What's the best way to begin?

captainsgirl captainsgirl
We are ready to try this...my husband has never done anything with the backside before..besides the finger, what is the best way to begin?
02/14/2013
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captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
We are ready to try this...my husband has never done anything with the backside before..besides the finger, what is the best way to begin?
also what's the best beginner toy?
02/14/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
A single well lubricated finger is the place to start - before going on to toys, I'd recommend working to 2 fingers - it will not be as easy as it sounds.

Then we went for small diameter 3/4-1" plastic vibrators. They are cheap, easy to clean and smooth. Because I wanted to get into pegging, we needed a way to stretch me a little - that's where tapered toys like silicone butt plugs come into play. We bought a 1.25" one - but didn't stay there long before getting a 1.5" with vibrator.

Once I was comfortable with the 1.5" butt plug, then we could use a variety of our dildos for anal penetration.

I should be up front and say that I enjoy the pressure and sensations of anal play - but really don't get any specific p-spot pleasure. The idea of p-spot stimulation was more a way to ease my wife's fear of the homosexual overtones of male anal play. That same fear made pegging an even bigger stretch for her - but we eventually got there.

Good luck - go slow and reapply lube more often than you think is necessary!
02/14/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
thank you
02/14/2013
ScottA ScottA
If you haven't started with a finger yet then that's the best way to go. Play around with it a bit, figure out what he likes. Thrusting play, stationary finger, pressure against the prostate, rocking against the prostate... once you figure this out you can look for toys that will provide similar sensations.
02/15/2013
oldkinky oldkinky
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
We are ready to try this...my husband has never done anything with the backside before..besides the finger, what is the best way to begin?
When you use a small anal vibrator on him give him a blowjob at the same time. Wild orgasms.
02/16/2013
misterazor misterazor
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
We are ready to try this...my husband has never done anything with the backside before..besides the finger, what is the best way to begin?
all of what has been said, and...

he should spend some time experimenting on his own. buy a small plug, practice putting it in, practice leaving it in for some time. get a bigger plug. it's not about stretching, it's about learning to relax. he should become comfortable on his own with how to relax, what he likes, does not like...his limits. then he can share what's he's learned and the two of you will enjoy it much more. he's likely to hurt himself, and it's better he do that to himself than you do it to him. fyi, it's like being kicked in the nuts for your ass, but it fades...and he'll learn how not to force it.

oh, and sharp nails hurt. so, file off any snags before you go a-fingering.
02/27/2013
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
You could try a slim butt plug. The Mood Naughty small isn't much wider than an average man's fingers. I also saw the Mood Seductive rabbit style that was pretty thin.
03/14/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
If you haven't started with a finger yet then that's the best way to go. Play around with it a bit, figure out what he likes. Thrusting play, stationary finger, pressure against the prostate, rocking against the prostate... once you figure ... More
great advice..thank you
03/14/2013
captainsgirl captainsgirl
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Originally posted by misterazor
all of what has been said, and...

he should spend some time experimenting on his own. buy a small plug, practice putting it in, practice leaving it in for some time. get a bigger plug. it's not about stretching, it's about learning ... More
lol.great tips
03/14/2013
Nkev Nkev
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Originally posted by captainsgirl
We are ready to try this...my husband has never done anything with the backside before..besides the finger, what is the best way to begin?
let him try on his own its easier to feel for yourself before someone does it for you
03/15/2013
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