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Just last night my husband and I engaged in anal play on him. I loved it! He said he did too.... Which surprised me. He let me finger him and use small vibrators... Even a set of anal beads. I want to move forward with it so that eventually I
Just last night my husband and I engaged in anal play on him. I loved it! He said he did too.... Which surprised me. He let me finger him and use small vibrators... Even a set of anal beads. I want to move forward with it so that eventually I can use a strap on.... Not sure he would be willing to go that far. How should I proceed?
Communication is key here. You don't want to whip out a giant dildo and harness and send him running for the hills.
Discuss the experience that you had and tell him how much you enjoyed the night. Gauge his reaction. If he is interested in more anal play then Ask him if he would be interested In keeping a plug or a prostate massager in during normal intercourse. That was definitely a game changer in my mind!
Don't always make it about ass play. This could get him concerned that you are either not happy with his manhood or that you are unhappy with normal sex.
Once you are both a little more comfortable and the right opportunity arises (or you create the right setting - dinner, wine "desert", etc.) discuss this intriguing idea you came across on a forum and you were interested it see what his response would be.
Worst case he says it's not for him.
If yes then let me recommend a great sex education film in the form of Tristan Taorminos anal play for men (the pegging one is a little more hardcore IMO). There are some great tips for the both of you and the demonstration scenes are simply hot as hell!