sorry.
11/06/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
If hentai is a true depiction of real life, then the rest of anime is, too.

Where's the Galaxy Express three-9? I wanna ride the galaxy rails.

11/06/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I've seen mine and my man's expressions when we're at the peak of pleasure, and while the expressions look somewhat pained, there's ZERO pain involved. Bring a mirror to bed and check yourself out, as well as pay attention to your partner.

I have had sex that was painful, and my reaction was OW! and STOP! Big difference between that and a pleasured moan.
11/06/2011
Rarity Rarity
Many Asian women in porn seem to do it for the sake of acting. They may react to pleasure in that way but I find it hard to believe that a whole group of people react the same way. (I'm Asian too, why aren't I more vocal in sex?) Honestly, I don't find it to be a turn-on when the woman sounds as if she's whining and crying.

Most all of porn is acting. If you want something a little more real, amateur porn may be better to watch.
11/06/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
If hentai is a true depiction of real life, then the rest of anime is, too.

Where's the Galaxy Express three-9? I wanna ride the galaxy rails.

I'm more interested in giant robots, myself.

The simple answer is: no, women don't have to scream, and men don't have to enjoy or desire screaming. No one has any fundamental obligations in their sexual lives. It's all up to individual preferences and reactions.

It is true that some individuals partially lose control of their muscle movements and vocalizations during sexual ecstasy, but this isn't true of everyone. Even for those that do experience this, it's not usually an expression of pain or anything like that. Everyone's experiences will be different. As some others have said, expressions of extreme pain and extreme pleasure can come eerily close to one another, and many people's faces contort "painfully" at orgasm.

Professional pornography, animated or otherwise, is seldom done with total realism - same as with just about any film, animated or otherwise. Porn is often targeted towards those who desire a more over-the-top display. "Eastern tradition" has nothing to do with it whatsoever.

(I will also note that the way the question was phrased was a tad confusing. And you don't have to tell us if a poll is private, unless you want to ensure more answers from shyer forumgoers by displaying it in the topic's subject. Whether a poll is private or public is displayed above the poll itself. )
11/06/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
There is very little difference, often, in the ways we express intense pleasure and intense pain. Check out your own face next time you break a leg and compare it to the contorted expression you have in the midst of a mind-blowing orgasm.

I ... More
Thanks Elona,

The question is not about (Hentai persons), sorry if you understod that. It is about real sex experiences. The Hentai example is given to give you an imaginary thing instead describing it by words.

Also, nothing there to compare between orgasm and broken leg, unless you had a broken leg through orgasm
11/06/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by PeppermintFuntimes
Er, I watch hentai and the 'screaming' is mostly pleasure, depending on what hentai you prefer. The faces are over-exaggerated for the sake of entertainment as most mainstream porn is directed towards males. Your way of writing made your ... More
Hard to decipher !!

It is sooo simple and direct question. here it is again:

Do women always show fake or real pain feelings through sexual intercourse?

Yes I know that at first time in woman sex life she feels actualy pain (Physically and Psychological). But later on, Does that continue?
If yes, is it Normal or Fake?

I hope it is now soo clear
11/06/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by ThoughtsAblaze
I've seen mine and my man's expressions when we're at the peak of pleasure, and while the expressions look somewhat pained, there's ZERO pain involved. Bring a mirror to bed and check yourself out, as well as pay attention to your ... More
Thanks ThoughtsAblaze,

I hope you are now keep follow this thread, and answer my question:

Do you as a woman like to show pain at pleasure time what ever actions you may do (Big OOOOOO, Louad AAAAAAAAAAAAAAH, Scream, any face actions reveal pain, or try to escape, ... etc) ??
11/07/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
I see. Well, I don't know of any woman who would fake that she is in pain from sex, and I also don't think it's always normal for a woman to experience pain (physical or otherwise) during sex, even the first time! I experienced no pain, and I know many women who have not (and many who have).

However, I do know women who will "exaggerate" during sex to make it more entertaining for her partner. Certainly not all do it (again, I don't). Even so, some women do really feel the urge to scream and let go, and often look quite pained, while other women are very quiet and reserved (like myself). It depends on the lady!
11/07/2011
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I can swing either way. Usually if I scream it's in pleasure, though--trust me! However, I'm not opposed to more masochism either.

To be fair, however, hentai really isn't a very accurate depiction of real life.
11/07/2011
mudpie mudpie
Women "have" to scream? If a woman is screaming from PAIN there's something very very wrong. (If it's not from pain... carry on.)
11/11/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I'm into screams of ecstasy, but not pain...
11/11/2011
emilia emilia
Quote:
Originally posted by Rossie
Great analysis by Elnoa and PeppermintFuntimes.
Agreed
11/11/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by Rarity
Many Asian women in porn seem to do it for the sake of acting. They may react to pleasure in that way but I find it hard to believe that a whole group of people react the same way. (I'm Asian too, why aren't I more vocal in sex?) Honestly, ... More
Thanks,
No, I am not asking about the movies, I am just asking about real life. I know that my wife is just acting to add more exciting, but in fact I can't tell her that.
11/12/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
Honestly I am pretty loud when by myself or with a partner. Not screaming necissarily, but normally loud moaning. I have had orgasms that make me cry and the expression on myself may have looked like I was feeling pain. I normally cover my face with a pillow though. lol.
11/12/2011
Moein Moein
Quote:
Originally posted by Sinfully
Honestly I am pretty loud when by myself or with a partner. Not screaming necissarily, but normally loud moaning. I have had orgasms that make me cry and the expression on myself may have looked like I was feeling pain. I normally cover my face with ... More
Interesting,

some Gentelmen voted for ((hate causing pain to their female partners)), so how can I know if my wife just realy has pain or she just add excitement to situation?? Is there any clue?
11/13/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Hard to decipher !!

