Stereotype discussion: Threesomes

foxxyluv foxxyluv
I have enjoyed threesomes as a bisexual female but I don't actively seek them out. I'm very specific with my partner's and I prefer to put all of my attention towards one person. When I tried a threesome it was for fun with another female and a male. I was focused on the female as I had no interest in the male and he had assumed the same of me. I enjoyed the time but it wasn't overly orgasmic or special. My toy and I are thinking and considering a threesome with someone else, either female or male, we haven't decided. My toy, male, is curious about having a guy enter him while he focuses on me and I think I'd really enjoy that.
06/29/2012
PassionCpl PassionCpl
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Originally posted by Roz W
I'd rather watch. I've done it, with friends, and only because it was friends, and wouldn't seek it out again. I feel like people being so focused on "threesome!" comes from such a heteronormative, extra-woman-as-a-sex-t oy ... More
Well considering you don't like assumptions, you just made one about threesomes coming from a 'heteronormative, extra-woman-as-a-sex-t oy place', lol. Don't forget, there are plenty of couples who only look for a male third too. And while there are a ton of unicorn hunters, there ARE women who will actively seek out couples purely for sex (trust us, we've found - and been approached by - more than one over the years), just as there are women already in a relationship who think it would be fun to be spit-roasted or have sex with her guy and another girl.

For us (and some others we know), the extra person isn't there as a sex toy but rather as someone who fits the other two well as a third, whatever their sex and whether it's a one-time thing or an ongoing sexual relationship.
06/29/2012
Roz W Roz W
Making a generalization about society -- and that its dominant, most-talked-about sexual fantasies are heterosexual ones in which men fuck women -- isn't the same thing as making generalizations about all the individual people who are interested in a certain thing.

I know women who seek out couples, and happy pansexual poly people who seek out all kinds of stuff. That totally exists. And when that is representative of the majority of society -- when there is a *balance* -- I will be one happy bunny.
06/30/2012
HusbandandWife HusbandandWife
We have not had a threesome but I sure would like to. We have talked about it or another couple joining. We just don't know how to go about doing this. Of course jealousy is an issue and I am not sure if we could agree on the other person/people.
07/11/2012
pestilence pestilence
I'd love to try a threesome someday if I ever get over my crippling social anxiety. Unfortunately I think that's going to take some time.
07/17/2012
HotMess;) HotMess;)
My first experience with a threesome was me coming in on a couple. I personally feel that man in the couple was more willing for me to come in than the female and that made it really uncomfortable. I still enjoyed myself, but I don't think I would ever do it again if I found a couple that was open to it. Now I've been talking to a female that is in a committed relationship and they are swingers... so it makes it way easier in that kind of relationship due to them both being open to the experience. So.. I wouldn't say I would never do a threesome again because of my first experience, but I think the dynamics of the relationship have to be very open.
07/20/2012
LadyDragonfly LadyDragonfly
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... More
its refreshing to know im not the only one out there who feels this way i guess im also selfish i wouldn't want to share my female partner with my male partner or vise versa unfortunately my male partner does not like this idea of me being with someone else without him being able to do the same in other words i cant have another woman unless he can enjoy her too not my thing plus i want all the attention on me so maybe im also self centered lol
07/26/2012
Itsnotabanana Itsnotabanana
Not the least bit interested in them really.
07/26/2012
NightKat NightKat
When I was younger I use to participate in them fairly often with a regular group of people. Things were usually pretty casual and enjoyable. In committed relationships, they're definitely harder to manage as others have mentioned.
07/28/2012
Scrawberry78 Scrawberry78
I want to try a 3some
07/28/2012
hanjonatan hanjonatan
never tried it, no real interest.
07/29/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I am female, straight, and wouldn't ever have one.
07/29/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I've had threesomes and would happily have more, I just need to wait until both of my partners are in the same town as me at the same time again.
08/02/2012
novanilla novanilla
I never had interest in threesomes until more recently when I became more comfortable in my queerness and switching between sexes and genders, and I found a partner who is incredibly supportive of my queerness despite how cis and hetero we are together. He said he wants to satisfy me both as a woman and queer woman, and that he's okay with me looking at other women and doing a threesome. Although a lot of people will jump to the assumption that he's all "yeahhhhh lesbians! hot!" he is coming at this from a completely different angle, which I really appreciate. I'm not objectified, and neither is the other woman, and that makes me really comfortable and enthusiastic to try one!
08/10/2012
pleasurehunter pleasurehunter
something ive always wanted to try but never have
08/31/2012
bdan bdan
It was fun while it was happening but was bad after the fact.
08/31/2012
MeenahPeixxxes MeenahPeixxxes
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... More
I think it would take someone special that both myself and my significant other could trust. Trust is a big issue and it really makes for an easy going sex session. I couldn't see myself going near a three some if I didn't get to know the person and feel like the both of us would be okay with them.

