I am a very femme lesbian. My fiance has a faux hawk and wears mens clothes. I tend to surprise people when they find out that I am lesbian. I am a school teacher, and not many of the other faculty at my school even know, except for the other lesbian teacher and the two teachers we hang out with outside of work.
I know that in today's society, and especially in my line of work, it would cause me more bad than good to be "out" at work. But that is why I am seen as a professional. I leave my work at work, and my home life at home.
It is very hard, and sometimes quite sad, but I am generally happy.
Except when a coworker tries to fix me up with her eligible male friend.....