Pegging by the numbers

I'm in my late 30s and he's in his late 20s. I can't say I ever even thought about, but did have one-off fantasies about mounting him and the guy I was with before him - so the thought occurred to me starting in my mid-thirties. Didn't formulate into a recurring fantasy until he told me he wanted things in his butt.

There's a quite good article on pegging on Jason Stotts' Erosophilia blog/site. Link link .

It approaches pegging from a non-BDSM/non FemDom side and explains not only why it isn't necessarily "gay" but also why it isn't necessarily defemininzing for her and non-masculine for him.

Many men seem to think of two questions related to pegging: "does it mean I'm gay" (simple answer, no) and "will she think I'm gay" (more complex, but can be handled with the right communication).

A big thing that many guys don't think about is a woman thinking "what does wearing a phallus do to my femininity?" Some women are immediately intrigued by gender play and the prospect of having a penis, but many also see it as an "attack" (almost) against their gender and how they define themselves. This is the part that needs to be handled more delicately, possibly even more delicately than the "will she think I'm gay" question. Find a way so she can maintain her femininity in her head and still peg you.

We actually started when we were both 18.

I'm 24 and pegging is a pretty new thing for me. Always seemed like fun but it wasn't easy finding a like-minded partner.

I'm not sure if it still counts as pegging if we're both women and it doesn't involve anal play, but we started having strap on sex about six months ago.

Both my boyfriend and I are in our early 20s. However, I think that we're a lot more open and sexually mature than most people our age.

I'm kinda in the same situation as Redhotbum. I've given a lot of thought to pegging over the last 13 years. I've purchased harnesses and suggested it to my wife. The answer I usually get is, "Let me think about it for a few days." I'm pretty sure that's her way of saying no. My wife really doesn't care to play with my ass very much. So, I've started playing around with plugs that she can manipulate while we have sex. It seems y'all are already there and I really can't offer you any advice except to hang in there. My wife may never be comfortable with it and I'll accept that. Maybe in another 13 years she will be!

Started in my twenties and have loved every moment of it since!

Hrmm...

We've been doing it for a couple of years. I've been in my 20's the entire time we've been together. He was in his 20's when we started, but he's just into this thirties now.

My partner and I are both in our 20's, and pegging was the logical next step for both of us. My partner really enjoyed anal play, and I was beginning to explore a new lust for being the dominant one. One night, after using a multitude of my vibrators on him, while he was quite a bit tipsy, he told me he wanted to play around with femdom, and promptly passed out.

He didn't need to ask twice, we bought our first set-up the next day, and now it's one of our most frequently pulled out toys. We replaced the cheap dildo it came with for a silicone one, of course, and I think the next step is a leather harness. The nylon one serves it's purpose well, but, I've got a crippling addiction to luxury.

this thread needs an 'other' checkbox for those really WANTING to try pegging but that have yet to actually experience it (like myself, along with infinite other kinks...being a virgin sucks >.<)

you all are lucky buggers!

My wife and I were late to the party on this subject, but so glad we went down this road as a couple. I was the one who suggested we try it and to be honest, she wasn't crazy about the idea when I first brought it up. It's still something she does at my urging as an occasional variation in our lovemaking. She doesn't get much out of it physically with the equipment we have now, but loves seeing how much I enjoy it. That's the thrill for her. For me it's partly physical, partly mental and emotional. There's just something freeing about letting your woman do this to you and for you.

teens, in the 20's now

Several years ago, I once mentioned to my husband that I wish we cold trade bodies, so we could feel what it's like to the other when we make love. I said I wanted to know what it felt like for him to fuck me.

Fast forward about a year: He brought home a strap-on with a harness. He helped me get it put on and we tried it out. I was very turned on, but we had trouble getting the right angle for penetration and I got so wet, I couldn't keep my end in. It was a huuuuge turn on. He said he's tried out all the dildos we had and he could take any of them, and the one he bought wasn't any bigger than the others.

We haven't tried again since, but we did have a good laugh when my end slipped out and then his end got all wonky because my end was wonky. We did notice that his end was not quite stiff enough to be easily insertable without bending, but I was glad of that because I want it to feel good for him. It's not a FemDom approach I have in mind - I just want to rock his world and blow his mind.

Since then I've gotten a Share, but I just can't keep it in without a harness, even though I have strong muscle control. My GYN says I'm very tight - I've had no children ever, but I get *so* wet, even The Husband says he has trouble feeling things sometimes. To add to the difficulties, we are both very large people, and my anatomy is tipped a bit, so there's more distance between my vaginal opening and my clit that on most women, I think. I dunno really because I have no frame of comparison, but I think that's the case. so now we need to find a harness that lets it ride low enough and yet can hold it tightly enough.

Anyway, it takes us a long time to thoroughly explore new things, and I also felt it wasn't fair for me to be able to fuck his ass, unless I got good at letting him fuck mine too, so, that's what we've worked on mostly since. Turn around is fair play, after all, but frankly, receiving anal doesn't do much for me - I don't have a prostate and it takes a long time and a lot of work to get full length penetration and - meh - just doesn't do much for me. He likes it though, so I'm game to play along. Mostly because I really want to get back to trying to learn how to peg him.