can men be bi?

CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
CynicallyYours
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so i've often heard that men who identify as bi are really gay but just haven't fully accepted it yet.

any thoughts?
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clp clp
Is this a serious question? A new member with no reviews, 1 other post, and this is your burning debut?
Are you point farming? Sorry, I'm honestly not trying to sound rude, just doesn't seem to add up.

No. There's a word for bisexuality because it is a legitimate term.
10/11/2010
Madeira Madeira
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Originally posted by CynicallyYours
so i've often heard that men who identify as bi are really gay but just haven't fully accepted it yet.

any thoughts?
I think that there are some bisexual men, but it's a little rarer than with women
10/11/2010
Waterfall Waterfall
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Originally posted by clp
Is this a serious question? A new member with no reviews, 1 other post, and this is your burning debut?
Are you point farming? Sorry, I'm honestly not trying to sound rude, just doesn't seem to add up.

No. There's a word for ... More
I like this scale, because there are some people who think you have to be equally attracted to both genders to be bisexual when in fact it is different. Thanks for posting this
10/11/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
The posters above me are wrong.

Male bisexuality has been proven impossible by a lot of scientists.

Men who say they're bisexual are really latent homosexuals, like how all women who say they're lesbians just haven't met the right man yet.

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    I am personally offended by this
10/11/2010
clp clp
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Originally posted by Waterfall
I like this scale, because there are some people who think you have to be equally attracted to both genders to be bisexual when in fact it is different. Thanks for posting this
Glad you like it. I grabbed it from over here. By no means a comprehensive study, but does mention both the Kinsey and Klein studies of human sexuality.
10/11/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
The posters above me are wrong.

Male bisexuality has been proven impossible by a lot of scientists.

Men who say they're bisexual are really latent homosexuals, like how all women who say they're lesbians just haven't met the ... More
I disagree,

I don't think that science can prove or disprove anything 100%. It just finds evidence to support or discount a theory and often times certain theories have perfect balancing support/negating evidence. So really, how can we know that something is really true or false. It's all dependent on statistics of things that are based on the subjective or things tested in an artificial environment.

And on the latter point this may be insulting/offending to people who identify as bisexual. It's great that you want to share your opinion but I would be careful on statements that categorize people as either or.

At EF you can identify your gender identity and sexual orientation how you want and it is important to respect that there is diversity here.
10/11/2010
kck kck
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
The posters above me are wrong.

Male bisexuality has been proven impossible by a lot of scientists.

Men who say they're bisexual are really latent homosexuals, like how all women who say they're lesbians just haven't met the ... More
Heh.


Of course men can be bisexual.
10/11/2010
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
I disagree,

I don't think that science can prove or disprove anything 100%. It just finds evidence to support or discount a theory and often times certain theories have perfect balancing support/negating evidence. So really, how can we ... More
I was being facetious, maybe the tone wasn't executed clearly enough?


As a queer woman I support the gender and sexual expressions of all our community members and if someone was offended by my jest I apologize.
10/11/2010
ToyGeek ToyGeek
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I was being facetious, maybe the tone wasn't executed clearly enough?


As a queer woman I support the gender and sexual expressions of all our community members and if someone was offended by my jest I apologize.
Sarcasm often comes across wrong in the Internet, because the clarifying statement by definition comes last. Next time, put the eyerolling smiley up higher in the comment, I think.
10/11/2010
nolongerhere nolongerhere
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
I was being facetious, maybe the tone wasn't executed clearly enough?


As a queer woman I support the gender and sexual expressions of all our community members and if someone was offended by my jest I apologize.
Yeah, you fooled me too. I am glad you were being sarcastic...lol.
10/11/2010
Persephone Nightmare Persephone Nightmare
Here's what I believe about bisexuality: That anyone can be bi, however, not everyone is.

I don't think that one can completely sit and say, "Well, this group of people can't be bi because of their gender/race/nationalit y/etc", since I'm sure that there are bi people in just about every group that you can come across.

And as for the second bit, I don't think that one can say the opposite: "Okay, well, these people are bi because of their gender/race/nationalit y/etc" for just about the same reason, that there will always be people in these groups that defy the over-generalization (the reason why I bring this up is because I've heard many argue that "No matter what, every woman is bi" or something along those lines, and I feel that's simply not true (insert whatever difference that people have where 'woman' is, but that's just the example I heard). This thread reminded me of that, so I included it since it seemed relevant, lol)

But that's just my opinion

P.s: Don't feel bad, all, I didn't know DeliciousSurprise was joking either, lol. It took me a minute to figure out that she was
10/11/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
I think anyone can be bi. Why can females but not males? Its absurd.
10/12/2010
~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by Madeira
I think that there are some bisexual men, but it's a little rarer than with women
I might agree. I also think that there is a misconception though about women. Just because a woman has kissed a female doesn't mean she is bi either.
10/12/2010
PassionQT PassionQT
My partner identifies himself as bi, although if I was not in his life, he would probably live a homosexual lifestyle. I gave up trying to figure out who he is, what to label him, etc.. I've known a couple men to date women for a period of time, then they grow tired of the gals, then date men...and keep flip flopping.
10/12/2010
CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
there was really no judgment involved in the question. as i said, it's something i've heard several times, not something i necessarily beleive.

i don't see how the status of my profile negates the premise, it was a question i thought might stimulate some discussiona and low and behold, it has.

seems i am not the judgmental one here.

for the record, i believe people are what they are and identify as they are comfortable.
10/14/2010
CynicallyYours CynicallyYours
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Originally posted by clp
Is this a serious question? A new member with no reviews, 1 other post, and this is your burning debut?
Are you point farming? Sorry, I'm honestly not trying to sound rude, just doesn't seem to add up.

