What is the best tool for first finding your p-spot?

callsignhusker callsignhusker
I'm having trouble finding my spot and I'm wondering what the best object would be to use. Toy suggestions are welcome!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Butt plug
3  (5%)
Dildo/probe
8  (14%)
Your finger
45  (80%)
Total votes: 56
Poll is closed
03/12/2011
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Mr. & Mrs. Peg Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Or better yet, your partner's finger!
03/12/2011
csweatc csweatc
I voted for Butt plug, even though technically you want to use a well designed prostate massager if you really want to make good contact, especially if you're a beginner and you are looking to find everything. The most well known toy for this is the Aneros. They make a full range prostate massagers, but to start out I would go for the MGX or the Helix. Nexus also makes a full line of well designed massagers, and there are others out there. Do a search for Prostate and look the product list. Anything similar in form and dimensions to the Aneros or Nexus massagers could work.
03/13/2011
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Or better yet, your partner's finger!
Hell ya!

When first looking for your prostate and finger is the best. With any toy, you will only be able to feel where the toy is moving. With a finger you can feel the lump that is the prostate. Make sure you are sexually aroused and don't forget the lube.
03/13/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
Quote:
Originally posted by csweatc
I voted for Butt plug, even though technically you want to use a well designed prostate massager if you really want to make good contact, especially if you're a beginner and you are looking to find everything. The most well known toy for this is ... More
Yea I like the nexus line but I can't decide which shape I would want, the 'boy' line is interesting but same problem, what shape?! There are significant differences in shape and I feel like I would have to try them in order to choose!
03/14/2011
minifreak minifreak
Sometimes I didnt mean to find it but do. I like surprises
03/15/2011
csweatc csweatc
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
Yea I like the nexus line but I can't decide which shape I would want, the 'boy' line is interesting but same problem, what shape?! There are significant differences in shape and I feel like I would have to try them in order to choose!
I have the Excel and the new Ridge Rider. I would hold off on the Ridge rider until you actually have had some success in finding and stimulating your pspot. The Excel on the other hand will nail your prostate like a guided missle. It makes very firm contact with it, and is by far the most assertive prostate massager I have used made by any manufacturer. I don't have the Aneros Progasm yet, but I imagine that it makes its presence known in a similar fashion to the Excel. By my eye, the Glide and the Titus are slimmer, and therefore are not as agressive. This doesn't mean that they are any less effective, more that the learning curve might be a little bit higher. If I were you, I would avoid the "boy line" and go for a hands free massager with a perineum tab like the Aneros or Nexus (Excel, Glide Titus etc). Once you get the hang of using one of these excellent toys, you can have fun with almost any plug.
03/22/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
Just with different toys and trying out different things works the best. Eventually you will find exactly what you like the best.
03/28/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I second partners finger.
03/29/2011
callsignhusker callsignhusker
Guys... I have to say, first time recently! butt plug!
03/30/2011
ScottA ScottA
So - which one and how easy was it to find your prostate with?
03/30/2011
Owl Identified Owl Identified
I should mention that not everyone will be able to reach their prostate with their finger. For some people it is located too deeply inside the rectum. My partner needs a probe or some other toy to reach his. A finger is a good place to start but if you're not finding it then a toy is good!
03/30/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Mr. & Mrs. Peg
Or better yet, your partner's finger!
This. try having your partner (or just yourself) slip a finger in a couple inches, give or take, and crook it up toward your penis. Then just lean back and enjoy! (This is what I do to get my boyfriend going, and it works every time
03/30/2011
ScottA ScottA
Finger first because you can feel from both sides (the prostate and the finger), so it helps you to figure out where things are and how to get at them. Yes, on some people the finger won't be quite long enough for a perfect massage, but it's good to start.

Having used both the Nexus and the Aneros I'd recommend the Aneros first. They seem to be easier to use and often more comfortable.
05/23/2011
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
The best item I have used to find it is a curved glass toy. It is C shaped with 2 different sized balls on the ends. I knew I hit it with the orgasm feeling, as well as dripping fluid. Sometimes when the larger ball end is in it is hard to pass the prostate, which worries me that it seems to have gotten bigger during play.
05/26/2011
Ropeguy Ropeguy
I would have to second the curved glass (or metal like the Pure Wand) toy. I found my p spot quickly and got a great massage out of it.
05/31/2011
babyrock babyrock
the pure wand is insanely good at finding my p-spot
06/03/2011
PuddlePuppy PuddlePuppy
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
I'm having trouble finding my spot and I'm wondering what the best object would be to use. Toy suggestions are welcome!
Your hands and fingers are the most versatile multitaskers you will ever find.
Just do the come hither finger crawl until you feel a little 'perk' in sensation.
I like using a vibrator but I already know how to hit my button.
08/22/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by PuddlePuppy
Your hands and fingers are the most versatile multitaskers you will ever find.
Just do the come hither finger crawl until you feel a little 'perk' in sensation.
I like using a vibrator but I already know how to hit my button.
The only downside to fingers is that an extra half-inch would make things much easier. Sometimes a deep prostate + small fingers means that you just can't connect.
08/22/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Finger first because you can feel from both sides (the prostate and the finger), so it helps you to figure out where things are and how to get at them. Yes, on some people the finger won't be quite long enough for a perfect massage, but it's ... More
Just realized I got this backwards - I'd recommend the Nexus first. Many Aneros have the disk-style exterior stimulator that can be uncomfortable, whereas the Nexus has the nice metal ball. The Nexus is also easier to drive, both by hand or by butt.
09/10/2011
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Definitely your finger.
07/08/2012
mlmac mlmac
I was was never able to find mine with a finger. With a few tries with the Aneros MGX, I eventually became successful.
07/08/2012
CalebC CalebC
A partner's finger!
07/15/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
Quote:
Originally posted by callsignhusker
I'm having trouble finding my spot and I'm wondering what the best object would be to use. Toy suggestions are welcome!
Actually, her finger worked best
07/25/2012
panthercat23 panthercat23
Fingers are great
07/25/2012
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
I would try a vib. Man im jealous of pspot. Wish we came with one to. Id deff have. More anal than
07/25/2012
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