He totally found it last night, But I have a question

LilyLust LilyLust
So my hubby found my G last night. I was amazed! But feeling ever! But anyways I couldn't climax with it. Is that normal? So does it take time? At one point I felt like I had to pee, but that quickly faded. Are we doing something wrong? Any advise.
04/14/2009
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Viv Viv
first of all, if he's making you feel good--you're not doing anything wrong!

but, yes- some woman cannot climax from gspot stimulation alone while others can. For many it takes time and lots of practice (that's the best part) to orgasm internally but some woman never do. Don't stress over it. No need to put all your stock into the last moment of it- dont' make it a goal, just enjoy the ride.

and that sensation of needing to pee is very common with intense gspot stimulation--the gspot is considered a section of erectile tissues at the base of the bladder. it's pretty much the female prostate, a set of glands that when stimulated generate fluid (female ejaculate) and women who are able to relax their instincts not to pee are able to experience female ejaculation (i'm still trying!)

congrats on finding it! my advice would be to practice on your own (fingers work great but there are tons of gspot specific toys) when you don't have the added pressure of someone else there. get to know how your gspot responds and that's easier to do when you're doing the guiding.
04/14/2009
LilyLust LilyLust
Thank you so much. What great info! I will have to defiantly have to work on all that!
04/14/2009
Epiphora Epiphora
You're almost there. But you have to push yourself beyond that feeling of needing to pee.
04/14/2009
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
It took my partner and I a long time to figure out what she needed to orgasm from g-spot stimulation. She definitely can't start with it because she doesn't really feel it in the beginning. I have to warm her up with clitoral and/or nipple stimulation sometimes with an orgasm sometimes without. This foreplay allows the g-spot to begin filling with fluid which she needs in order to get pleasure from stimulation there. As long as our positioning is right, I can usually get her to orgasm from PIV intercourse once she is appropriately warmed up. It's something that probably never would have happened if we hadn't started researching g-spot stimulation.
04/14/2009
Sleeping Dreamer Sleeping Dreamer
I personally cannot have an orgasm from my husband or myself just rubbing my g-spot.. however, I've used toys (only harder materials like metal and glass) that work to stimulate my g-spot enough that I'm able to orgasm. It's funny, when using g-spot toys that are effective in making me able to climax I never get the feeling that I need to pee or any other signs.
04/14/2009
Epiphora Epiphora
Oh yeah -- I can't have a g-spot orgasm from manual stimulation or sex. I have to have a toy, and it has to be thrusting at the speed of light.
04/14/2009
LilyLust LilyLust
The funny thing is just like last week I gave up trying to find it, lol. Funny how thinks work out. I think now I'm going to try and figure out if I can O from it. And if I can try squirting from there.
04/14/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Epiphora
Oh yeah -- I can't have a g-spot orgasm from manual stimulation or sex. I have to have a toy, and it has to be thrusting at the speed of light.
Lightspeed, eh?
04/15/2009
Cocoa88 Cocoa88
I found mine last night too! but i was trying alone with a plain vibrator not one of those G-spot toys.....I just ordered one so hopefully that will make it feel better....it was a huge suprise when i did it....but i didn't O from it either! Good luck to you!
04/15/2009
LilyLust LilyLust
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Originally posted by Cocoa88
I found mine last night too! but i was trying alone with a plain vibrator not one of those G-spot toys.....I just ordered one so hopefully that will make it feel better....it was a huge suprise when i did it....but i didn't O from it either! Good ... More
you too Cocoa88!
04/16/2009
Firemeup Firemeup
hmm, maybe we should try again...I'd love to find my g-spot but whenever we go hunting it doesn't feel remotely good - it's actually pushed me close to a panic attack a couple of times. no idea what's up with that. then I read about women finding theirs and I want to go looking again.....it's very frustrating.
04/16/2009
LilyLust LilyLust
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Originally posted by Firemeup
hmm, maybe we should try again...I'd love to find my g-spot but whenever we go hunting it doesn't feel remotely good - it's actually pushed me close to a panic attack a couple of times. no idea what's up with that. then I read about ... More
I wish you luck, I use to get so frustrated. But now that I know were it is I have hope.
04/16/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by LilyLust
I wish you luck, I use to get so frustrated. But now that I know were it is I have hope.
Just relax and enjoy, you are more then half way there. At this point, I have not had a g spot orgasm from penetration sex but with a g spot toy....OMG. For me the toy has to be hard, such as steel or glass but my Gigi vibe gets me off everytime.
04/17/2009
Sammi Sammi
I'm curious - what does it feel like? How different is it from a clitoral orgasm?
04/18/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by Sammi
I'm curious - what does it feel like? How different is it from a clitoral orgasm?
For me a G-spot orgasm is more localized and comes in waves. I'm multi-orgasmic. So I have many during sex. A clitoral orgasm takes much longer for me to achieve, but is felt all over. Both of them together are like the grand finale of a fireworks show. I get goose bumps and every inch of me from heat to toe gets off.

Not sure if that helps. But that's the only way I could explain it.
04/18/2009
Sammi Sammi
That helps. I'm used to clitoral orgasms, which are intense, and just kind of build into screams (hence why we bought a gag, lol).
04/18/2009
Liz2 Liz2
With me, I need a clitoral orgasim prior to achieving a g spot orgasm. As newme mentioned, a g spot orgasm is very much localized. I do find using a butt plug during masturbation and intercourse does make my g spot more sensitive to stimulation and of course orgasm.
04/19/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Sammi
I'm curious - what does it feel like? How different is it from a clitoral orgasm?
For me, a clitoral orgasm is a clenching feeling. My whole body tightens and tightens and tightens until I get the release of orgasm. A g-spot orgasm is more of a loosening, if that makes sense. A pushing instead of a clenching. Like I'm trying to SHOVE that orgasm out as I get closer.

