Lesbian etiquette

Katelyn Katelyn
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Dating a bottom, does it sometimes get old?
11/30/2011
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Gingy Gingy
Ive never had that problem, you should probably talk with your date about this and get her to do some work once in a while.
11/30/2011
Katelyn Katelyn
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Originally posted by Gingy
Ive never had that problem, you should probably talk with your date about this and get her to do some work once in a while.
Yeah I think it comes down to a communication thing, I tend to date extremely shy women so maybe they just need to be asked : )
12/01/2011
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Communication is key in any relationship--if you've presented yourself as a top, don't expect your bottom to assume she'll be topping. If you've presented yourself as wanting reciprocation, make sure she knows that--but don't be upset if she's continuing the way she expects you're okay with.
12/01/2011
Katelyn Katelyn
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Originally posted by DeliciousSurprise
Communication is key in any relationship--if you've presented yourself as a top, don't expect your bottom to assume she'll be topping. If you've presented yourself as wanting reciprocation, make sure she knows that--but don't be ... More
I for sure need to start learning how to ask for what I want. It's difficult dating this girl I am with she seems to always be shy about what she wants and never lets me know what shes thinking and it definitely rubs off on me. I better say something before I get to frustrated with it though, I wish I had more practice communicating! I guess I just have to get used to it.
12/02/2011
Tangerine Tangerine
I think things are much more exciting if things can be switched up. Otherwise I get bored.
12/05/2011
darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by Katelyn
Dating a bottom, does it sometimes get old?
I have never dated anyone who claimed to be either "top" or "bottom". I guess ive been lucky that we like all ways!
12/07/2011
MyPrettyPower MyPrettyPower
Open communication is the only way to fix it. Its likely she has no idea you have a problem, until you tell her.
12/11/2011
aroarofthunder aroarofthunder
I wholeheartedly agree with you, MyPrettyPower. I was in a similar situation, except we were both tops. We didn't communicate well about the situation, and it really led to our demise. Don't let the same thing happen to you - be honest and gentle and respond to her needs as well.
01/20/2012
lcl169 lcl169
definitely worth getting her feedback...even if its just listening to the sounds she makes in bed. every little thing helps in communication...and for some its not always verbal!
01/23/2012
CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
I have a similiar situation, we've just been doing it so long it's getting a bit old. I know communication is key, but I think I might bring a new toy into the bedroom too. Just for added effect.
01/25/2012
zecookiepuss zecookiepuss
Never had just a bottom as my girl... always luckily end up with switches... happy about that fact. I personally can't imagine being just one or the other... they are both so good.
01/26/2012
Snozzberries Snozzberries
I've always ended up with spunky switches too. We had lots of fun together because I seemed to end up with girls just like me.

I would think that having a bottom (or top) all the time would get a little frustrating if you wanted to change it up some. I hope it works out for you!
02/04/2012
Roshandala Roshandala
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Originally posted by Katelyn
Dating a bottom, does it sometimes get old?
it depends on your personality type.
02/24/2013
Pastafariette Pastafariette
For me, it did. I was with her for 4+ years and it did tend to "get old" often.
05/06/2013
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