No. There's a word for ... More
i didn't realize i was supposed to impress you. guess i'm going to have to continue failing because i can't bring myself to care if you think my question is worth your time...tho you answered it so if anything doesn't add up, it's your disgust.
10/14/2010
kck kck
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Originally posted by CynicallyYours
i didn't realize i was supposed to impress you. guess i'm going to have to continue failing because i can't bring myself to care if you think my question is worth your time...tho you answered it so if anything doesn't add up, it's your disgust.
I don't think you don't have to impress anyone. Promise. I don't that's what CLP was saying either. Perhaps the brevity of your question (and the fact that this has been discussed in similar conversations) led CLP to the wrong conclusion. We've had some trouble recently with contributors who don't really care about, well, contributing to the community and simply partake in the action to rack up EdenPoints. It's not an excuse, but this sort of thing unfortunately does make older members more leery. Again, I'm not coming to the aid of CLP, or trying to inject myself in this situation. I'm simply trying to offer you a possibility as to why the post was perceived as not serious.

As for your response, I think it was kind of snarky and unnecessary. If you were being sincere in your post, you should answer sincerely. No need to get defensive; we're all on here to learn and share with each other
10/14/2010
Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by Madeira
I think that there are some bisexual men, but it's a little rarer than with women
I have to wonder if it really is rarer than with women, or if men typically don't act on it or share it as readily as women do. It's generally seen to be more acceptable for a woman to be bi than a man, so it makes sense that women might feel a little more comfortable acting on it and letting others know that they are bi.

I think unfortunately a lot of people do think that bi men are actually just homosexuals who haven't come out fully..and it's ridiculous because it makes no sense whatsoever that women can be but men can't. But, that's how society sees it and I think it causes a lot of people not to live their lives as they wish to.
10/14/2010
UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
I think anyone can be bi. Why can females but not males? Its absurd.
Well said.
10/19/2010
Danielle915 Danielle915
Of course a man can be bi. Women can be bi so why can't a man?
10/19/2010
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I might agree. I also think that there is a misconception though about women. Just because a woman has kissed a female doesn't mean she is bi either.
I don't really know what I think about whether men can or cannot be bi I honestly don't know why we're even speculating this... but I completely agree that there is a misconception about women. I don't identify as a bisexual woman, but there are women that I've been attracted to and am curious about lesbian sex. There are occasionally women who catch my eye, but very, very few.
10/27/2010
SXEKAT SXEKAT
I find this to be true I have a life long friend who's bisexual. He loves men and women equally. So yeah it can be rare to find a bisexual Male and I'm lucky to know one
10/31/2010
lemony lemony
I have two bisexual male friends. That I know of so far, so yeah, I'd say they can be bisexual.
11/26/2010
Destri Destri
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
The posters above me are wrong.

Male bisexuality has been proven impossible by a lot of scientists.

Men who say they're bisexual are really latent homosexuals, like how all women who say they're lesbians just haven't met the ... More
Proven by scientists? You have got to be kidding me. Are these the same scientists that say that you can 'cure' homosexuality? My husband is bit, and he is just that... bi. He is sexually attracted to both sexes, and after being married to him for 6 years, I can assure you he is NOT a latent homosexual.

And oh, by the way, I am lesbian and I adore my husband. I have met the exact right man, and oh! still a lesbian....
11/26/2010
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I suppose I was lucky to witness as an outsider the blossoming sexuality of one of my dear friends from the time he was sixteen to the present (he's twenty-one now). He knew he didn't quite 'fit' the definitions of hetero, and so assumed he was gay while he was in high school. But he noticed he didn't quite fit the definitions of gay, either, so he spent a good long time trying to figure it out - turned out he was bi, and he feels more comfortable being able to pinpoint where he is on the scale (this matters to him because he's majoring in psychology and he's a control freak - go fig). At any rate, because he's in a committed relationship with a guy, his family assumes "he's decided he's gay". Yeah, some people just don't get it.

Destri, Delicious Surprise was being sarcastic.
11/26/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Alicia
I have to wonder if it really is rarer than with women, or if men typically don't act on it or share it as readily as women do. It's generally seen to be more acceptable for a woman to be bi than a man, so it makes sense that women might ... More
My question would be why should a man who loves female bodied partners and male bodied partners have to choose while a female is free to play the field?
11/26/2010
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Destri
Proven by scientists? You have got to be kidding me. Are these the same scientists that say that you can 'cure' homosexuality? My husband is bit, and he is just that... bi. He is sexually attracted to both sexes, and after being married ... More
It was meant as a snarky sarcastic reply, of course scientists have proven nothing of the sort and we know that lesbians are women who love female bodied persons. A man is just as entitled to be bisexual, trisexual, pansexual and even asexual as any woman.
11/26/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
I know you have met my puppy/sub and he is a wonderful example of a bi man. Yes he admits that he is far more interested in the male form, but there are some women that he finds just irresistible.
11/28/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by CynicallyYours
so i've often heard that men who identify as bi are really gay but just haven't fully accepted it yet.

any thoughts?
I think men are very sexual and just because they may want to try a man does not mean they love women!!!
12/18/2010
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