How do you feel about the use of "queer" as a label of sexuality?

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How do you feel about the use of "queer" as a label of sexuality?

mmike1900 mmike1900
To me, the word queer is as offensive as the word cracker. Honestly, the people who are strongly offended by certain labels, such as queer, fag, or even nigger, tend to make it worse. The ones who are offended usually overreact. Those melodramatic reactions are the reason those labels still have intense, negative connotations. If you keep thinking those words are hateful, then they are always going to feel hateful.
07/16/2011
The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
It definitely depends on the context.
07/20/2011
Miss Nessa Miss Nessa
I kinda think its offensive
07/20/2011
NothingPerfect NothingPerfect
I could be old-fashioned but I feel that queer is just one of those terms that really speaks for itself based on how it is used.

If it is used by a bigot, it is offensive. If a friend of mine calls me queer (I am an air-head)then I would just chuckle and ask what I did that was strange. Of course it could be used to describe my sexuality, but I don't really mind it all that much.

It offends me much more when I see "gay" being mis-used.
07/22/2011
Kdlips Kdlips
Don't care
07/23/2011
BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by NothingPerfect
I could be old-fashioned but I feel that queer is just one of those terms that really speaks for itself based on how it is used.

If it is used by a bigot, it is offensive. If a friend of mine calls me queer (I am an air-head)then I would just ...
It's okay to be Takei.
07/23/2011
anonymouse anonymouse
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Originally posted by LostBoy988
In general there are way too many labels at this point.
You said it best.
07/24/2011
AmberM AmberM
I think the label can go either way, depending on the person using it.
07/29/2011
Kkay Kkay
I think reclamation is valid. I personally identify as genderqueer, and I use queer as a catch-all term. I would be uncomfortable with someone who wasn't part of the QUILTBAG community using it demeaningly.
07/29/2011
Kkay Kkay
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
It's okay to be Takei.
You deserve a cookie.
07/29/2011
Puss in Boots Puss in Boots
I think it's great. However, I don't see it used as a catch-all term as you described. The people I know who consider themselves queer do not think they fit in any of the other "categories". They just know they aren't cis and/or straight.
07/31/2011
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Kkay
I think reclamation is valid. I personally identify as genderqueer, and I use queer as a catch-all term. I would be uncomfortable with someone who wasn't part of the QUILTBAG community using it demeaningly.
Shouldn't you be uncomfortable with anyone using it demeaningly?
07/31/2011
Kkay Kkay
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Originally posted by Ansley
Shouldn't you be uncomfortable with anyone using it demeaningly?
"Should" and "are" are two different things, and I've found should to be of very limited use in all aspects of life. I've seen people who identify as queer use it in a way that would be an insult if used by someone else, and I don't personally have a problem with it. I can see where others would, but I don't.
08/01/2011
oldhippy oldhippy
I am one of those people that has a problem with "labels" anymore. I have lived in a world of labels for a long time, and I am beginning to wonder why we need so many. Why to we need to label everyone with a tag for everything. All it does is seperate us more and more into smaller and smaller groups. Instead of being humans we now have to be placed inso specific boxes with this label and that label as if that truely defines who or what we are. I had the same problem when I was working for some of my employers. I was a person, rather than a job title. My jobs no longer define who I am, I define who I am, and I refuse to fit into your boxes.
08/01/2011
Gingy Gingy
to many ways to label a homosexual
08/03/2011
Wednesday Wednesday
I don't see an issue with people calling themselves that, it just annoys me how many lables there are now. Pansexual, metrosexual...stop making up words, lets stick to good old LGBT, please? It makes things easier when you don't need to explain yourself
08/03/2011
Twitch Twitch
i'm reclaiming it.
08/31/2011
CherryDyke CherryDyke
In order for it to not be offensive, it must be being used for oneself, or on the request of someone else, and in a reclaimed way.
08/31/2011
Rainbow Boy Rainbow Boy
I don't like it. It means "strange," and I don't see that as being positive. Now, if someone personally likes to use it for themselves, then that's okay. It's their choice.
12/04/2011
Cherrylane Cherrylane
It depends on who is saying it and why/how they're saying it that determines whether it's offensive.

For better or worse, I usually interpret it as the gender/sexuality equivalent of "it's complicated" and ask no further questions.
12/04/2011
skippywashere skippywashere
It depends on the person, but I see it as an umbrella term that I don't personally use.
01/26/2013
Avant-garde Avant-garde
I never really thought about it so I don't have much of an opinion on it.
01/26/2013
jfree jfree
It depends on the situation. I prefer it for myself because it's easier that a long list of the kind of people I'm interested in, but it's definitely not a label to toss around willy-nilly.
01/27/2013
FlashFuchsia FlashFuchsia
I personally don't like to be called queer. Queer is a word that means "strange" or "odd" and I don't think being gay is strange nor odd at all.
01/27/2013
falalena falalena
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Originally posted by hornypoet69
I have heard a lot of debate about this, so I was wondering what you all here think. Queer was originally used as an offensive term for gay people, but in recent years, it has come to be more of a label of pride for some. But not everyone can ...
i dont say it.
01/27/2013
katat katat
people need to stop caring so much about labels
01/27/2013
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by katat
people need to stop caring so much about labels
True but context really does make a difference.
There are times to smile and wink and times to beat the fuck out of who said it. I'm versatile I can do either.
01/27/2013
novanilla novanilla
I like queer. Although primarily attracted to women, I occasionally am attracted to men, and saying queer is better for me than saying bisexual, which just really is not me. Sometimes I say I am for simplicity, but queer is just so much better.
01/27/2013
wildshores wildshores
i don't mind it as a word people use to define their sexuality
i don't use it for myself and i don't really like people calling all lgbt people queer
because it is still a slur and it still stings
reclamation in these cases is very personal, make sure your own reclaiming doesn't hurt someone else who's on a different path than you
01/28/2013
purpledesert purpledesert
It's a great way to self-identify if you don't fit any other specific LGBT labels, preventing exclusion, and it's functional as an umbrella term.
01/28/2013
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