When to use the term bi-sexual?

Winifred Winifred
Can someone call themselves bi-sexual even if they are way more experienced sexually with one gender than the other?
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Yes
62  (98%)
No
Other (please explain)
1  (2%)
Total votes: 63
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12/28/2012
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cricket cricket
Yes of course
12/28/2012
kadelette kadelette
Definitely! Bisexuality rarely means 50/50.
12/28/2012
Septimus Septimus
What a person chooses to call themselves is a personal choice, and shouldn't really depend on their level of experience!
12/30/2012
fizzygato fizzygato
Bisexuality seems like a cissexist false ideal, like it seems inconsiderate of all other genders , to me, implies just cis male and cis female, and I might say inconsiderate of intersex people, but that would also seem very imposing-labels-upon-o thers'-bodies/ deterministic; that's how "bisexuality" in general seems to operate, anyway

Idk... I think I am skeptical of all who call themselves bisexual
12/30/2012
MrWill MrWill
Horrible analogy here, but I'll throw it out anyway: A bicycle that has spent most of it's "life" doing wheelies is still called a BIcycle. It still has two wheels, and they are both important parts of the bicycle as a whole.
01/09/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by Winifred
Can someone call themselves bi-sexual even if they are way more experienced sexually with one gender than the other?
You can be whoever you want!
01/13/2013
marriedlady123 marriedlady123
Quote:
Originally posted by Septimus
What a person chooses to call themselves is a personal choice, and shouldn't really depend on their level of experience!
Whatever they feel works for them!
01/14/2013
anonymous1298304 anonymous1298304
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Originally posted by fizzygato
Bisexuality seems like a cissexist false ideal, like it seems inconsiderate of all other genders , to me, implies just cis male and cis female, and I might say inconsiderate of intersex people, but that would also seem very imposing-labels-upon-o ... More
ah. the debate of pansexual vs bisexual. because yes "bi" being attracted to two genders. (attracted to male and female, cis or not imo)whereas I feel pansexual is the ability to be attracted to the whole gender spectrum. I only recently learned the term pansexual.
01/15/2013
falalena falalena
Quote:
Originally posted by Winifred
Can someone call themselves bi-sexual even if they are way more experienced sexually with one gender than the other?
i have not yet had an experience with another girl, but it is very difficult growing up in a very small, very conservative state. despite this, i consider myself bisexual.
01/19/2013
Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
Yes, its not about experience. Its about preferences.
01/19/2013
InnocentIchigo InnocentIchigo
Quote:
Originally posted by Winifred
Can someone call themselves bi-sexual even if they are way more experienced sexually with one gender than the other?
Of course. You're free to love who you love. No one's out there to keep an exact count of either gender you've been involved with.
01/21/2013
ShinySuicide ShinySuicide
Experience doesn't always mean everything.. doesn't change how a person feels.
02/07/2013
satinlady550 satinlady550
Quote:
Originally posted by Winifred
Can someone call themselves bi-sexual even if they are way more experienced sexually with one gender than the other?
yes
02/07/2013
Violet October Violet October
YES.
I knew I was bisexual before I had ANY experience with either gender.
02/10/2013
I Am Sherlocked I Am Sherlocked
Yes, of course. You can identify as bisexual even if you've only had experience with one gender, or NEITHER. Many people who identify as bisexual often lean more towards one gender or the other- but not always! It's all about preference.
02/12/2013
Ilmenskie Ilmenskie
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Originally posted by fizzygato
Bisexuality seems like a cissexist false ideal, like it seems inconsiderate of all other genders , to me, implies just cis male and cis female, and I might say inconsiderate of intersex people, but that would also seem very imposing-labels-upon-o ... More
I can't see how identifying as bi automatically implies only attraction to cis males and cis females. That's like saying "I'm straight so I'm only attracted to cis-women" Trans men and women are men and women, there's no alternative label for being attracted to someone who happens to be (binary identified) trans.

I've seen people stating that they're bisexual when they are open to romantic and sexual relationships with more than just men and women but because that's still a new concept to people, it can be exhausting explaining every time someone asks your sexual preference. (I often tell people I'm bisexual to avoid a lengthy discussion but I don't feel like bisexual fits me so if I think I can get away with it, I usually go with pansexual or "half-gay")

Also, some people are attracted to very masculine people and very feminine people but not really androgynous and they find "bi" a better label to fit them.

That's not to say that every person who identifies as bisexual isn't being cissexist but it's a widely known term and for many people it feels like a fit to how they perceive their attraction to others and if that's what works for them, then it's not up to us to impose labels on their identity.
02/13/2013
Hoshigetsu Hoshigetsu
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Originally posted by MrWill
Horrible analogy here, but I'll throw it out anyway: A bicycle that has spent most of it's "life" doing wheelies is still called a BIcycle. It still has two wheels, and they are both important parts of the bicycle as a whole.
I couldn't agree with MrWilly's analogy. The fact is if someone has been with both genders, or even attracted to both, then they are bisexual.
02/13/2013
JennSenn JennSenn
Yes. I like MrWilly and Hedgehugs' explanations.
02/13/2013
dks210 dks210
Sure! You can identify however you want. You don't have to be experienced to identify as "straight," so it shouldn't matter.
02/14/2013
Hot4You Hot4You
Of course. People can call themselves whatever they want.
02/22/2013
LoganAshlee. LoganAshlee.
Yeah. Sexuality is about your preference not experience. You wouldn't call someone Asexual if they were a virgin
02/24/2013
altheasmarnella altheasmarnella
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Originally posted by LoganAshlee.
Yeah. Sexuality is about your preference not experience. You wouldn't call someone Asexual if they were a virgin
Exactly!!!
02/27/2013
Gdom Gdom
For sure. I'm bi despite not having been with a guy before. Sexual orientation is all about attraction and what categories of people someone *would* have sex with or be attracted to under the right circumstances. As someone else said, you're not asexual until you've had sex. Likewise, you can be bi without ever having sex with someone of the same biological sex.
02/27/2013
altheasmarnella altheasmarnella
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Originally posted by altheasmarnella
Exactly!!!
I had so many lesbians tell me I couldn't be bi if I hadn't had sex with a woman...they would only allow me to have the label, "bicurious" wtf? if I know what I know...then I am
no one would tell a heterosexual woman that she was just curious about men if she was a virgin!

LoganAshlee...ur so right on this one!
03/09/2013
oneeyedoctopus oneeyedoctopus
It's about attraction not experience
05/10/2013
quantumspork quantumspork
Definitely about desire, not experience. One problem I have is that I desire different bodies and genders pretty much equally, but it's a hell of a lot easier finding straight men to have sex with than anyone else, so my experience is vastly skewed towards men.

Also, I call myself bisexual and happily hook up with nonbinary people. Make of that what you will.
05/13/2013
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