Only for those bisexuals who are in a monogamous relationship: Do you ever miss being with the other sex?

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Only for those bisexuals who are in a monogamous relationship: Do you ever miss being with the other sex?

Nazaress Nazaress
(NOTE: This is not to say that there are only two genders. I'm simply posing a question and trying to simplify it to "female-bodied persons" and "male-bodied persons". Feel feel to elaborate if your situation is different.)

If you are in a relationship with someone, male or female, do you ever miss or at least feel a little sad about the possibility (or reality) of never being with the other gender again? I don't mean "other gender", as in "other gender than your own" but rather, "other gender" as in "other gender than your partner".

I'm in a straight relationship right now and I love my boyfriend to death but there are times that I miss when I was with a woman. It's not just about the sex, though there is that (even though I'm sure I could be with a woman if I wanted because my boyfriend in interested in, you know, all that). It's also about how it's different to date a woman instead of a man. I've never had any of the problems that I've had with men when I dated women. I can't say this is true for ALL men because I've never dated every man but in my experience, dating women was just...different. Of course, I never really got to the point of a "serious" relationship with them so maybe things would have changed. But regardless, I'm not even really bisexual. I identify myself as a lesbian with a boyfriend because I am not attracted to any other man than him but I am attracted to women in general. So the whole "longing" thing may be worse in me than others. I'm just lucky that I'm so in love and so attracted to my boyfriend and that I may think about it sometimes but I would never leave him just because he's not the "right" gender.
03/07/2012
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Faeya Faeya
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Originally posted by Nazaress
(NOTE: This is not to say that there are only two genders. I'm simply posing a question and trying to simplify it to "female-bodied persons" and "male-bodied persons". Feel feel to elaborate if your situation is ...
Admittedly, I used to sometimes. There's just...Differences between how men and women look/feel/etc. Sometimes I miss kissing a girl. Granted, it's not really a big deal. It's just like anything else that's "off limits" when you're monogamous. However, now I'm in an open/poly relationship, so if we find the right girl, it might not even be an issue for me anymore
03/08/2012
Anastasia Beaverhousen Anastasia Beaverhousen
In my case, I suppose you can't really miss what you never had. I've only ever been with girls. My current partner is very open about sex and it's definitely never boring in that department. Real penises seem pretty cool if porn is any indication, though.
03/08/2012
sneako sneako
Quote:
Originally posted by Nazaress
(NOTE: This is not to say that there are only two genders. I'm simply posing a question and trying to simplify it to "female-bodied persons" and "male-bodied persons". Feel feel to elaborate if your situation is ...
yeah I can relate
03/23/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
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Originally posted by Nazaress
(NOTE: This is not to say that there are only two genders. I'm simply posing a question and trying to simplify it to "female-bodied persons" and "male-bodied persons". Feel feel to elaborate if your situation is ...
maybe you'd be into polyamory?
03/25/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I always wonder if this could become a problem in longer term relationships.
04/04/2012
nori nori
(thanks for the disclaimed about 'the other sex!' your sensitivity is appreciated)

and yes, a little bit. But mostly my girlfriend takes measures to allow me to enjoy the other side of the coin. Porn, power play, toys, etc.
04/04/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
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Originally posted by tigertiger
maybe you'd be into polyamory?
I honestly don't think I would. I can't stand the thought of my boyfriend being with someone else. I still struggle with the idea of a threesome. And it wouldn't be fair of me to have a relationship, particularly another loving relationship, with someone else when he couldn't. So I don't think I could do it.

@ nori: No problem. Accepting, including, and understanding others is the minimum amount required for human decency.
04/04/2012
LusciousLizz LusciousLizz
I'm in a straight relationship. I am married, have been with my husband (including dating before marriage) for eight years. During those years, I also dated several women. My husband disapproved/s of my behavior. I miss being with a woman every single day. I miss the feel of a woman's soft touch, kiss, caress. Women know what woman want...period. Don't get me wrong, I thoroughly enjoy sex with my husband, and couldn't live without him, but I have always found women to be more attractive physically. Also things seem to be more emotionally intimate with other women. I wish he would allow me to indulge every once in awhile, but he is far too important to me to go behind his back. I could never be unfaithful to him without it being a consensual agreement between us....but god if I could.....
04/04/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
There are definitely times when I miss it and crave sex with a woman. Many years ago in our relationship, my husband and I (though not married yet at the time) played around with threesomes and such, but we found it did not usually work out well for us. Right now we're just with one another, and I'm mostly content with that. Being with someone else - of either gender - is just not worth any damage it could do to my marriage.
04/07/2012
Girly Juice Girly Juice
My attractions to women are primarily sexual, and my boyfriend honestly "makes love like a woman" sometimes. I mean that in the best way possible. So I can't say that I've ever missed being with a woman while I've been with him.
04/10/2012
RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
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Originally posted by LusciousLizz
I'm in a straight relationship. I am married, have been with my husband (including dating before marriage) for eight years. During those years, I also dated several women. My husband disapproved/s of my behavior. I miss being with a woman every ...
I'm in the same boat! I'm with a man that I love dearly and could never leave or go behind his back. he says it would be ok if I did... but that would just feel to wrong. He knows I find women more attractive.

I miss my girlfriend. She's married and living in Hawaii now... I miss kissing, the taste of flavored lipgloss, her perfume, soft skin, and painting each other's nails... I could go on.
04/10/2012
vegweg vegweg
I've been with my transguy for a year and a half or so now. I know that's not long compared to some of you, but we're only 20 and 22 so (I at least feel like) it's a pretty big deal for our age group. I guess I'm in a unique situation because I kind of get the best of both worlds as far as the masculine/feminine debate, but that applies to the sex as well. Occasionally I miss being with ciswomen who I could do things like going shopping and getting mani/pedis with, but you can do those things with female friends as well as lovers. And sometimes I miss cismen and the way they're usually a little rough around the edges. I have to admit though, although it was sometimes easier for me to feel closer to guys during sex, I don't miss the whole mentality of "once the guy cums, sex is over"
04/14/2012
SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
I sometimes miss the strength that comes with dating a male, but over all, I'm happy I'm with a woman and I don't feel like anything is lacking in my relationship because of it.
05/31/2012
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