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I'd say your the exception to the rule. Not very many monogamous can handle the psychological challenges of a 3-some. It's great that it works for you - but it wouldn't work for my wife & I.
To me, it takes a special kind of relationship. One without possession and jealousy and a huge amount of trust. But in my opinion, there should be that even if you have trust. I'd be CONCERNED if my guy saw another guy or girl try to do something with me and instead of stopping it, he encouraged it and wanted to join.
To me, when you love someone and want to be with them. You really do only want to be with them and you don't want to share. So threesomes are something I do not understand.
But, do I think you can be in love and have three somes? Sure. But, if someone wants to be with me, commit to me FULLY physically and mentally then its me and nothing else. Threesomes break that in my opinion.
I have very close friends who are married and engage in this. It saved their marriage. I will never understand this, but it is for them and not for me and I am SO happy for them that they found somehting that was missing in their relationship.