How did everyone come out to their friends? My family is very accepting, but many of my friends make disparaging comments (without knowing how I feel about sexuality). :/ Did anyone else have a similar situation?
Coming out
02/16/2012
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I had a nightmare which, after an extensive search through a dream meaning book, sort of scared me into blurting it out randomly to my aunt (hard to expalain but in essence, the dream seemed to mean that I was afraid of keeping secrets from my family and that some dire consequence would happen if I wasn't honest about that). My mother has known for years though.
Originally posted by
Seharra
How did everyone come out to their friends? My family is very accepting, but many of my friends make disparaging comments (without knowing how I feel about sexuality). :/ Did anyone else have a similar situation?
02/17/2012
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I always bring it up in conversation around friends that don't know as it comes up. Like if they talk about having a crush on someone I just bring it up then... found that making it a big deal causes them to make a big deal. Good luck.
Originally posted by
Seharra
How did everyone come out to their friends? My family is very accepting, but many of my friends make disparaging comments (without knowing how I feel about sexuality). :/ Did anyone else have a similar situation?
02/17/2012
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I hate scary dreams!
Originally posted by
KyotoAngel
I had a nightmare which, after an extensive search through a dream meaning book, sort of scared me into blurting it out randomly to my aunt (hard to expalain but in essence, the dream seemed to mean that I was afraid of keeping secrets from my family
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I had a nightmare which, after an extensive search through a dream meaning book, sort of scared me into blurting it out randomly to my aunt (hard to expalain but in essence, the dream seemed to mean that I was afraid of keeping secrets from my family and that some dire consequence would happen if I wasn't honest about that). My mother has known for years though.
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02/17/2012
I find that most of the time it kind of comes up naturally. Like if they start talking about a celebrity they like, I bring up a female celebrity I'm really attracted to. "Oh, yeah, I guess Johnny Depp is ok, but Zoey Deschanel, like woaah!" Or something like that where it makes it obvious. Or I talk about my exes or I mention that I won't patronize a certain business because they aren't gay friendly. If a friend is being particularly obtuse or difficult or is very disrespectful or likely to have a problem with it, I make a point of sitting them down and talking about it. I let them know that I'm gay and that when they make anti-gay or non-gay-friendly comments it hurts my feelings. My most common response to someone saying something or someone is "gay" in a derogatory way is to proudly say "yes, yes I am." This usually shuts them up or sets the stuttering and falling over themselves to apologize. As the true but cliched adage goes, if they really have a problem with who you are and can't respect your feelings, they are not your friends.
02/18/2012
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Well said! I'm always open with my sexuality and while it makes some people uncomfortable, those are the same people I choose to exclude from my life. There is no place judgmental intolerance in my social circle. It's the whole the people who matter don't care, and the people who care don't matter thing.
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
I find that most of the time it kind of comes up naturally. Like if they start talking about a celebrity they like, I bring up a female celebrity I'm really attracted to. "Oh, yeah, I guess Johnny Depp is ok, but Zoey Deschanel, like
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I find that most of the time it kind of comes up naturally. Like if they start talking about a celebrity they like, I bring up a female celebrity I'm really attracted to. "Oh, yeah, I guess Johnny Depp is ok, but Zoey Deschanel, like woaah!" Or something like that where it makes it obvious. Or I talk about my exes or I mention that I won't patronize a certain business because they aren't gay friendly. If a friend is being particularly obtuse or difficult or is very disrespectful or likely to have a problem with it, I make a point of sitting them down and talking about it. I let them know that I'm gay and that when they make anti-gay or non-gay-friendly comments it hurts my feelings. My most common response to someone saying something or someone is "gay" in a derogatory way is to proudly say "yes, yes I am." This usually shuts them up or sets the stuttering and falling over themselves to apologize. As the true but cliched adage goes, if they really have a problem with who you are and can't respect your feelings, they are not your friends.
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02/18/2012
My friends and family were all just kinda like, "Yeah we knew..."
08/06/2012
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