Any suggestions for toys (or other ways) to help me give my wife mind-blowing G-spot orgasms?

Contributor: spiced spiced
They say that the beginning of wisdom is admitting your ignorance. If so, I may be on the way to wisdom, because I freely admit to being unable to reliably give my wife a G-spot orgasm, except accidentally / occasionally. I KNOW I did once. We were 69ing, with her on top. She was riding my tongue with her clit, and I had a finger inserted in her. She squirted and I was super thrilled.

But we haven't repeated the experience. I keep trying to stimulate her G-spot, but I don't think my fingers are quite long enough (3 1/4"). She likes being on her back when I give her oral, and she has great clitoral orgasms from that. She likes having ONE finger inserted, but not two. What she seems to enjoy most is when I ALMOST remove the finger, but keep it right there, just inside her vaginal entrance.

Any suggestions, for specific toys, techniques — or whatever? I LIVE to give her pleasure and I'd LOVE to give her more.
04/19/2013
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04/19/2013
Contributor: Fluke Fluke
The g spot isn't that far in, it is maybe 1.5 to 2 inches in which is why she likes it when you almost remove your finger, that's the g spot.

Just so we are clear, the position is palm facing up, one finger or two fingers curled in the come hither motion. If you want to get really advanced your thumb can also be used to stimulate her clitoris at the same time but that is a bit tricky.

When you hit the g spot you can do a couple different moves. You can go around in circles or you can walk with your fingers or just hold it and keep pressure on the spot while licking her clitoris (real winner technique there in my opinion) What my ex liked best is, hmm I dunno how to describe it but kinda like I was trying to pull her g spot out of her. Not for real of course but that firm pressure and pulling out motion did it for her.

As for toys, I don't know exactly what I used before because I didn't buy it but I remember it looking something like the Mona 2 here on EF. But from reading this site it seems like the bent glass dildos are the way to go for g spot stimulation, the women here on EF rave about the Bent Graduate and the Amethyst so if I were to purchase a toy now to hit the g spot I'd definitively go for one of those. Good luck.
04/19/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Fluke
The g spot isn't that far in, it is maybe 1.5 to 2 inches in which is why she likes it when you almost remove your finger, that's the g spot.

Just so we are clear, the position is palm facing up, one finger or two fingers curled in ... more
Thank you! That's extremely helpful. I can hardly wait to try out these excellent suggestions.
04/20/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Not to brag - but I have a Doctorate in g-spot orgasms! The only problem is that I have specialized in just 1 female - so applicability is not assured.

Here's what works with my gal:

1. I bought her a Pure Wand. Gave her a printout of reviews where women described how they use it to orgasm and squirt - then went on a business trip and told her to figure it out so that she could teach me - and she did.

She didn't even know what a g-spot was - until I showed her with my fingers. But anatomically she couldn't reach it, so she didn't quite know what to make of it. The Pure Wand solved both of those problems.

2. We use the Libertor Wedge to make oral much easier - and the fingers or small vibes that go along with that. When doing oral, the Uma and Mona are great toys for targeting the g-spot. The Wedge is also invaluable for targeting her g-spot during PIV.

3. We have used a variety of toys including glass wands; the Njoy Eleven and silicone dildos to help with g-spot stimulation. Some work with the obvious g-spot curve. However the Vixskin dildos work because they are fairly girthy and have a penis shape where the coronal ridge hits the g-spot.

Don't expect the same thing to work every time. In fact we joke that nothing works 2x in a row - although that's not quite true - it does help to use a lot of variety.

Finally - after mastering the g-spot orgasm, it's not even her favorite!

There are two deeper spots called the a-spot (anterior fonix erogenous zone) that is at the juncture of the cervix and vagina - facing toward the belly button and the PFE-zone (posterior fornix erogenous zone) at the juncture of the cervix and vagina facing the spine.

These deeper spots tend to create stronger orgasms for my wife - and are also linked to increasing lubrication i.e. gushing. The most effective toys for this are the Njoy Eleven, G4 Big Boss and Vixskin Johnny & Maverick.

Toy sizes are personal - so luckily there are many similar designs in smaller sizes if that's what you need. BTW - even though my wife likes larger toys - she does not like me to use 2 fingers inside - go figure?

Good luck and enjoy!
04/20/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
I agree with gunsmoke. Try a pure wand. It works on my wife.
04/20/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Not to brag - but I have a Doctorate in g-spot orgasms! The only problem is that I have specialized in just 1 female - so applicability is not assured.

Here's what works with my gal:

1. I bought her a Pure Wand. Gave her a printout ... more
Thanks for all the great suggestions! It's especially good to know that variety is important. I put the Pure wand on our "must have" wishlist...

I do wish I could show her reviews as you did with your wife (what a great idea, btw!), but my wife HATES having to think about sex, or discussing it except during, especially when it's her pleasure. Even during, she just likes giving/receiving simple instructions (deeper, faster, YES!, etc). She'd be horrified if I printed out reviews.

She's also a bit of a toy-a-phobe. I just got the Love Handle and I'm hoping to try it on her soon. Good to know that Vixskin Johnny works well for you two. That's our favorite for pegging, so maybe she'll be willing to try it.

The last couple of times we've had sex, I've concentrated on that shallow area with one finger and we've had some success; she's had a couple of orgasms more powerful than any I can remember — really strong spasms and VERY appreciative noises!
04/30/2013