Originally posted by
Wise Young Mommy
I am a married bi-sexual woman who has no desire to have a threesome with another woman but it is such a fantasy of my husband's. Anyone else have this experience and how did you handle it?
Yes, that is a can of worms and a half. DBD's response is great.
Since this is, conceptually, opening your marriage, I recommend you sit your husband down and have a frank discussion about how he would feel if you pursued a solo relationship with another woman, and how he would feel if you wished to introduce another man into the bedroom. Whether or not you're interested in doing those things, his responses will be very telling and will give you a clue as to what landmines may come up if you were to agree to acting out his fantasy. It's one thing to think about how cool it will be to see two women together, it is an entirely different thing to see your partner intimate with someone else. Just because it's another woman doesn't mean that feelings of jealousy and inadequacy won't pop up.
Once you know of the potential landmines, you can proceed knowing the pitfalls - either by taking the time to quell the fears, or by moving forward aware that they may come up.
And, of course, it's one thing for it to not be your fantasys, it's another to be something you don't want to do. It's great to be good-giving-game, but there are limits - don't do something you really don't want to do. Good luck!