I brought it up to my husband repeatedly, for years, and I returned back from an extended travel time for work and he brought it up to me and I was of course very receptive and he reached into his nightstand and pulled out a harness and several different sizes of dildos and we started out very slow, but I loved it and he got into it, too. He won't let me do it nearly as much as I would like, but at least it is in our repetoire now! He has some anal hangups, but thankfully he's open to some new experiences!