I have no idea if that makes sense to anyone but me but, there ya go. Lol
04/19/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
For me, a clitoral orgasm is a clenching feeling. My whole body tightens and tightens and tightens until I get the release of orgasm. A g-spot orgasm is more of a loosening, if that makes sense. A pushing instead of a clenching. Like I'm ... More
Makes sense, good description. I find my clitoral orgasms are a release of tension/tightness throughout my entire body. A g-spot orgasm, for me anyway, is only possible when I am relaxed as after a clitoral orgasm.
I think some women have difficulty achieving g-spot success is they dive right for their g-spot w/o being satiated as after a clitoral orgasm or two...
04/20/2009
Sammi Sammi
I am going to have to keep practicing
04/20/2009
Goodess of Hedonism Goodess of Hedonism
Wow this thread is informative...
I have a couple of questions to see if what I'm experiencing is normal, though.

When I am using my regular toy, which is a decadent indulgence vaginal dildo, I tighten so hard around it nearing orgasm I slow the shaft down to almost stopping. I think I somehow have reached g-spot orgasm a few times (usually it's clitoral) due to my roughness of use, but am not sure. It is almost an itching feeling, urge to urinate, and very fast build-up before explosion, does that sound like a g-spot O or a clitoral one? I should probably know the difference but becuase I have yet to use a g-spot dildo, I am not sure.
Also, what have you noted to be the best vibrating g-spot toy? I think it's all mental, but would prefer vibration over silent due to power. Thanks for any help.
07/01/2009
Valyn Valyn
Is that it?

Saurou:
"women who are able to relax their instincts not to pee are able to experience female ejaculation (i'm still trying!)"

Huh! I get so lost in the orgasm I tense all up and/or shiver all over (my g-spot is like an insta-cum button) that I can't relax enough to ejaculate. It would be cool to do, though! Thanks for the fun fact

For me, orgasms are like being on the craziest part of a roller coaster. I feel like I'm at the top, but then I can keep climbing higher and higher. If it's done right, I can pretty much stay on that orgasm ride until whatever action is slowed a lot or stopped.

My clit gives me a sort of fast, intense orgasm, like I'm always on the verge of it just being too much pleasure to handle. It always makes me want something inside me and it makes the muscles on the inside flutter and go nutty.

When I have a g-spot orgasm it's more like what Carrie-Ann described.. like I'm trying to shove the orgasm out. It's also more intense in a way, but also more.. tolerable. My back curls, instead of arching when I have a clit orgasm, and I tense up. If my eyes are closed, I get teary eyed from the intensity sometimes.

Ahh, orgasms..
07/02/2009
Niff Niff
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Originally posted by LilyLust
So my hubby found my G last night. I was amazed! But feeling ever! But anyways I couldn't climax with it. Is that normal? So does it take time? At one point I felt like I had to pee, but that quickly faded. Are we doing something wrong? Any advise.
My hubby has found mine too and I have the same problem as some of these other lovely ladies. I have a sensitive clit so he can just breath on it and I'm horny. But after 45 minutes of that I have many little orgasims, my legs involuntary shake, I get tense all over and my pc muscles squeze hard. I also want something in me. I get so horny it takes me a while to calm myself down. When he starts to play with my g spot I instintly have the urge to pee. I keep trying to relax but they feeling is so intense it's unbareable. My whole body tenses up, I shake and I also squeeze so hard inside. I try really hard to relax and breath to go for the ride so I can squirt but IT IS SOOOOOO HARD. I have also read that you are to puch rather than squeeze to squirt. Wow that is hard to do. I feel like all you ladies I guess we need to keep trying
07/02/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by Niff
My hubby has found mine too and I have the same problem as some of these other lovely ladies. I have a sensitive clit so he can just breath on it and I'm horny. But after 45 minutes of that I have many little orgasims, my legs involuntary ... More
It's really not a hard push. It's more like a letting go. Similar to when you're in a place that you can't pee so you hold it and once you're home you are able to let go. So in other words you need to let go by giving yourself permission to go with the feelings. Does that make sense?
07/02/2009
Niff Niff
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Originally posted by NuMe
It's really not a hard push. It's more like a letting go. Similar to when you're in a place that you can't pee so you hold it and once you're home you are able to let go. So in other words you need to let go by giving yourself ... More
I think so. I appreciate the response. Thanks!!
07/02/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Goodess of Hedonism
Wow this thread is informative...
I have a couple of questions to see if what I'm experiencing is normal, though.

When I am using my regular toy, which is a decadent indulgence vaginal dildo, I tighten so hard around it nearing orgasm I ... More
G spot orgasms are awesome but you have to relax and let yourself go....you won't pee(urinate prior to your masturbation session) though it feels like it. When you resist you stifle your g spot orgasm. The ejaculate is similar to a guy's pre-cum. If in doubt, let it happen and just taste it, you will be pleasantly surprised and so..so satisfied.
I have found the Gigi vibe to be awesome for g spot stimulation, never fails me.
Also a butt plug in conjunction with a g spot dil takes care of business.
Good luck!!
07/05/2009
Colossus Colossus
Yeah I have a hell of a time finding my gf's g-spot. It seems like nothing I try works. Maybe I'll have to try it with a toy. Any suggestions on where to start?
08/19/2009
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