Cheating

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Do you consider it cheating if your spouse is with someone of the same sex?
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17  (8%)
Total votes: 211
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08/09/2011
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KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
It doesn't matter if its a guy a girl, if you sleep with someone its cheating.
08/09/2011
Endocott Endocott
I've given my girlfriend permission to go play with girls. She's curious, and if she never figures out that curiosity, that could hurt us long-term.
08/09/2011
Elnoa Elnoa
If your partner does not consent to you engaging in sex with another person, it is considered cheating.
08/10/2011
thebest thebest
yes
08/10/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
There's still feelings involved no matter what sex they are. So yes it's still classed as cheating in my opinion unless the partner is happy for it to happen!
08/10/2011
Yaoi Pervette (deleted) Yaoi Pervette (deleted)
It's still a matter of one's partner going behind one's back, so yes.
08/10/2011
MaryExy MaryExy
Quote:
Originally posted by Endocott
I've given my girlfriend permission to go play with girls. She's curious, and if she never figures out that curiosity, that could hurt us long-term.
If given permission, I don't think sex with another person counts as cheating, regardless of gender. Some guys don't give consent for their girlfriends to go play with other girls.
08/10/2011
married with children married with children
sexual contact is sexual contact.
08/11/2011
emiliaa emiliaa
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
If your partner does not consent to you engaging in sex with another person, it is considered cheating.
This...
08/11/2011
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by sexybutterfly
Do you consider it cheating if your spouse is with someone of the same sex?
my better half and i have an openr elationship so for us it isnt cheating only time its cheating is if we dont know about it
08/11/2011
indiglo indiglo
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
If your partner does not consent to you engaging in sex with another person, it is considered cheating.
Exactly. I never understood the idea that it doesn't count if it's with someone of the same sex.
08/11/2011
aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
totally. he's never expressed interest in guys, expressed NO interest in guys, rather, and i would be so hurt that he'd lie about a facet of his life that was so huge. i'd also be hurt if he didnt think he could share it with me. i share everything with him.

he's made it clear that he's into us having a 3some with another girl, and has said that if i want/need to have a thing with the girl before the 3 of us get together it's okay (i'm the one searching for her, he's too shy) but to make sure to tell him i'm planning on it, or that it may happen, first. and give him all the details. and invite him next time. i think i might still feel a bit like i was cheating. alas, no girl has showed herself worthy enough yet. we'll see.


it's cheating if you havent made it clear in your relationship that it's okay. it's up to your relationship's specified boundaries. cheating is about lying, hiding. if those two things are involved, consider yourself a cheater. or cheated on.

08/11/2011
PassionCpl PassionCpl
Quote:
Originally posted by sexybutterfly
Do you consider it cheating if your spouse is with someone of the same sex?
If you don't have permission then yes, it's absolutely cheating. I've read plenty of posts in other forums where (often girls) will say that it's not cheating, they're getting something they're not getting from their husband/boyfriend, but what if your husband wants to get something he's not getting from you - like a different blowjob technique/willingness to get kinky/just kiss differently? What if a straight woman wants to sleep with a different guy because she wants a bigger cock or wants to try a hairy guy or someone of a different race? It's still something different than you're getting from your relationship.

My thought is this: If you're bisexual then sleeping with the same sex is no different (when it comes to cheating) than sleeping with the opposite sex. You're still doing it for reasons of attraction.
09/05/2011
Rossie Rossie
It doesn't matter what gender the thirty party is, as long as it's done behind the partner's back, it's considered as cheating.
09/05/2011
sktb0007 sktb0007
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
If your partner does not consent to you engaging in sex with another person, it is considered cheating.
This is how I feel as well
09/05/2011
JRabbits JRabbits
Cheating is cheating, there's no painting it any other way.
09/06/2011
RonLee RonLee
It would be great if it were ok but it isn't and my SO just isn't "down" with that.
Dang it!
09/23/2011
unfulfilled unfulfilled
Its cheating when the other partner in the relationship isnt aware of what is going on regardless of same or different sex partners.
09/24/2011
mistre$$ mistre$$
Quote:
Originally posted by Elnoa
If your partner does not consent to you engaging in sex with another person, it is considered cheating.
Yep.
09/24/2011
Beaners Beaners
I dont think this has anything to do with whether it's same or opposite sex. If it's behind my back, it's cheating. I don't know why my boyfriend would ever feel the need to go behind my back. If he approaches me about a guy, I'll usually tell him to go for it. Girls are off limits though.
09/24/2011
domsub1993 domsub1993
Quote:
Originally posted by sexybutterfly
Do you consider it cheating if your spouse is with someone of the same sex?
Absolutely yes!
09/24/2011
vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Just going ahead with "someone the opposite sex as I am" here... and yes. It doesn't matter who it's with - it's the dishonesty.
09/24/2011
LibertyGirl LibertyGirl
Yes, of course it's cheating. Unless, of course, your partner feels differently for some reason. I think this question presupposes binary gender. I would like to see a more fluid definition of gender take over.
09/25/2011
emilia emilia
yes
10/13/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
Oh yes, for sure!
10/13/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I do, but my boyfriend doesn't.
10/15/2011
EvilHomer EvilHomer
Sex is sex no matter what gender it is, sex outside of a relationship with permission is cheating.
10/15/2011
Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
gender doesn't matter. It's the violation of trust.
10/16/2011
Sinfully Sinfully
If its kept a secret than yes.
10/16/2011
Total posts: 121
Unique posters: 111