My wife doesn't want to squirt

garychutchcouple garychutchcouple
Anyone else have this issue? She is afraid she will be embarrassed. Anyone have tips to help her through this. Does it really feel better to the woman if she does squirt?
09/23/2012
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indiglo indiglo
There is absolutely NO difference in my orgasms if I squirt or not. In fact, most of my strongest orgasms have not had any squirting involved. It's not better for the woman if she squirts, orgasms and squirting are 2 completely separate events.

Instead of asking "why doesn't my wife want to squirt?" I'd ask you "Why do you want your wife to squirt so much, when she doesn't want to?"
09/23/2012
deltalima deltalima
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Originally posted by garychutchcouple
Anyone else have this issue? She is afraid she will be embarrassed. Anyone have tips to help her through this. Does it really feel better to the woman if she does squirt?
Maybe try it with low lighting and encourage her throughout the night.
09/23/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by indiglo
There is absolutely NO difference in my orgasms if I squirt or not. In fact, most of my strongest orgasms have not had any squirting involved. It's not better for the woman if she squirts, orgasms and squirting are 2 completely separate ... More
Agreed!
09/24/2012
edenguy edenguy
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Originally posted by garychutchcouple
Anyone else have this issue? She is afraid she will be embarrassed. Anyone have tips to help her through this. Does it really feel better to the woman if she does squirt?
Why do you want her to squirt? Is it a fetish, or do you think it means a better orgasm? If the latter you might want to confirm this with her.
09/24/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I don't even think I can much less if I'd be embarrassed about it.
09/24/2012
BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I dont enjoy that at all I think its a little to much dont find it a turn on whatsoever
09/24/2012
sktb0007 sktb0007
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Originally posted by indiglo
There is absolutely NO difference in my orgasms if I squirt or not. In fact, most of my strongest orgasms have not had any squirting involved. It's not better for the woman if she squirts, orgasms and squirting are 2 completely separate ... More
Excellent answer.
09/24/2012
Rossie Rossie
Like indiglo said: "Why do you want your wife to squirt so much, when she doesn't want to?"

I've never squirted, but that doesn't mean I don't have incredible orgasms. You know why I never tried and also don't care to squirt? Because I don't want to make a mess on my bed.
09/24/2012
*Camoprincess* *Camoprincess*
I have been a squirter for well ever since I could remember it just happened when I would be sexually active an I was quiet embarrassed by it. My orgasms are better for me if I squirt while others may not experience a difference in it. Like the others have asked why is it so important for you that your wife squirts?! Is it a turn on? Seen it in porn? Heard other good things about it from other women? A fantasy to be with a woman who squirts? I mean the list goes on if she isn't comfortable with it I would not force the subject on her. Have ya'll talked about why she doesn't want to squirt? Maybe she has tried and she just can't but doesn't want to disappoint you so she just says she has no interest in it?! I have noticed when reading what other women say when they get with a partner they are first embarrassed about squirting cause they are worried they are peeing or that their partner will think its pee. When really it isn't You both just need to discuss what embarrassment factors are there and if she really doesn't want to squirt and your sex life is fine I would just leave it alone an enjoy what you have
09/25/2012
edeneve edeneve
my suggestion for her is to read a lot about female ejaculation. I think once she learns about it in abundance, the more she may feel comfortable about it. reading about the experience of others would be helpful too.

the first time I squirted it was actually a gusher. I thought it was pee and I felt embarassed and apologized profusly. my lover was so cool about it. I didn't learn till many years later that it was female ejaculation. once I did, I read everything I could find online about it. I both gush and squirt these days and I love it. I've made a game out of how far I can squirt - it's quite fun.
09/25/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
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Originally posted by *Camoprincess*
I have been a squirter for well ever since I could remember it just happened when I would be sexually active an I was quiet embarrassed by it. My orgasms are better for me if I squirt while others may not experience a difference in it. Like the ... More
You nailed it! My husband wanted me to as well and I was really nervous about it. My problem being that we would be in the middle of it and I would get this intense sensation like I had to pee. He told me to just relax and let go because that just meant that I was about to squirt, but for the longest time I couldn't bring my self to do it. I would even stop to use the restroom, but nothing would happen and then I felt bad because he was right. The next time We made sure we had a towel under me and once he got me feeling that lovely sensation again, I finally relaxed and let go and OMG I m so happy that I did. My orgasms when I squirt are absolutely AMAZING! I wish we would have discovered this years ago. Communication is crucial as well as reassurance.
09/25/2012
garychutchcouple garychutchcouple
Thanks everyone!! I guess for me I just want to see it happen. Maybe a fetish??
10/03/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by garychutchcouple
Anyone else have this issue? She is afraid she will be embarrassed. Anyone have tips to help her through this. Does it really feel better to the woman if she does squirt?
Tell her it is an amazing feeling and just use towels or a waterproof sheet, since she may be more worried about the mess then the act. As for being "embarrassed". Oh my, hubby thinks it is like hitting the lotto prize when he can make me squirt! He thinks it is the best thing ever!!! Same with all the guys in our little "free speech" dinner group, whose wives can squirt. Among the guys whose wives don't squirt..they all wish they could!
11/29/2012
No-nita No-nita
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Originally posted by indiglo
There is absolutely NO difference in my orgasms if I squirt or not. In fact, most of my strongest orgasms have not had any squirting involved. It's not better for the woman if she squirts, orgasms and squirting are 2 completely separate ... More
If only we could "like" posts on EdenFantasys!

If she has said she's uncomfortable with it and does not want to try it, let it be. If she's uncomfortable but WANTS to try it, THEN you worry about how to encourage her. Trying to get her to do something she does not want to do just because you want to see it is not very nice imo. Some women just have no interest in it, and that's fine.
12/11/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I see no need to pressure her to do something she doesn't want to do - but it might help to lay down a few thick, folded towels underneath her, and to assure her that you want her to feel good and you don't care if she pees by accident or makes a mess.
12/24/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
As someone who has a lot of hangups, sexual and otherwise, I agree with the folks saying not to pressure her into anything she doesn't want to do.

I've done it a couple times, I know what it is and that it's not pee, and I'm not embarrassed by it. That being said, I'm disgusted by it. (No offense meant to anyone who is into it, just the way I personally feel when it happens to me.) My orgasms don't feel any different or better. If anything, I just feel nasty afterward.

I guess my point is, really talk to her and find out how she feels (beyond simply being embarrassed) before trying to talk her into it.
12/24/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
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Originally posted by No-nita
If only we could "like" posts on EdenFantasys!

If she has said she's uncomfortable with it and does not want to try it, let it be. If she's uncomfortable but WANTS to try it, THEN you worry about how to encourage her. Trying ... More
If we could "like" posts, I would "like" yours.
12/24/2012
Dairygirl8808 Dairygirl8808
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Originally posted by garychutchcouple
Anyone else have this issue? She is afraid she will be embarrassed. Anyone have tips to help her through this. Does it really feel better to the woman if she does squirt?
I feel amazing when I'm squirting. It's like you're really releasing this pressure. I can see why she would be embarrassed especially at first. I'm always afraid I'm peeing because that is exactly what it feels like. The way I make myself relax and let loose is knowing that my partner will still love me even if I did accidentally pee or something. Knowing that they will love me no matter what happens makes me feel comfortable enough to release myself. If your wife ever does let herself squirt she will never go back! Also, she should go to the bathroom first so she also knows mentally that it can't even possibly be pee.
03/21/2013
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