Do you think that coming out is important? I'm out, but I never really came out. Why do I need to come out, but someone who identifies as straight doesn't? I think heteronormativity is a very large issue, by needing to come out, we are saying that one must be assumed straight unless told otherwise.
Do you think that coming out is important?
04/26/2012
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I can see your point with this. I don't think coming out is part of heteronormativity. It's part of discovering yourself, and putting yourself out there, instead of being stowed away in a closet somewhere. It's just a growing experiance. Heterosexuals don't have this spiritual experiance, and therefor lack one of the most transforming things that can happen in one's life.
04/27/2012
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I so agreed with what you said about coming out being spiritually transformative. I've never heard it descprbed that way, but it is 100% accurate for me.
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Bittenflame
I can see your point with this. I don't think coming out is part of heteronormativity. It's part of discovering yourself, and putting yourself out there, instead of being stowed away in a closet somewhere. It's just a growing experiance.
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I can see your point with this. I don't think coming out is part of heteronormativity. It's part of discovering yourself, and putting yourself out there, instead of being stowed away in a closet somewhere. It's just a growing experiance. Heterosexuals don't have this spiritual experiance, and therefor lack one of the most transforming things that can happen in one's life.
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Coming out makes you vulnerable, especially if you are in a relationship with someone.
When coming out to family, if they reject you sexuality, they are also rejecting the love you have for your partner.
It takes a lot of spiritual strength to put yourself in that position.
05/01/2012
It all depends on the person. Everyone is different. Everyone's priorities are different.
As of now, I don't intend to come out to my family as trigender/pansexual or whatever. Even though my sexuality and gender expression are huge parts of me, they wouldn't understand, and some things are just better left unsaid. I don't mind telling my friends if the subject comes up, though. I choose my friends, but I can't choose my family. I love them and they love me, but I'm not going to pretend that my coming out wouldn't cause a rift between us. Likewise, if they knew I was pro-choice, pro gay marriage, or in an open marriage, they would flip.
As of now, I don't intend to come out to my family as trigender/pansexual or whatever. Even though my sexuality and gender expression are huge parts of me, they wouldn't understand, and some things are just better left unsaid. I don't mind telling my friends if the subject comes up, though. I choose my friends, but I can't choose my family. I love them and they love me, but I'm not going to pretend that my coming out wouldn't cause a rift between us. Likewise, if they knew I was pro-choice, pro gay marriage, or in an open marriage, they would flip.
05/01/2012
i don't feel as if it should really be an issue... it's not really anyone's business what a person's sexuality is unless that person wants them to know.
05/01/2012
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I think it's simply important to be true to yourself. I don't think that you should hide yourself, but I understand why people do.
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Do you think that coming out is important? I'm out, but I never really came out. Why do I need to come out, but someone who identifies as straight doesn't? I think heteronormativity is a very large issue, by needing to come out, we are saying
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Do you think that coming out is important? I'm out, but I never really came out. Why do I need to come out, but someone who identifies as straight doesn't? I think heteronormativity is a very large issue, by needing to come out, we are saying that one must be assumed straight unless told otherwise.
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05/01/2012
If I were In a relationship I would share, but w/ just me solo, eh, at this point only a few people know. When I was married to a man I didn't talk about my heterosexualness either. I do talk about me being sexual because I hope others learn about their own bodies & the treasure we have!!
06/04/2012
I want to clarify that my orientation is no secret. I'm very open. I meant more the idea of an event, or rather a reaction to the assumption. I;m sorry, I'm not articulating well.
10/18/2012
I think that coming out opens doors. But when it comes to safety and security then I wouldnt want to force anyone.
10/18/2012
I'm not in the closet but I never really had any 'coming out' moments. If it comes up in a conversations, like talking about relationships, someone is bound to notice that I say she instead of he and other things like that. My friend all know, but for everyone else, I figure if they don't know they're just not paying attention.
02/08/2013
It depends on the person. If a person is comfortable with coming out and views it as something they want to make a big deal out of, then go for it. If a person doesn't view it as such a huge thing and would rather bring up their queerness casually, then that's fine too.
02/11/2013
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