For anyone who's popped their guy's black cherry:

GoodMorningSunshine GoodMorningSunshine
I've made it a point to convince every guy I've been with to let me finger them, whether they were into it or not. I have no idea why, it just happens to be something I enjoy doing, but I've run into different levels of resistance. For those of you who've mapped uncharted territory in your guy's butt, what did it take to get him to let you go there?
  •   (2)
    I am personally offended by this
  •   (4)
    This is unacceptable / Against the Expectations of Conduct
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
No resistance whatsoever
46  (39%)
It took a very little bit of convincing
25  (21%)
He put up quite the fight
9  (8%)
He totally refuses/ I haven't done it
37  (32%)
Total votes: 117
Poll is closed
02/03/2011
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~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I've only wanted to with one guy. Other ex's had back door hygiene that was not up to par. But to be fair, I wasn't even curious about it til after them. Thank god.
02/03/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
Still working on convincing him
02/04/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
I don't like the way this post sounds. It sounds like you're coercing someone into something he/she doesn't want to do. I'd actually prefer if you had refrained from this post at all. It sounds manipulative and wrong. I would never do something to someone if they DID NOT WANT ME TO. This is a very abusive road to travel.
02/04/2011
leatherlover leatherlover
I actually had to convince my wife to do it to me.
02/04/2011
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by leatherlover
I actually had to convince my wife to do it to me.
Same here.
02/04/2011
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I'm curious to try it, but J is completely against the idea. I'm not gonna push it with him. I don't mind staying curious.
02/04/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by leatherlover
I actually had to convince my wife to do it to me.
Ditto.
02/04/2011
Owl Identified Owl Identified
Quote:
Originally posted by Xavier7
I don't like the way this post sounds. It sounds like you're coercing someone into something he/she doesn't want to do. I'd actually prefer if you had refrained from this post at all. It sounds manipulative and wrong. I would never do ... More
I agree with this completely. This language treads dangerously close to a description of coercive rape - not something that we should be encouraging in our sex positive community. I am all for suggesting and making an argument for anal, but if your partner does not want to do it I am 100% not in support of continuing to pressure them until they cave. This is not any way to show your partner respect or empower them in their sexuality.
02/04/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by Owl Identified
I agree with this completely. This language treads dangerously close to a description of coercive rape - not something that we should be encouraging in our sex positive community. I am all for suggesting and making an argument for anal, but if your ... More
I'm glad you do. I agree with your point of view as well.

I was seriously thinking about flagging this post as offensive and against the expecations of conduct, but I don't know. I think I really should, actually. I don't know why I haven't yet.
02/04/2011
idunshire idunshire
He actually brought it up first; no resistance whatsoever! ^_^
02/04/2011
Appleman Appleman
Trying to test the waters with the wife. Hopefully I don't weird her out. I like to explore but she is a little hesitant with he sexuality.
02/05/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
I love to give my guy oral. When I want to give him Oral Plus, I put in one manicured finger and using a lot of lube and a little prostate massage, he says his orgasm (uncontrollable and unstoppable in under 30 seconds), is a 19 on a scale of 1 to 10. Nuff said? Just TRIM THE NAILS SHORT girls...and buff the edge. That area IS sensitive. PS...the anus is CLEAN inside (ie EMPTY) NORMALLY, when no one is ready to have a bowel movement. I worked with a gastro doc for years, I know. Enemas not necessary. They CAN be part of sex play, but are not "needed".

The post above, however, is kind of creepy. No matter WHAT the activity, sexual or otherwise..but ESPECIALLY with sex, BOTH partners should agree and it should be a TWO WAY street...pleasure and respect!!!
02/05/2011
ScottA ScottA
I'm hoping that the original post was playful exaggeration - I think it was, anyway.
02/05/2011
Xavier7 Xavier7
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I'm hoping that the original post was playful exaggeration - I think it was, anyway.
I'm starting to think it was too, but still have a lot of doubt.
02/09/2011
Research Research
I had to convince my partner at the time to do it to me. It wasn't really something she had an interest in.
03/08/2011
Kitt Katt Kitt Katt
He actually approached me
03/28/2011
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
Damn I wish my husband was as willing as you guys are! I do finger him sometimes but I want more. So much more. Patience is paying off but I'm sure you understand this "need".
03/28/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
He's not interested in it, I'm not keen on the idea, either. If he was interested I would try it for him, though.
03/28/2011
purplekidney purplekidney
I have to agree with some of the previous posters that it sounds coercive and unhealthy to try to force a guy to accept anal play.



As far as the guy and I go, he was into anal play on his own long before I came around, so he was eager for me to catch up to speed and get interested and I'm excited we have an excuse to buy new toys!
03/31/2011
Brandi Rouxxx Brandi Rouxxx
He's the one who brought it up to me one night. Before that night he had always felt very strongly against it, so I was shocked when he asked me about it that night that he did! I'm glad he did though! It was fun!
03/31/2011
null null
I had joked about it for a while and he always seemed very against it. Then he spent Christmas break with his brother constantly joking about how amazing it feels, and extolling the medical benefits of it...when he came back from break we talked about it a little bit, tried dildos and then eventually strap-on play.
I was so excited It wasn't something i had ever been into, but I love to try new things with him and I love making him feel wonderful.
04/17/2011
Rossie Rossie
I only get to do it once while I was blowing him and it made him ejaculated immediately. I tried several times after that and he refuses to let my finger any where near his hole.
04/17/2011
~Brittany~ ~Brittany~
Quote:
Originally posted by Xavier7
I don't like the way this post sounds. It sounds like you're coercing someone into something he/she doesn't want to do. I'd actually prefer if you had refrained from this post at all. It sounds manipulative and wrong. I would never do ... More
I think I agree with you!
04/17/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
He brought it up. I wouldn't have pressured him into it if it wasn't something he wanted to do. That's just rape-y and wrong.
10/09/2011
DashO'Roark DashO'Roark
Quote:
Originally posted by leatherlover
I actually had to convince my wife to do it to me.
Me too.
10/17/2011
allybee allybee
i do not know what that is...
10/17/2011
DashO'Roark DashO'Roark
Quote:
Originally posted by allybee
i do not know what that is...
Um, A Guys Exit Only door between the cheeks.
10/17/2011
badk1tty badk1tty
He won't let me. I'm not crazy into trying, but mentioned he may enjoy it.
11/06/2011
Tessa Taboo Tessa Taboo
Playing the devil's advocate here, against the people who don't like the way this post is, I just wanted to say:

My husband was NOT into anal at all before I convinced him. And it wasn't even really convincing. I basically just told him to relax and let me do it, and now, he loves it. And there have been things that he has done to me that end up the same way. I think that different partners teach you different things sometimes, and as long as there is a trust, it's okay to try and get your partner into something.
11/08/2011
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Unique posters: 65