When did you come out as bisexual?

StrawberryEve StrawberryEve
I realized I was bisexual when I was in 8th grade (13) but stayed quiet about it until I felt completely comfortable (18). I'm more happy now that I've come out than I have been in a long time.
09/23/2010
clp clp
My friends have known for a long time, since I first started kissing girls (usually discreetly) when I was... I don't know, probably in second grade. I never really cared who knew as far as peers, but I was afraid of what my family would say.

My family learned when I was 22, when I brought my girlfriend home for the holidays. It was pretty bad--my dad and I were in the car and I was listening to Hedwig and the Angry Inch when I felt COMPELLED to confess. That's right. I came out with 'Origin of Love' playing in the background. Sigh. I'm such a showboat.
09/25/2010
nicnak89 nicnak89
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I came out to my family in my preteens (12), but I didn't go too public about it til I was 13 or 14. I had my first serious relationship with a woman when I was 16. The odd thing is, I think I had always known about it even as a little kid. I remember having a crush on a girl that was in the 5th grade...and I was in kindergarten. I still remember her name...Jessica. hehe
09/25/2010
Bon Bon Bon Bon
As soon as I knew, I didn't try to hide it. Well, as far as friends went, anyway. I kept it from my parents. Then the middle school called my mom and told her there were rumors that I was dating a girl, and she confronted me about it. I denied it, but she knew from that point on. The next time I asked if I could go hang out with a girl, she flat out asked me if the girl was my girlfriend, and I admitted it. Guess I never really got to "come out" in the traditional sense.
09/28/2010
SiNn SiNn
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I came to the realization That I prefered both men and women when i was a teenager but i never said much untille i met mynow fiancee who i adore and wouldnt trade for the world my mom was very religious and my dad was very open I think i never said anything because mybusiness is just that my own now how ever im very open with all that i am
10/08/2010
Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
I'm actually pan sexual but I first came out to my parents as Bi Sexual before I knew that there was another term for what I was. :3

I was 18 years old and leaving home.
10/24/2010
Madeira Madeira
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I came out as bisexual when I was 12. My dad was fine, my mother said "It's just a phase," and you know what, she was right. I'm a lesbian.
10/24/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Red
Now see, why did I not have neighbours like that?
I had neighbours like that, but my mom never caught me.
10/24/2010
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
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Originally posted by Madeira
I came out as bisexual when I was 12. My dad was fine, my mother said "It's just a phase," and you know what, she was right. I'm a lesbian.
That's awesome.
10/24/2010
Raggedy Andie Raggedy Andie
When I was 7 or so I fooled around with my best friend at the time and I liked it. I still think about it. I guess I came out at 19. My dad and my sisters on his side know. They don't care one way or another. One of my sisters is also bisexual. My family on my mother's side don't know, at least we have never had a conversation about it. I am kind of estranged from them that way. They may have some idea but now that I am 31 I don't feel the need to bring it up unless they were to ask me. Most of my friends know (actually I think all of my friends know) and are fine with it. It's my out-laws that would have a shit-fit if they found out. They would undoubtedly think I was corrupting their son. They are VERY christain and very close-minded. Mind you, I am not going to hide who I am and if asked a direct question, I will answer honestly.
10/24/2010
Tart Tart
I tagged along to a gay-straight alliance type group during my freshman year of college with a friend who had come out as bisexual. As an ice-breaker each member of the group pronounced their sexual orientation if they felt comfortable. After a moment of contemplation I blurted that I was bisexual. It felt really freeing to finally say it out loud. Especially to a group of people who wouldn't judge me for it.
10/26/2010
SXEKAT SXEKAT
In the beginning I was scared that I'd get yelled or attacked by people I knew and loved but slowly but surely it went well. I came out to friends at 16-17, my Mother, Uncle, Aunt I came out or rather in this case my sister outed me recently this year but It went well. I'm really open about my Bisexuality. I mean for some I have to keep quiet but when the moment comes I'm an open book
10/31/2010
BooBadKittyFunk BooBadKittyFunk
I was 18 when I came out of the closet after being accused of being a lesbian by a so-called female friend. I've known that I was bisexual since I was 14 but never did anything until I was 18. Most know of my sexual orientation, I told my parents after a 3 hour long talk with my mom whom happens to be homophobic so I felt I had to fib a little. I told her that I wasn't "practicing" but that I am bisexual. She would disown me if she knew the truth. She's very religious and believes what all the bible thumpers believe. I believe that we all make our own choices.
11/03/2010
thegoldilocksincident thegoldilocksincident
The only person I've properly come out to was my bff when I was 17. I'm sort of in a glass closet now. I don't make any effort to hide it, but no one talks about it. At all. Ever. I'm pretty sure my family thinks if they ignore it it'll go away.
11/07/2010
Kristina Osgood Kristina Osgood
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I never really came out...it's like my parents and family just knew how i was and automatically accepted it. my aunt is a lesbian so maybe that has helped. I am married to a man and yes he knows that I am attracted to woman as well but also knows that i am very much in love with him. i discovered my sexuality at a young age...being a curious young women i decided to flip through my older brothers dirty magazines and liked seeing the women more than men. i guess it was accidental but maybe thats why for me its so easy. its just part of who i am and i accepted that a long time ago...
11/11/2010
Faith Faith
I came out at 17. Couldn't ignore the fact that I started to look at my friend in totally different way... that attraction was overwhelming. Denial was not option for the first time in my life. Anyway, I'm now 23 and have been with that "friend" since the time I came out. Most of my family members are cool with it and love my gf, the other half are still in denial. :/
11/14/2010
MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
came out openly to my lady friend two days ago.


