Bisexual threesomes (FFM) and safe sex

northstar northstar
My man and I have been discussing this possibility for a while now and one of the issues that came up was the risk of contracting an STD/STI. I assume the only real option would be to find a girl through a specific site, rather than hooking up at a bar, since talking about this with her beforehand would be an option.

But how does one go about confirming sexual health clearance without making it all seem so business-like?
12/03/2010
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Eliza Eliza
Quote:
Originally posted by northstar
My man and I have been discussing this possibility for a while now and one of the issues that came up was the risk of contracting an STD/STI. I assume the only real option would be to find a girl through a specific site, rather than hooking up at a ... More
Are you opposed to including someone you and your partner are already familiar with? I've only had one FFM threesome, and it was with myself, my girlfriend, and a male friend of ours. Because we knew him well prior to hooking up, we knew he didn't have any STDs. Also, knowing that we were with someone we trusted made the experience more comfortable for everyone.
12/03/2010
TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
All the group sex experiences I've had have been with people I've known for a while. It was something that we all talked about beforehand. Safe sex should be important to all members of the activity and if it isn't you probably aren't with someone who you should be including. They should be just as concerned as you are. So it shouldn't be an issue.
12/04/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
i have done the threesomes and group. but all the time the others that are with my primary and i are people that we have known for a long time and when there is more than two others with us, we all share std test info from the past few months.
12/05/2010
Tidwtrguy Tidwtrguy
Talking about STDs doesn't have to be business-like but it definitely should be discussed. If someone doesn't want to discuss their sexual health but, wants to play with others, that is where trouble happens. People on the dating/swingers sites should at least be more comfortable discussing sexual health than someone who you meet in a bar. I always try to ask well before getting into the heat of the moment because that can be a downer of sorts and possibly lead to an uncomfortable situation.

When I find someone who is serious about meeting to see if the mutual interest in playing is really there, I just lay it out for them. I tell them I play safe and ask if they do too, and I ask if they have been tested for STDs and their status. Just remember, if you are going to ask, make sure you can answer about your status as well! If someone is uncomfortable talking about their sexual health, then find another candidate.
12/16/2010
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