The idea is always striking but that's all it is. In reality, there's just not any bang to going through with it.
09/05/2012
Phoenix77 Phoenix77
I've had two. The first I was brought into a couple, and it was fine, the second I was in a relationship and brought in someone I was very much into. Unfortunately, the latter didn't work very well. Drama ensued, and luckily she and I were close enough that it didn't effect our friendship. Never really saw the point in making the guy get why it had backfired though.

I would hesitate before doing another, I'm very indifferent, and the reason it wasn't just *bad* the second time was because I was super close with the woman who was brought in, and not overly crazy about the guy I was dating, so I didn't have any jealousy or trust issues to deal with. Now though? My current partner has agreed to let me date a woman, but I can't talk myself into being okay with him being with another woman, and I don't see myself sharing anytime soon.
09/18/2012
emiliaa emiliaa
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Originally posted by MeenahPeixxxes
I think it would take someone special that both myself and my significant other could trust. Trust is a big issue and it really makes for an easy going sex session. I couldn't see myself going near a three some if I didn't get to know the ... More
I agree. It isn't absolutely terrible, but there is no 'bang' to it. Glad to see this discussion still going strong after such a long time! O_O I've been away from the forums a bit.
09/19/2012
TiffyPixie TiffyPixie
never tried it.
09/20/2012
peachmarie peachmarie
I would love to try sex with a woman, but i just know with my boyfriend i have now i would get jealous if we engaged in a three way and he paid more attention to the girl and the girl paid more attention to him i wouldn't like that. I know myself, I would get jealous and i just don't think our relationship would be better for it. I would let him watch while i did stuff to a girl but he'd want to join in so that's out. I know that there are some couples who are both secure enough with themselves and their partners to not feel that jealousy and anger, god bless them but that's not my situation unfortunately.
09/25/2012
The Kitty The Kitty
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... More
I can enjoy group sex, but the stereotypical 2 girls 1 guy, main focus being on him kind of three way bores the snot out of me, that or the MFM where the boys dont tough, yawn. I prefer if it is going to be a group that everyone interacts and no one person is the center.
09/28/2012
tlemons tlemons
I have had only 2 threesomes. Both times was 2 girls 1 guy. My first time it was with a married couple it was great had a lot of fun. The second time was with my husband before we were married he had mentioned how he had never had a threesome and was very curious about it actually wanted to have one really bad. We had a party at our house and my best friend and I got drunk and well one thing lead to another. It was fun at first then my buzz started wearing off and realised that my boyfriend was having sex with my best friend. When that ran through my mind it totally turned me off I was done at that point. I have never been a jealous person but that night I was fuming with jealously. Now I can't say that my husband and I would never do it again but it can't be with a best friend. We are all still very close but I can sense some tension between us at times. It was also my friends first time. But I do think people should try threesomes however really think about if it will hurt your feelings or someone else's feelings. I can say I would like to try 2 men one time however I don't think my husband would go for it.
09/28/2012
MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I REALLY want to try a threesome, but I've never had one. MMF or FFM!
09/29/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
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Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... More
I would enjoy one, but would never actually do one.
10/02/2012
Boyfriend Boyfriend
never tried
10/10/2012
dks210 dks210
I'm curious, but I don't think I could have a threesome unless I was single.
02/14/2013
LittleHouse LittleHouse
As owners of a Swingers Club and being a Bisexual Couple, we have seen (and done) it all.. but we like having 3-somes and seek them out, as a couple.
02/19/2013
.Kim. .Kim.
I have tried and did not enjoy, bisexual, female. I prefer one on one contact.
02/21/2013
damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by emiliaa
I'm curious how many bisexual people out there do not like threesomes. I don't *hate* them, but I find them fairly boring, and I would definitely not go out of my way to seek one out. I prefer intimate connection with a singular person at one ... More
I have never tried and am curious about threesomes.
02/21/2013
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