When asked about your sexuality, what do you say?

Contributor: Violet October Violet October
I say I'm bisexal. I'm open about it now.
02/09/2013
Contributor: altheasmarnella altheasmarnella
Quote:
Originally posted by needapacker
A lot of the bisexuals I know usually don't say they're bisexual when asked. Like when i'm asked, i just say I'm gay since im in a committed relationship with a man.
What do you say and why?
I'm married to a man, but people rarely ask what my sexuality is cause I wear it on my sleeve and talk about sex so much that my bisexual nature comes out rather quickly.
02/28/2013
Contributor: nimr nimr
I give them a really boring and complicated answer that boils down to "I don't find any of these words very compelling."
02/28/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I've become more comfortable saying that I'm bi, as the years go on. I was called d**e a lot in HS and that hindered me from being open about anything, but crushes on boys. I'm married to a man, but I am sexually attracted to both men and women. I've been with more men than women. Simply because I haven't had a lot of relationships with women, doesn't take away from my sexual identity. I'm bi-sexual. I'm not bringing it up to my bible thumping grandma, who has disowned her favorite son for the past 17 years for coming out of the closet. Some people can't handle being in the know.
02/28/2013
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by needapacker
A lot of the bisexuals I know usually don't say they're bisexual when asked. Like when i'm asked, i just say I'm gay since im in a committed relationship with a man.
What do you say and why?
My life partner will say he's bi but I tend to say heteroflexible about myself.
03/01/2013
Contributor: Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
It depends on who is asking the question, some people you can be honest some people you cant and others its not any of their buisness
03/01/2013
Contributor: dks210 dks210
I don't really like to label myself, because I'm still trying to figure things out. No one really asks me that question though since I'm in a 4 year hetero relationship. I guess maybe "queer" would be the best term? Idk.
03/25/2013
Contributor: Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
straight
03/25/2013
Contributor: Luca77 Luca77
I'm bi out of those options but I say "other." Usually I say something ambiguous and off-handed. Most people who ask don't need to know anyways.
03/29/2013
Contributor: mdnght mdnght
With people I think will know what poly/pan/omni sexual means, I'll use one of those. But with other people I'll either say bi or just not straight.
03/29/2013
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by needapacker
A lot of the bisexuals I know usually don't say they're bisexual when asked. Like when i'm asked, i just say I'm gay since im in a committed relationship with a man.
What do you say and why?
It depends
03/29/2013
Contributor: QoI QoI
I have no problems stating that I'm pansexual if asked. If I'm talking to someone who isn't that familiar with sexuality terms, I'll say that I'm bisexual. I do consider the two similar enough that telling someone that I'm bi sums it up well enough without dragging all the gender flub-wub into it.
04/02/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
Nobody ever asks. If they did, I'd say straight. Everybody has always assumed I'm straight, anyway. Except, of course, for the one guy I had sex with. In anonymous, online settings, I'm totally honest about my sexuality. But I see no benefit in real life.
04/06/2013
Contributor: ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
I think it's a very personal question and I wouldn't be too thrilled if someone came out and asked me unless of course, it was the topic of conversation to begin with.

Absolutely no one my partner and my family knows my sexual orientation, except my partners cousin. She is bisexual and much less judgmental than the rest of our families. I'm fairly secretive about it because I'm currently with a guy so no one thinks to question it. Both sides of our family are very old fashion and my side has stuck with their religious beliefs.

I have had a few short relationships with females but never anything serious. I just never found a girl who was worth it to me.

My partner and friends are aware of my sexuality though.
04/06/2013
Contributor: Pastafariette Pastafariette
As long as it isn't my father, pansexual it is.
05/05/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
I say I'm a lesbian but that label doesn't really fit me? I identify with queer but nobody knows what that means when I tell them that. I don't feel comfortable with the bisexual label because I heavily lean towards women and kinda like guys sometimes but not usually. I wish they had a good term for people like me. I'm floating somewhere on the gay side of the sexuality spectrum.

It also works because when straight guys hear that I'm a lesbian, they leave me alone! It's really sad how guys are so persistant that I even feel the need to do that.
05/06/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
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Originally posted by Intrepid Niddering
I'm omnisexual, so when asked, I state that I'm omnisexual. If it's not asked, I don't say anything about my sexuality.

It actually bothers me when people who are bi claim they are a different sexuality when they aren't ... more
Wow, what they said does betray a kind of misunderstanding.
05/06/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I like both men and women, although I lean more in favor of women.
05/06/2013
Contributor: oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
I'm in a committed relationship with a man so people assume I'm straight. They only ask when I've mentioned something about my high school girlfriend. Then I tell them that yes I'm a bisexual.
05/06/2013
Contributor: Llewey Llewey
I say "queer!" As a running joke, I like bluntly saying "Everyone is pansexual!" whenever people bring up the topic.
05/06/2013
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
I normally tell them Pansexual. Nearly every time...I'm asked what that is -_- When I explain, I get the worst looks. I don't really care. I am who I am, if they don't like it, then they don't. I never said they had to! XD

I'm interested in all, but I'm married to a man. So my family sees this as ok, sorta. Only the mother.
05/06/2013
Contributor: BrittaniMaree BrittaniMaree
I don't hide that I am bisexual from anyone
05/06/2013
Contributor: lovelyzombie lovelyzombie
Straightt
05/06/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
I tend to say bi or lesbian.
05/20/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
I describe myself as "hopelessly heterosexual" I've been in two relationships with women, and though I cared about them I didn't desire them as much as I do men. (Shame too...) Thus far it seems I can enjoy being intimate with a woman, but I really prefer to have a male partner, even without PIV intercourse.

Sexuality is a complicated thing...
05/24/2013
Contributor: lauraxxarual lauraxxarual
I say "queer."
05/30/2013
Contributor: Hentialover Hentialover
Quote:
Originally posted by needapacker
A lot of the bisexuals I know usually don't say they're bisexual when asked. Like when i'm asked, i just say I'm gay since im in a committed relationship with a man.
What do you say and why?
It depends on how someone asks me. A lot of the time I get asked about my sexuality, I often just say. "I don't date men." and then it's. "oh... so... you date...Women?" And then I just stare at them weird and nod or raise my brows and say "Well, that would be the main assumptions, but yes. I date women." Other times. people are just curious. I never lie about my sexuality, I see no point. if you want to hang with me. or be my friend, accepting my sexuality is a must.
05/31/2013
Contributor: JinxPinx JinxPinx
I know if I was in a same-sex relationship, most people would just assume we were a gay couple but I'd still identify as Bi because that's what I am
06/04/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
I tend to say that I'm bisexual, but I tend to prefer women.
06/12/2013
Contributor: Hipposterous Hipposterous
I say I'm queer for a few reasons. Firstly, it sums everything up easily. I don't feel *completely* comfortable in any of the existing identities, so queer makes me feel the most recognized. But also, bisexual has such a stigma attached to it-- especially for a girl my age. I'm 19, and if I say I'm bisexual I just get the typical "oh you're just trying to get attention". I hate the stigma against being bisexual and I try to do my part to erase that stigma, but I can't handle the mental abuse that comes with the orientation, as selfish as that may sound.
06/15/2013