How much should kids know.

lukymami lukymami 04/13/2012

How much do children need to know about the gay/lesbian community?

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lukymami lukymami
Too many people don't inform their children of important things for life, this is one of them.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results): children know the facts
SubmissiveFeminist , P'Gell , VelvetDragon , Nazaress , oldman , mat , Hekate101 , junipersgame , Master DarkWolf , Rossie , ksparkles16 , Ghost , Jewlickah , Falsepast
14  (52%)
No...that is not something we discuss
If they ask then we will talk about it.
funluvinmama , unfulfilled , sktb0007 , DiamondKoala , Secret Pleasure , deltalima , True Pleasures , BlooJay , hatman , TheParrishism , Ice1 , MissCandyland , P3ngu1n78
13  (48%)
Total votes: 27
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SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I voted yes. I do not have kids but if I do, they will be raised with an open-mind. I am pansexual, and I do see myself ending up with someone of the same sex. No matter who I end up with, I will be open with my children about sexuality and hope they feel comfortable telling me about their own or accepting the orientation of others.
funluvinmama funluvinmama
My kids are only 7 and 9. They are not old enough to worry about sexual orientation yet, so I don't go out of my way to point people out and explain why they are the way they are. I will however if they ask, let them know what they want to know.
unfulfilled unfulfilled
My kids are 3 and 5 so they're not old enough to know the facts.
Nazaress Nazaress
I don't have children but I would tell them the facts. There is nothing wrong with the gay community and they are no different from the straight community so there's no reason to keep this information from them.
ghalik ghalik
I have no children, but if/when I do they'll be raised to be loud and proud of "having two mommies" or whatever the situation happens to be. I also would not raise children in a place that was not LGBTQ-friendly because I know how easily kids are hurt by teasing and prejudices and etc.
oldman oldman
I have to clarify that our youngest is now 25!!!
DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
Not yet, but eventually I intend to tell them everything I understand about it in the way that is as clearly objective to them as possible and allow them to develop their own ideas about it.
mat mat
They'll need to know why they have two grandmas on my girlfriend's side.
Hekate101 Hekate101
Two of my aunts are gay, my sister's bi, and a big pile of my friends are gay. When I have kids I hope they'll accept everyone as equal, without needing the ins and outs of sexual relationships explained.
junipersgame junipersgame
I don't have kids, but I wouldn't hesitate to let them know that love is love - it doesn't matter whether people are of the same or different sexes, as long as they care about each other.

My mother is a lesbian, my uncle is gay, my sister is bi, and I myself am bi. I grew up in a very open-minded and honest house and I like to think I turned out damn fine, in part because of that!
Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
I am bisexual so it is important to me that my daughter be informed but she is only 4 so it will not be intil shes older.
deltalima deltalima
Originally posted by lukymami
Too many people don't inform their children of important things for life, this is one of them.
No kids yet but I'll start when they ask.
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
They are teenagers so they know such things.
True Pleasures True Pleasures
I don't have kids, and never will, but I'd tell them if they ask.
Rossie Rossie
My son's 17 and knows about those information. He hates it when he sees news about gay bullying.
DreamWolf DreamWolf
You left out other, I don't have any kids, only my Master has two lovely ones! ^^
BlooJay BlooJay
I don't have any kids.
CindyH CindyH
my child knows the facts
TheParrishism TheParrishism
Don't hid the facts from your kids, but it isn't a special discussion unless something comes up.
P3ngu1n78 P3ngu1n78
Kids should be told when they ask.
Bex1331 Bex1331
I wish this had an option for people without kids, I would be open with my children but at the same time I dont want to force information on them before they're ready. They would know that many people can love each other no matter their gender, but the sexual component I wouldn't mention until they ask, same as with hetero relationships
hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
I don't have kids yet, but I'm not going to get too into sexual stuff before they start asking questions. When they ask, I'm going to explain "Either, both, or neither" as far as sexuality goes. I'll explain gender variances as they get a bit older.

As is, one of my closest friends is a very open lesbian, many of my friends are bisexual, and at least one friend is trans. I don't think it'll harm the kids to meet Uncle Colin just because he was born Aunt Colleen, or meet Aunt Lily and her partner June.

I don't believe in forcing things down kids throats, but letting them observe the world with a light, guiding hand.
Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Originally posted by unfulfilled
My kids are 3 and 5 so they're not old enough to know the facts.
Hmm, I think that depends on the parent. I am a lesbian with a 6 year old, and he has known an age-appropriate amount about the gay community from a very young age.
Susen Susen
I was raised in church, but due to issues as a kid, still was very aware of sex/sexuality growing up. My mom was the only person who didn't lie or try to frighten me as a child. Still took me til 24 to come out. I would want to provide the same aspect of that for my children. No fear.
Rockasaurus Rockasaurus
I intend to make sure my children know everything they need to know. I don't want them to think there is something wrong with me because I like women, and I don't want them to think they should be a certain way if it isn't who they are.
tigertiger tigertiger
Originally posted by lukymami
Too many people don't inform their children of important things for life, this is one of them.
i don't have kids and acquiring them is not really on my agenda, but if i did have them i would be straight-forward with them about sexuality, and about sex in general. i mean there's no reason to bombard them with enough information to confuse them that they probably wouldn't care about anyway, but i think most things kids ask should be answered honestly
theavocadopit theavocadopit
Originally posted by lukymami
Too many people don't inform their children of important things for life, this is one of them.
Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
I do not have children, but I was extremely surprised when my friends children, ages 11-13, walked up to me and asked some very explicit 'how to' questions. There terminology was spot on.
Where still trying to figure out where they learned those words.
Glad to see that they take there questions to adults, wish more kids felt more comfortable to talk to parents/adults about things during there blooming age.
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Unique posters: 29