Do you like the term "gold star"?

PassionCpl PassionCpl
Doesn't bother me in the least, although it seems that people are coming out with more and more new terms for things that aren't really necessary.
10/18/2011
Vanille Vanille
-shrug- Virgin works better for me. Rather not complicate things with unnecessary terms.
10/18/2011
Rhazya Rhazya
I guess whether or not you find the use of the term "gold star" offensive, would throw back as to how you personally feel regarding being gay is/is not a choice.
10/18/2011
oldhippy oldhippy
I have to refer back to the use of "gold star" from elementary school as a reward for a completed work; eg:"Got a gold star on the paper". It seems a rather childish way to refer to anyone, but then again, I feel the same way about the term "gay". Trying to classify people at all rather than just accepting them for who they are is just plain stupid and doesn't do anyone any good.
10/18/2011
vanillaSpice vanillaSpice
Stupid idea. You're not better or worse for having boinked someone with different bits.
10/20/2011
AmberM AmberM
First time i've ever heard the term, unsure of if i like it or not.
10/21/2011
emilia emilia
Never heard it before and I hate it
10/22/2011
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
I'm hetero and even I find it rather offensive. People in the gay community shouldn't be trying to out gay each other with meaningless labels.
10/22/2011
big b big b
never heard the term
10/22/2011
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by CherryDyke
Gold star: A woman or man who has never had sex with someone of the opposite gender.

I'm not asking if you have a problem with people who FIT this category, but if the uses THIS specific term for it worries you and why.
Yeah I don't like that term. It's like implying they got an A-Plus or something.

I can't tell whether it means the person 'did good' because they didn't have gay or bisexual sex, or whether the person who first takes their 'same sex cherry' gets a gold star for the effort?
10/25/2011
Girly Girl Girly Girl
i never heard of this
10/25/2011
Kitka Kitka
I'm another one who's never heard of this term before now.
10/25/2011
zz1aag zz1aag
Quote:
Originally posted by CherryDyke
Gold star: A woman or man who has never had sex with someone of the opposite gender.

I'm not asking if you have a problem with people who FIT this category, but if the uses THIS specific term for it worries you and why.
proud goldstar lesbian
11/01/2011
LowFreqFreak LowFreqFreak
Quote:
Originally posted by chicken12
I've heard it twice before this.

To me, it seems a bit bi-phobic. Bisexuals probably have the least acceptance, because they're viewed as gay by the heterosexual community, but they're also viewed unfavorably in the homosexual ... More
I had never heard the term before. I'm 100% with what chicken12 posted. Nailed it perfectly IMO.
11/01/2011
Clandestine Clandestine
I can't say I've ever heard the term used in such a way... Though it does make me feel special somehow. (Like a gold star sticker.)
Granted, I've not had sex with a man, either... What sort of sticker do virgins get, anyway? Diamond? Platinum?

...Now it just sounds like credit cards. Too many labels.
11/02/2011
Gingy Gingy
it seems judgmental
12/05/2011
LilLostLenore LilLostLenore
never heard that term for that. but it doesnt bother me.
12/06/2011
nori nori
I don't like it. It doesn't make them any better or any worse than anyone else.
12/07/2011
ginainohio ginainohio
i hate lables
08/10/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I don't like the term because I feel it gives some kind of crown to those who fit into such a rare standard. I know in the lesbian community, if a woman's been with a guy, they are sometimes frowned upon and you'd be surprised at how quickly lesbians can bully other lesbians because they are not "gold stars." I don't like this kind of lingo or standard and feel it shouldn't even exist.
08/10/2012
Gdom Gdom
I've never heard the term either, but given its fairly clear heteronormative baggage ("gold stars" connote good/preferred things and prioritizing heterosexual sex over homosexual or other non-heterosexual sex is not cool), I'm not a fan.
08/10/2012
novanilla novanilla
just another way for people who exclusively like the same sex to make bisexuals and other queers feel unwelcome...
08/11/2012
Lucifer the Cat Lucifer the Cat
I freakin HATE it. Ugh. It totally delegitimizes my sexual orientation, as a dyke who's been with cis-men in the past. It turns sexuality into a competition, which it shouldn't be (unless, you know, it's consensual... ).
08/11/2012
Danneh Danneh
Quote:
Originally posted by Rawhide
I'm not fond of this term.

I have no problem with people who have had exclusively homosexual experiences, and I see no harm if they want to tell others about that part of their history.

However, the term "gold star" is ... More
This.
08/11/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by CherryDyke
Gold star: A woman or man who has never had sex with someone of the opposite gender.

I'm not asking if you have a problem with people who FIT this category, but if the uses THIS specific term for it worries you and why.
Nope, I find the term ridiculous.
08/11/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I really don't like it.
08/11/2012
J5ive J5ive
never heard of it before
08/11/2012
marshmallow marshmallow
Don't really like it.
08/12/2012
zeebot zeebot
I don't like it at ALL. Screw bi/pan shaming!
08/27/2012
aluminummm aluminummm
BARF BARF BARF I HATE THIS GOLD STAR BULLSHIT SO SO SO MUCH

I'm queer, although I tenuously identified as straight and dated/fucked cis-het men in the past. It took me a really long time to accept and be open about my queerness in large part because I was worried I would never be "queer enough" being a "spoiled star." Fuck that shaming bullshit.
08/27/2012
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