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12/06/2010
SingingStarr SingingStarr
I was 14 when I came out to both my mother and one brother (my dad and the rest of my family still don't know.) by telling my mom that I was going to homecoming with a girl. She was then my girlfriend, but has since become a really good friend. My mom asked if we were going as friends, and I said "no, mom, we're dating." Probably wasn't the smartest idea ever, as she was in the kitchen chopping things up for dinner.
12/07/2010
darkkitty darkkitty
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I was a teen
12/08/2010
TheNuTz TheNuTz
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
No far i cant vote. I'm straight only!
12/16/2010
Lady Neshamah Lady Neshamah
i think i was about 14
12/17/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by KinkyShay
I'm curious. I was outwardly heterosexual until I was 34. It was only within a community of like-minded people, where I felt comfortable and safe, did I come out as being attracted to women. For me it was a hell of a lot of religious ... More
I was prolly 16 or so
12/18/2010
anonymouse anonymouse
I came out when I was 15. Some girl called me a dyke, I fought her, and had to tell my parents why.
12/23/2010
lamira lamira
I did when I was 16. Most people were somewhat surprised, but they somewhat knew and were fine with it.
01/07/2011
Zerudahime Zerudahime
(Her.) I came out about it when I was 17, but I had been interested in both sexes as long as I could remember. I'm glad I did it only a year before I graduated and left my hometown, as it really hurt my reputation and created quite a few problems with my family.
01/08/2011
Bobbear41 Bobbear41
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Originally posted by Red
I'm not totally out. I mean, I think everyone knows, but I don't think I've ever made a formal announcement anywhere and I've never had to face up to this issue as I'm married to a male partner who is with me at major life events ... More
Hello Red,
Your post made me think.. Am I totally out? Like you I never made a formal announcement. All the important people know. I'm also poly so all existing and future lovers know or will know. As far as being out, there are situations, such as at work, where it's not appropriate to even be asked, so I don't say. If anyone asked me directly I'd tell the truth though. For instance, last Summer I went to a movie preview with two lovers (both female and both movie buffs). I undoubtedly was affectionate with both of them and touched them both intimately. The next day at work I was confronted by a group of coworkers from a bunch of different departments who wanted to know why I had two girlfriends... Clearly an inappropriate thing to ask someone at work but I think came from honest curiosity instead of malice. Because I didn't think it was an appropriate thing to discuss in the office (no one's business, right?) and because I do have to work with all those folks, I played it off and said something about being a stud and went about my business. Being poly, I'm sure you know that's not what it's about. I hid behind the stereotype..
01/08/2011
Eliza Eliza
I grew up in Catholic school and had no idea liking women was even an option. When I got into high school my best friends were gay and bi, and they opened my eyes. I came out to them around 16. I didn't come out to my parents till I was 19, in college, because I wasn't living in their house anymore.
01/10/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
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Originally posted by NymphetamineKiss
I was 17. With my mom it was right after a row in the car about her attitude toward bisexuality. With my dad, it was when I'd began dating my first girlfriend, stil aged 17.

In fact I have an article on Eden Cafe called "The Best of ... More
I came out to my mom the same way!
01/13/2011
BadassFatass BadassFatass
I came out to my friends at the age of 13 or 14...and then to my mom at 16. The rest of my family found out when I brought a girl home at 18. They were all strangely accepting.
01/13/2011
Alura Une Alura Une
I think of myself as simply being attracted to who I am attracted to? But I could maybe say that I'm bi-sexual. But no one really needs to know in my case. I've been in a heterosexual relationship with a male for over a decade. It's not like one can just put feelings aside, but these feelings don't really interfere with things too much.

I think things have kind of come out in things I've said to people, art they have seen. I think that if I were single again, I would keep women as an option as much as men. If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't make an announcement about my sexual preferences. I'd let it be known by just introducing her or letting her slip into conversations frequently--the same way it became known I was dating guys. My family would probably be nice but might be mildly upset. They'd probably tolerate it more than an interracial relationship. I don't understand them sometimes...
01/13/2011
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