If you are bisexual or pansexual, and in a long term, monogamous relationship, do you ever feel like you're losing your identity?

Pansexual, in a long-term, straight, monogamous relationship.

While I wouldn't say I've "changed" the way I identify, I would say that I've placed other gender identities on the backburner, so to speak. While I'm attracted to women, etc, I don't look beyond my partner. I don't want to. I don't need to. Women, etc, are attractive to me, but I don't view them as potential sex partners anymore. I'm fine with this.

It took me awhile to get over that I was never going to be with another woman (or another person), but, once I thought about it, I... didn't want to be with anyone else. I only want to be with my partner. I still identify as pansexual, and will for the rest of my life.

In my opinion (cannot stress this enough), if you have the desire to be with someone else that isn't your partner, there may be other underlying issues in the relationship. Talk to your partner, outside of the bedroom. Tell them how you feel. Maybe they might be open to having a threesome or an open relationship.

I consider myself to be mostly attracted to women... however, due to circumstances, I have only ever been with men. I am now married to a man (we got married so I would have a place to live and insurance) and I often feel sexually stifled now that I have come to terms with my desire for women. I don't plan on doing anything about it, though.

You could officially call me pansexual because in my opinion beauty isn't even limited to humans, so for example I would gladly enjoy myself with a tree if that was my mood... Or an everyday item if it is safely manageable...

Living with my Master with the deepest heartfelt intention to stay with Him forever and ever doesn't mean that my taste has ever changed, because I still have attractions and fantasies, I share all my thoughts and dreams with Him, and He doesn't mind it at all because He knows they will remain just fantasies and taste, and He is open to have me experience some things of it, better to say to be correct that let's say if W/we ever found O/ourselves in a situation that a girl W/we like and adore wanted to live with U/us, being good enough for O/our T/taste and N/needs then it would be ok for B/both of U/us, as long as her presence doesn't create any disharmony between U/us, and in general... Also, if I ever developed an attraction in practice towards something non-human (let's say trees) He wouldn't mind it a bit as long as it is healthy and safe for me and doesn't distract me from my duties... ^^

I also feel somewhat offended when anyone says I am not capable of staying with Him forever, because I have had a very wild life in the past, and some of the folks I hung out with still considered me as the easygoing slut I was for years and years, and they totally didn't respect my decision that I didn't want to live like that anymore... They were fucking assholes though, so from someone who doesn't know me as much and expresses her/his opinion politely I don't mind it, as long as the person isn't rude...

So yep, I am who I always was, just little details changed, I am more open in some ways and in some ways I am less open to certain things, I am still the big wild slut but I dedicate that enthusiasm and hunger only to my Master and no one else, and as long as I am able to live with Him as happy as W/we live now then I have no worries about anything in the whole world! ^^ ~pants with a pounding heart just by thinking of her OnlyMaster

I was in a relationship with a person for four years before she came out as trans. It was kind of humorous to me seeing as I kept saying "I might be a lesbian" and then she came out.

During those years, though, yes, I did feel as if a part of me was being denied.

I am bisexual and been with a guy for over 4 years. I came out as bisexual about 1 year ago and it is definitely a source of discomfort that if I am with this guy for the rest of my life, I will never get to experience being with a woman (outside of a potential threesome). But I love the guy too much to want to do anything about it.

I have a bisexual boyfriend of two years and I always worry that he gets... restless. I don't want him to feel stifled or have any bad feelings toward me, but I also know that I am a very monogomous person. It's a strange place to be in.

I am attracted to both men and women but I am in a monogamous relationship of over three years and I'm often very bothered by the fact that I'll never be with a woman, but I love my fiancé and I'm willing to make that sacrifice for him because I know that he would not be comfortable with polyamory.

Occasionally, I feel like I am losing my identity as a bisexual as I become more committed and have been monogamous with my partner for longer. I've made it important to surround myself with people who know, accept, and encourage my pride in my orientation. I do feel, however, that I may be shifting towards identifying as a lesbian the longer I am with my partner. Many of my friends, some of them homosexual (misunderstanding isn't just for straights anymore!), already consider me to be a lesbian because of my relationship and my lifestyle.

I'm more bicurious still.....with that said I tell everyone and could care less what they think of me for it.

Pansexual in a heterosexual, long term relationship. We've been together for a year and a half (this makes me realize, how long does a relationship have to be before it 'counts' as a LTR?).

I don't feel like I'm losing my identity. My sexual identity is shifting and I'm exploring it and figuring it out. I am sexually frustrated. Lol. I'm poly, he's not, I have a massive sex drive, he's asexual. Gah. Anyways, no, I don't feel like I've 'lost myself' in this relationship. If anything, it's helped me figure out who I am.

I'm only 20 so I very rarely find people that think this is my 'last' relationship or whatever. I don't worry about it. It's my life and what they think about me doesn't matter. My romantic or sexual partners are none of their business unless I choose to involve them.
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My 2 cents.

I'm pansexual, and I'm in a long-term relationship with someone of the opposite gender. It bothers me when people assume that I'm straight just because of my relationship with my boyfriend; in all actuality, he's the first person I came out to, and has probably been the most supportive of my sexuality. I have made the mistake several times of assuming people think I'm not straight (I mean, how many times do I have to talk about how big of a crush I have on Billie Piper before people know I like women?) and then mentioning it in conversation, and they're shocked. "But you have a boyfriend!" So?

When people don't know I have a boyfriend, they generally assume I'm a lesbian. I wear my hair very short and tend to wear more masculine clothing. I don't care for assumptions like that based on appearance anyway, but when people label me as gay, it's like they're completely disregarding the five years of history I have with my boyfriend. Not to mention that they're completely ignoring a huge section of my sexual identity.

I don't know why bisexuality or pansexuality seem to be so difficult for people to wrap their heads around, especially in regards to relationships. Just because I'm with a man doesn't mean that I've lost my ability to be attracted to women, and just because I'm attracted to women doesn't mean that I'm with my boyfriend for convenience.

As far as people being shocked that I can be in a long-term relationship, I have had that happen, but not as a result of me being pansexual. Moreso because I have a really high libido and openly talk about sex. Makes no sense to me in the slightest.

You must ask yourself who the "true" you is: someone who will cheat on her husband to be true to her urges or someone who will not to be true to her vows. No matter what you do, you'll live with the consequences of being "true" to yourself. Judging by the past several years with your husband, you've already determined which of your "true" identities you'd rather live with.