It is sooo simple and direct question. here it is again:

Do women always show fake or real pain feelings through sexual intercourse?

Yes I know that at first time in woman sex life she feels actualy pain ... More
the pain of the first time doesn't happen for everyone. it will only happen if A) your hymen is still in tact and B) if it breaks.

some women have sex multiple times before it breaks. and some do not experience pain with it breaking.

as for myself, it broke using a tampon 4 years before my first sexual intercourse experience.


i think to answer your question, sex should not hurt, unless both partners have consented to participate in BDSM, sado/masochist play. normal sex does not hurt, it feels good! what PGell was saying is the sounds and facial expressions one makes are similar to those one might make when they break a leg, or in my boyfriend's case, when he's lifting weights. haha. he makes the same teeth-grinding face when he's fucking me as when he's lifting something heavy. he will also grunt and squeal sometimes. it's not a 'woman' or a 'man' thing. it's a human thing.

chimps and other animals also grunt during sex. it's a sound expressing intense sensation, in this case, pleasure.
11/13/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Interesting,

some Gentelmen voted for ((hate causing pain to their female partners)), so how can I know if my wife just realy has pain or she just add excitement to situation?? Is there any clue?
just ask her if it hurts! silly.
11/13/2011
ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Thanks ThoughtsAblaze,

I hope you are now keep follow this thread, and answer my question:

Do you as a woman like to show pain at pleasure time what ever actions you may do (Big OOOOOO, Louad AAAAAAAAAAAAAAH, Scream, any face actions ... More
Did you read the first part of my post? The facial expressions of pleasure and pain can appear very similar during intercourse; so while I (and many other women--again, be more cognizant of expressions next time you're having sex or watch something other than hentai) carry a look that is somewhat pained, I'm really pleased. No, I don't loudly scream when I'm having sex because it's not painful. Nor do I try to escape because it's not painful. If sex is painful, then I express in a very clear "stop doing that!"

You are equating screams, loud vocalizations, certain facial expressions, etc as showing pain, and this is not the case. If you think they're coming from pain, stop what you're doing and ask your partner.
11/13/2011
Cherry21 Cherry21
I've always been self-conscious about how loud i get. I've heard guys say that a girl being too loud is annoying, fake, distracting, etc.

My husband loves it, but even he sometimes asks me to quiet down for a bit so her can regain his composure, and not cum. I'm just naturally too loud i guess lol.
11/13/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by Moein
Interesting,

some Gentelmen voted for ((hate causing pain to their female partners)), so how can I know if my wife just realy has pain or she just add excitement to situation?? Is there any clue?
Um, ask. It's hard to get anywhere if you don't communicate with one another. If she's screaming in ecstasy you've got nothing to worry about, but if she's actually in pain she might be worried about upsetting you if she brings it up herself. It's best to just ask her if you're worried about it.
11/14/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
the pain of the first time doesn't happen for everyone. it will only happen if A) your hymen is still in tact and B) if it breaks.

some women have sex multiple times before it breaks. and some do not experience pain with it ... More
Actually, the hymen doesn't really work that way. That's another myth. Pain and bleeding are caused by vaginal tearing, which usually happens if there isn't enough lubrication (natural or otherwise), the woman isn't relaxed enough, or there's something being forced into her that she isn't ready to take.

The hymen is just a thin, fragile layer of tissue that often breaks on its own well before a woman has anything inside her. It can break from gymnastics, horse- or bike-riding, stretching the legs, or even just a bad fall. Some ladies are even born with incomplete or broken hymens, while others may not have one at all. Or, as you said, it may manage to hold up better than that. But it does not cause any bleeding when it breaks.
11/14/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
Actually, the hymen doesn't really work that way. That's another myth. Pain and bleeding are caused by vaginal tearing, which usually happens if there isn't enough lubrication (natural or otherwise), the woman isn't relaxed enough, or ... More
i know that. guess i didn't word it very well. moein and i have spoken lots on these threads about the hymen and how it works, and how it can break long before sex ever occurs via tampon usage or an accident. thanks for posting the info though!
11/14/2011
Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
Quote:
Originally posted by aliceinthehole
i know that. guess i didn't word it very well. moein and i have spoken lots on these threads about the hymen and how it works, and how it can break long before sex ever occurs via tampon usage or an accident. thanks for posting the info though!
Ah. I got a little confused, since you mentioned the pain of the first time would only happen if the hymen was intact and broke during the act. That's the main point I was trying to contest, but I might have misunderstood you.
11/15/2011
Midway through Midway through
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
There is very little difference, often, in the ways we express intense pleasure and intense pain. Check out your own face next time you break a leg and compare it to the contorted expression you have in the midst of a mind-blowing orgasm.

I ... More
This.

Also it was extremely difficult to decipher what you were asking.
01/08/2012
chibi1091 chibi1091
I think it varies between women and some women show enjoyment in that way.
01/10/2012
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